I'm 9 weeks pregnant - advice please!!

[brookeorama]

By the way, my son was 2 weeks over due and 8lb. 4 oz when he was born. (while smoking a pack a day)

[sineadm]

Hi again

I have read all the comments and really appreciate all your help and honesty.

Here is what I think I am going to do:

The first ultrasound is in 3 weeks time. I will quit cold turkey again now with the positive outlook on achieving a successful ultrasound. Rather than thinking of quitting for the whole 7 months, I'm going to focus on getting through just these 3 weeks and then realign my goal to making it until the first scan and so on. Just take it each small stage at a time. I hope you understand my plan here!!

If plan A fails then I will look into purchasing the e-cigarette with no nicotine. My gut feeling is that it has to be better than analogue smoking.

Thanks again
Sineadm

[dragonpuff]

Hi again

I have read all the comments and really appreciate all your help and honesty.

Here is what I think I am going to do:

The first ultrasound is in 3 weeks time. I will quit cold turkey again now with the positive outlook on achieving a successful ultrasound. Rather than thinking of quitting for the whole 7 months, I'm going to focus on getting through just these 3 weeks and then realign my goal to making it until the first scan and so on. Just take it each small stage at a time. I hope you understand my plan here!!

If plan A fails then I will look into purchasing the e-cigarette with no nicotine. My gut feeling is that it has to be better than analogue smoking.

Thanks again
Sineadm

That sounds like a good plan, take it one step at a time, as they say

I really hope it works out for you good luck!

[LaceyUnderall]

That sounds like a good plan, take it one step at a time, as they say

I really hope it works out for you good luck!

+1 sweetheart. Good luck to you that you have a wonderful pregnancy and your partner gives you foot and back rubs galore.

[BARENETTED]

Congrats on the baby!

Someone here said 'have some will power and think of the baby'. If will power came that easy, I would not have smoked all the years that I did.
Lets face it - we are all addicts.

My story - I smoked all the way through both pregnancies. This was way back before they knew the dangers - (I was able to smoke in my hospital room after giving birth)! Thank God, I had 2 healthy children, 5lbs 14oz and 7 lbs. They are grown now, but were extremely intelligent children with no health problems. I didn't breast feed either one.

I am in no way encouraging you to smoke. However, if you find it impossible to quit - talk to your doctor. Ask him about mixing your own no nic juice - just PG and flavoring. That way you are insured that there is no nicotine. What could be any worse than smoking?

Good Luck! Stay well.

[Robert]

next time try chewing the tobacco- I doubt you'll get pregnant again..... lol

Just kidding- get to the doctor, listen to classical music and stay stress free. Enjoy yourself, you are a creator of life.

[frankie1]

Sineadm: I sincerely wish you all the best! Young moms have a lot to worry about and are put under tremendous stress to be perfect in every way. You are first and foremost a human being, so please be kinder to yourself. You are doing the very best you can and God will take care of the rest. Have faith sweetie!

I too smoked while pregnant and all three of mine were healthy at birth and are healthy at ages 35, 32 and 29! I too smoked in the hospital and while breast feeding. I had two miscarriages...possibly from smoking, although at the time that was not mentioned so I don't know. I do know my doctor said that my nerves played a large part in my miscarriages and that I must remain calmer particularly in the first trimester.

I am NOT encouraging you to smoke, but I am encouraging you to be a little kinder to yourself. You are going to be a mom and your baby deserves a mom who loves herself enough to take care of your baby's mama! God bless!!

[treelvr]

I smoked thru 3 successful pregnancies, and all 3 of my babies were the biggest babies in the family on either side, as far back as anybody knew anything about baby sizes (not huge, but 7-8 lbs) and my boys were both on time, my daughter was 10 days late.

At 5, 9, and 11, they are all incredibly smart kids, (my older son is, I was told by his teacher yest at conferences) going to be moved to the advanced math/science classes in middle school. My daughter is a str8 A student.

While pregnant, I cut back as much as I could, depending on stress levels, but never really sustained anything less than a half-pack a day.

I also smoked while nursing (well, not while the babe was actually at the breast!!!) and altho nicotine by-products DO get into the milk, I was a La leche League leader, did my research, and smoking while nursing is WAY better than not nursing at all.

If I had to do it again, if I still couldn't quit (and I've no reason to believe I'd be able to accomplish that now, not having been able to then...) I would get a vaper with a low nic content (not none) because I'd use it only when the stress of not smoking became too much, and altho I'm now *mostly* vaping, I'm also smoking analogs. If there was no nic in the vape, I'd go for the smokes. Or maybe get a mix of carts with low/no nic.

Overall, remember that there's enough going on with your body not to add all the major stress induced issues, too!

The scare tactics and "just quit!" BS I've read in this thread... well, I've been thru it and that stuff didn't help at all, it just made things worse for me. It's not like I didn't WANT to, and not like I didn't TRY.

Just do the best that you can, and to hell with everybody and their judgements as to whether or not your best is good enough for their standards. Your body, your baby. If you didn't care, you wouldn't be posting here.

Sending you lots of calming and supportive thoughts...

[kyivish]

I can't believe this question is even being asked. 9 months of uncomfortable angst vs. A possible life time consequence for your child. If you have to ask you're not ready to be a mother.
I know I sound rude, but how on earth could you risk it, especially with feedback on a online forum...no personal offense to forum members

[Snarkyone]

Christ on a cross I have never seen such a group of sanctimonious people in all my life! I mean come on people, I bet a good majority of us were carried to term by mother's who smoked with no ill effects. Granted it is not good for you or the baby but I would not stress out too much over it really. Generations of human beings have been born in the tobacco using world and we seem to have managed to maintain a good population wouldn't you say? To sit here **** all over her for smoking while pregnant is not cool. I can't say whether vaping is any safer there is not enough information to make a good sound decision on that, with that in mind I would say try to slow down with the cigarettes, get it in your head that you will be quitting and this is a part of it, cutting back as much as possible now so that once the baby is born you can step right into vaping which is going to be loads healthier for both you and your new child. Don't feel all guilty or listen to the naysayers who give you dirty looks. Like I said babies are born healthy every minute of the day to smokers and I would not lose one minute of sleep over it.