When she found out that I was vaping, she confronted me about it. She told me that while there were no health risks involved, I was still sensationalizing the physical appearance of smokers. She said that I was glorifying the image of a smoker by using an e-cigarette and in some ways, I was taunting non-smokers by using my e-cig indoors where analog smoking is banned. My mother grew up with parents who both smoked. My grandfather smoked about 2-3 packs per day until his death in July 2004. My grandmother smoked about 1 pack per day until she quit in January 2004. My mother and her two sisters never smoked however. I can understand why the visual of a smoker could be bothersome to her, especially since my e-cig looks EXACTLY like a traditional analog cigarette. Yet, I don't see why she should care if I'm using it out of her sight. I think that I look "cool" when I vape. I'm not going to deny my vanity. Therefore, should I just vape when I'm not with her and not tell her that I vape? Or should I try to set the record straight and convince her that it is not the same as smoking harmful cigarettes? I tried the latter option once, but she did not listen.
My Mother Thinks that E-Cigs "Glorify" Smoking
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Sounds like you are trying too hard to make her happy and gain her acceptance of your new found life style. I'd just do what I want to do and hope that she will see the good in it at some point.
Seems as though she knows it's not the same as smoking, yet will always associate with smoking due to history and the fact that it looks like smoking. I would'nt try to hard to prove it's worthiness, won't work. I would just keep on vaping and not do it around her, but if I lived with her she would just have to get used to it.
Hmmmm.....lets see here......smoke real cigs and you die..........vape and you live........
IMHO, she can't be reasoned with, as you said yourself, even though there are no health risks involved, it doesn't matter, she obviously can't handle, or even get the fact that you might enjoy this, and at lest its not smoking.
Solution, pretty simple really, tell her that if you are gonna get greif for it, you might as well do the real thing, this is the point where you should light up a real stogie.
At least, that's what I'd do, I'm a smart ....
IMHO, she can't be reasoned with, as you said yourself, even though there are no health risks involved, it doesn't matter, she obviously can't handle, or even get the fact that you might enjoy this, and at lest its not smoking.
Solution, pretty simple really, tell her that if you are gonna get greif for it, you might as well do the real thing, this is the point where you should light up a real stogie.
At least, that's what I'd do, I'm a smart ....
IMO don't vape around her and don't bring it up unless she asks. It's easy enough to go outside or take a few drags in the bathroom and no one will know. It's not worth upsetting your mother and arguing about it. When I smoked, my mom knew and didn't like it so I never did it in front of her. Vaping is the same way - just because it doesn't stink and pollute the air, doesn't mean I should feel entitled to do it when I'm sitting in her living room.
.....seriously, live your life and do what you want. mom will love you no matter what.
Some people fear change due to the unknown. It shouldn't be a big deal though. If it turns out to be a big deal then you might choose not to vape around her. Really your doing better for yourself and your the only one that needs convinced of that in the end. Good luck.
This seems like it could be a touchy subject, but I don't think you should have to go outside or in the bathroom like a teenager who stole one if his dads cigarettes. This is the kind of thing where you should sit down as adults and discuss it. But in the end she is your mother but you should not be made to feel like you're doing something wrong, because you aren't.
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She might have less of a problem with it if you switch to a non cigarette clone PV - an ego or kgo in SS, titanium, chrome, etc is sleek & sexy, especially topped with a slim tank with SS/chrome end caps and a SS drip tip - you'll retain the "cool" factor, but without the appearance of a cigarette, so less risk of her feeling that you're glorifying the image of a smoker. Plus, you'll get better battery life.
Sometimes a little compromise works wonders
It sounds like the OP already discussed it and his mom has her opinion. If I lived with my mom, it'd be a different story, but when I'm just at her house because she invited me over for dinner, I don't have a problem offering to take out the trash and catching my vape then. My mom does a lot for me and I'm willing to minorly inconvenience myself to avoid upsetting her. I guess it might be different if I were a man.
Unless you are younger than 18 then your Mother should mind her own business. Some people can't be flipped. Try selling a conservative on a liberal issue or vice versa for example.
Bottom line. Her opinion is her problem not yours. Unless she's paying for your supplies!
Bottom line. Her opinion is her problem not yours. Unless she's paying for your supplies!
Back when i took psych 101 in college I remember something I heard that was common sense but also pretty profound. It's that all of us, on some level, are seeking parental approval for our entire lives. It may have been Freud who came up with this or perhaps Abraham Maslow, I can't recall now. In any event, the fact that you are somewhat worried about this is enough in my view. We owe some respect to our parents. At least most of us do.
At the same time, you've got to pursue you own happiness. The next time she brings this up, I'd say something like " I'd just prefer to not discuss it" and then maybe change it to a positive conversation.
People die from smoking yes, people die in car accidents too and no one is proposing that we quit driving. What they do is make seat belt laws so driving is safer. Vaping is a safer alternative.
At the same time, you've got to pursue you own happiness. The next time she brings this up, I'd say something like " I'd just prefer to not discuss it" and then maybe change it to a positive conversation.
People die from smoking yes, people die in car accidents too and no one is proposing that we quit driving. What they do is make seat belt laws so driving is safer. Vaping is a safer alternative.
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