OT: Is this odd?

[krazie_Kid]

Yeah totally off topic, infact it is left field. I just ended a year and 2 month relationship, and I feel fine. Actually, I feel happy. I do not feel as my life is being controlled anymore, and that I have my freedom back, but I am worried that since I feel fine, that something is wrong for me feeling this way.....

[Twilight]

There is nothing wrong with you Krazie....the "right" one won't make you feel controlled....just happy. Be patient and she will come along and all you will feel is happy...not controlled.....speaking from 28 years of being happily married :-)

[EleanorR]

Oh dear, KK, I thought you were even engaged to be married! But if you feel happiness and relief at the break-up, then it's definitely for the best.

[sawlight]

When it's right, you will know it!

[krazie_Kid]

Thank all of you, I just have been under so much garbage, she was always changing me, and telling me when I am happy that I am depressed, and I just was worried that something was really wrong with me, that I should go see a professional cause now I feel relieved that she and I are done.

Eleanor we were engaged to be married, but its just a lot of bs, she always wants to be with her mom, 24/7 and not around my family, she never wants to go out, perfect example, tonight I wanted us to go to the carnival by my house, and she said no. My friend calls her to see if shes going (Yeah we dont communicate well at all xD) She tells him yes, then I call her and told her what my friend said, and shes saying she never said that, so we had a huge blow out. But yeah, a lot of drama happened in 5 months and neither of us expected each other to break up. But all good things must come to an end... Wait if thats true, why does life come to an end? That aint a good thing! Most of us have crappy jobs, and/0r crappy lives!

[Ethereal]

It's early days yet, you might find you start to miss her especially if she has been there for you in those depressing moments we all have. Mine constantly put me down but I know that's only cause she loves me and I don't always act in ways that suite her, but i'm not easy to live with. Ironic I know. Hope you both find happiness.

[jmpublius]

Some relationships persist purely for the familiarity. A lot of time, people will stay in a crappy relationship just because they're afraid of the change that comes with being alone. If you're feeling liberated by the break-up, it means that it wasn't right for either of you. It's not odd by any means. In fact, this should tell you something. You shouldn't let anyone control you, or dictate how you feel, act, or live. The right person will ask you how you are feeling, not tell you. Not knowing all the details, honestly, the argument you had seems trivial, but it may have been the straw that broke the camel's back if you and her were already having problems. If the relationship had any hope, you'd get through something like this, cause lord knows, relationships entail far greater challenges than carnivals.

That being said, sometimes break-ups are harder than you think. Good luck and keep your head up.

[Darth Skirata]

If you feel good, you did the right thing. Even if you feel $h..ty, you still probably did the right thing.
My advice: always live together first for a year, before you start talking about getting married. You think you know someone, but you don't ever really know someone till you live together.

[lujin4]

If you feel good, you did the right thing. Even if you feel $h..ty, you still probably did the right thing.
My advice: always live together first for a year, before you start talking about getting married. You think you know someone, but you don't ever really know someone till you live together.

+100 on this one.

[Glam]

Man, you guys are good psychologists. If I ever have a relationship problem, I am coming here. Some great insight and advice guys. Great new avator, JMP.
And Krazie: the right one will come along.....just make sure she vapes so you have that special "vaping" bond.