Gee, I'm so sorry you have not found Ms.Right yet. But maybe she's right here... Get to know her thinking first, then hopefully there will be some physical attraction too. But you really can live with and love someone without having a romp in the hay every single day...
When I was much much younger, I fell for the BS that we see in movies, TV, and magazines (sex sells). I think most gurlz did too. Men have to buy a car that is about 5 times his annual wage in order to get the sexy ladies to want him. Horsepucky! If all she wanted was someone who spent way too much money on a sexmobile (his stupid attempt to appear rich), then she wasn't worth more than a one-night stand anyway (he probably wasn't either). And the ladies get brainwashed that no man will want her unless she paints her face, stuffs herself into a girdle to look slim, wears a push-up bra so she can show cleavage, wears dresses so short she doesn't have to bend over to show her... well, you get the picture. Later, I came to the conclusion that is called
lying because it is not the real you. What do you look like naked the morning after?
That's your body. What is his/her attitude about life? Does she like the things you like? Or at least is tolerant of what you do? Can she have a conversation with you on a relatively equal intellectual level? (this could take a whole book...) Bottom line: be friends first, lovers later.
Fuzzy