Trying to persuade my husband to switch

[agga40s]

Have any of you found that your SO has resisted switching from analogs to e-cigs? My husband has COPD. When I bought my e-cig, I ordered one for him as well. The only time he'll use it is when we go out with non-smoking friends. He still has a couple of cartons of cigs, and teases me that as long as he has them, he's gonna smoke them. I have a feeling when he runs out, he'll just go buy some more.

This drives me nuts, even though I know you can't force anything on anybody. But since I know how much better I feel, I want the same for him, especially considering his COPD. Also, we have a "smoking room" in our house, and I'm dreaming of how it wouldn't smell or be nicotine-nasty if he'd join me.

I'm not hassling him, but I really want him to realize the benefits and join me. Anybody else been able to persuade your SO to switch?

[rejoice]

Still working on this with my husband. He argues with me and makes fun of me.
He saids,vaping is worst than cigarettes. He saids this just because he coughs trying to vape. He gets mad of the money spending on vaping stuff. I have a job and if I want to buy this stuff ,I will.

The bills are paid and all. I am hoping he will come around someday. He does not like change. His father died from smoking and he knows that smoking may kill him.
I too would like any help or advice.

[OutWest]

@rejoice - maybe suggest he inhale into mouth and then inhale into lungs? Sounds like he's direct inhaling.

I think part of it for both of 'em is that they see the ecig as too girly. I know that's how I felt when I saw my first ecig, which was the penstyle. Not that there's anything wrong with girly, but...

Perhaps, after theyve had a few cigarettes in the morning, ask them to try it for the day and to see how long they can use it witout breaking down and having an analog? If they go long enough with a good flavor, at the end of the day when they have an analog they'll realize they taste like a*$ and maybe, just maybe, the next day it'll be easier to get 'em to use it. If they agree, put their analogs way out of reach so that they have to make an effort to smoke 'em (opposite end of house, out in car, in garage, etc)

[SharonLM]

I have a little different situation, definitely heartbreaking. My DH supports my vaping and keeps saying, "I'm proud of you". I asked him when I first started vaping (one week ago today) if he'd like to try one. His answer, after looking at me for a bit was, "sweetheart, lets not waste them on me". Now this is a guy that's very positive about everything and when he said that my heart just sunk, you see, he has stage IV lung cancer. He continues to smoke, but our oncologist told him, "why not, it's too late now anyway and you might as well enjoy your cigarettes rather than go through the withdrawals".

[JustJulie]

I soooooo wish I could offer some help here, but my husband is a non-smoker and always has been.

I have to admit that I'm kind of surprised by the resistance of smoking spouses. I know that I had tried to quit smoking for years, and I think if I saw someone who was as addicted as I was making the transition so easily, I'd be jumping in with both feet.

It's not the same thing at all, but I've been surprised that my sister hasn't taken to vaping. I've given her a 901, a penstyle with a USB passthrough, and a Dura-C. She uses them, but I think she primarily does so in the office so she can get her nicotine without having to run outside. She says she's cut down on her tobacco use, but I'm not so sure.

To me, this is such a no-brainer, but I need to remind myself how much I hated and resented people when they'd gently (but persistently) tell me how I needed to quit.

[wv2win]

I have a little different situation, definitely heartbreaking. My DH supports my vaping and keeps saying, "I'm proud of you". I asked him when I first started vaping (one week ago today) if he'd like to try one. His answer, after looking at me for a bit was, "sweetheart, lets not waste them on me". Now this is a guy that's very positive about everything and when he said that my heart just sunk, you see, he has stage IV lung cancer. He continues to smoke, but our oncologist told him, "why not, it's too late now anyway and you might as well enjoy your cigarettes rather than go through the withdrawals".

I am sorry Sharon. I really don't know what to say, other than I will say a prayer for you and your DH and just do the best you can.

[JustJulie]

Oh, Sharon . . . that is heartbreaking. You and your husband are in my thoughts and prayers.

[OutWest]

So sorry to hear, Sharon. I know how tough that's gotta be. Well, not exactly, because I havent been through it with a spouse, but did go through it with my father and it's something I wouldnt wish on worst enemy All my best to the both of you and extra tight hugs for ya.

[Elendil]

I purchased my initial supply of ecig materials for both my wife and I. I was really expecting my wife to be resistant to the idea, or at the very least, I thought she would take a long time to fully make the switch from analogs to ecigs.

I was pleasantly surprised to see that she took to it right away and in fact, she only had one more analog after the day we started..........

I took the tactic that "These are ecigs, I am going to try them. I got one for you to if you want to give them a try" That's all I had to do and we were off to the races......

Here is some advice from a guy's perspective. Men have this weird bone in their head that makes them resistant to an idea that they haven't thought of in the first place. I do not know why this is, it just is. My wife has come up with some perfectly brilliant suggestions over our 23 years of marriage and I was resistant to a number of them, until I thought about why I was resisting them.......If I was being honest, sometimes it was because I didn't think of it first.

I am proud to say I have gotten better with this behavior, but it does occasionally rear its ugly head. The best advice I can give is to just let it lie. Your husband is bound to see the benefits in his own time and will come around(when he thinks its his idea)....

Good Luck!!

[Dilutetrips]

I can not get my wife to try and vap. I belive she will but for now she smokes and I vap.