Quitting smoking while living with a smoker!

[arms4defense]

I too found myself angry, at least having resentment every time she lit up. I told myself why should she get all the pleasure. I would light up and then be angry at myself for several days. All of that is gone. I feel that she will eventually move away from the dark side. I think she would be more likely to try it if I said "these things just aren't working for me". But I just let her go outside to smoke while I sit on the couch and vape away. I can persuade friends and family much easier than I can my wife, funny. She has to come around on her own.

[Antha]

When I was married, I always had these problems. We'd try to quit together, but we'd want to rip each others' faces off. A few times, he suggested that I quit first and he'd quit smoking. His logic was that if we both tried at the same time again, we'd fail again because we'd give in to each other because we both wanted to be "let off the hook" by the other. Well, this didn't work either, because I had quit for 2 weeks, and during those 2 weeks I'd say, "Alright. I quit. Your turn"...and suddenly he'd give me permission to smoke again because he just wasn't ready.

Once I get my e-juice I ordered, I don't plan to smoke real cigarettes. I want my boyfriend to make the switch, but I don't think he'll go for it, because although he wants to quit and sees how this could really help, he doesn't want to get razzed at his job by the other men (its a manly-man type of job).

Once I've quit, although it may seem hypocritical, I don't want him to smoke inside my home. One of the reasons (amongst so many) to quit is that I want my house to smell nice again and stop polluting it with cigarette smoke. My house probably smells like an ashtray (one of the times I quit I was repulsed by the smell). Plus, I'm hoping having to go outside to smoke (without me to keep him company - I live in Michigan, it gets cold here) that he'll have more incentive to quit and/or be more open-minded about trying a PV.

[Dredbull]

I have my mother living with for her finances, I gave up the smoking ghost on 9-26.

She still smokes and has been increasing the amount recently, I cant stand the smell and do not harp on her.
I have resorted to not riding in the car with her or talking to her when she lights up.
I cannot stand the smell at all now. I cannot call myself a non smoker since I do have 1-2 a day if that.

Its a struggle but one that is quickly going away.

[arms4defense]

Don't give up the fight. The end result is worth it. I have realized with my wife I cannot push her. I just have to give subtle clues. Very subtle. Make her think she decided on her own.