LMAO....
That's got to hurt. I've never heard that one before but I will find a way to use it.
I assume you are talking about the snarky remark, yes ? Definitely NOT the iron rod...!
LMAO....
That's got to hurt. I've never heard that one before but I will find a way to use it.
Kudos to you, I know I have family members that are ignorant about vaping as well. My grandmother thinks I 'waste' my money cause I don't smoke cigarettes therefore don't need to vape. It takes all my patience to point out vaping has prevented me from giving in to cigarettes.
I take public transit to work. Saves me on the expenses related to driving. I got to the bus platform early so, I decided to have a quick vape.
Normally in non-smoking areas that are enclosed like bus shelters and on COLD or rainy days I will be polite and ask if anyone minds that I vape in there. Most people do not and I know it's not because I intimidate them into thinking that they need to say they don't because I'm seriously the least intimidating looking woman ever. Rather thin and mousy looking, it's obvious that I am definitely not the type to fly off into a ..... fest. The worst youll get from me is a bit snark or I may deem you as irrelevant and ignore you completely. If someone minds, I don't vape. If someone asks me to stop, I stop. No big deal.
The bus platform that I was at is basically this giant wind tunnel filled with bus exhaust and isn't an enclosed area despite having a roof of giant fans to suck up the exhaust so, there I'm comfortable vaping away. I usually stand or sit on a bench away from any groups of people. I do this out of politeness and because I often get approached by random people even when I'm not vaping, Canadian city life eh? I've been approached before about vaping but just for your standard questions about quitting and where to get one, how much it costs and what flavours are good. This time was different.
This old man senior citizen comes up to me and says "you're an idiot for smoking. put that cigarette out" I calmly replied with, "it's not a cigarette and I'm not smoking." Blow out some vaper and continue on idle like and waiting for my bus. He was walking to catch a bus that just stopped, a bus happily emitting grey fumes. He starts screaming, "it's the same damn thing, put that out! You're smoking around people! These are people!!" Blah, blah, blah some more random name calling. I'm really not interested in his abuse, realize he's a crusty old man that can't be educated and don't bother to respond or stop vaping. He runs on to his bus. His bus takes a few minutes to get going. I can only assume he was screaming at the poor bus driver.
Another woman comes up to me, takes out her earphones and say, "was he really yelling at you about that?" "Yea..." "I could hear him with the two buses stopped and my music on. Some people just don't know their boundaries eh?" "Uh huh, I wonder if he realized he was inhaling bus fumes" "well, don't worry about using that here. This isn't even an enclosed area." We chit chat about the poor design of the platform, she commends me on not smoking and I carry on about my day.
I wonder if he will be there today when I catch my bus.
Sometimes, I think that there are some people out there so lonely and miserable that the only way that they can think of to interact with other people is by being obnoxious to them. And I'm really being serious, not hateful when I say that. I used to see it all the time working retail. And it was usually elderly folks, not to stereotype. It used to get under my skin, and then I had a sort of "aha" moment and saw it for what it really was; a sad person acting out their bad feelings on whoever happened to be in front of them at the time. If that old man hadn't had you to scream at, he would probably have screamed at the coffee shop girl for putting too much cream in his latte, or at the bagger at the grocery store for wearing sagging pants and having an earring. Screaming at you (and then complaining to all the people on the bus about how inconsiderate these kids today are and being the center of attention for a while) might be the only meaningful human interaction that he gets in a day.
I wouldn't take it personally, is what I'm saying. You didn't do anything wrong. It was all him, and you were probably just an innocent bystander.
I had something like this happen to me once when I was smoking a LONG time ago. Was waiting for my buddy in his truck while he went into a CVS to get a pack of smokes (this was 8 or 9 years ago before vaping). I light up a smoke and proceed to smoke (inside of his truck with the window rolled down. This old man stares at me and says all snarky "smoking kills you know." Now being the naïve and stupid teenager I simply responded "so does old age." And he walked away. Only now do I realize the bad that it had done to my body and the stench alone can make you scream now.
BTW, the spouse and I looked at some pics of the mess in Buffalo last night... Sympathies, condolences, and I hope your windows/doors don't bust in! His sister lives in Alpena, MI, and we're kinda wondering what kinda mess they have there. It's on the west side of the lake rather than east, but I know how snowed-in Milwaukee can get, and they're on the west side of a lake too.
Andria
Milwaukee ?
I was born and raised there myself. Hamilton H.S. wife went to wisco
One of the most compelling reasons for migrating south is how much I hated slogging around in snow and slush for what seems like half the year. I hate snow and shoveling the damn stuff all the time.
And Tennessee was a much more beautiful and safe place to raise my children too.
Not to mention the roads down here are just too perfect for someone who enjoys sport rideing the twisties, such as deals gap or the cherahola. Georgia has some fine roads worth exploring too.
As a conservative libertarian, I wholeheartedly agree. Just so long as the decision is an educated one. As a nurse, I've had many patients refuse things. This is well within there right. However, I would be remiss if I didn't tell them the consequences of their decision, which I did, If they still refused, then, so be it. They are adults. As adults we should have the right to choose what we want to do and don't want to do.While I def agree with your statement about the damage cigarettes do to your body and that it does reak to me now (smoked for 20 years) I'm truly of the mind-set that every illicit/illegal substance should be legal. ...
I used to see the same thing, when I was a waitress. But all it did for me was make me DETERMINED to never again have a job serving the public -- too many of them are obnoxious.
Andria
I used to see the same thing, when I was a waitress. But all it did for me was make me DETERMINED to never again have a job serving the public -- too many of them are obnoxious.
Andria
Man, waitressing is a whole other universe when it comes to obnoxious humans! I've done it, and unless things were to get super desperate, I'd never do it again for that reason! It takes a special kind of personality to do that job, and I don't have it.
I found many times in retail, though, that those customers who were being obnoxious because they were hurt/lonely…sometimes all it took was me being nice to them regardless and their whole demeanor changed. Not always, because some people are just awful. But there was a certain type, and you could pick up on it by just watching them, that just really needed attention. They had chosen to get that attention by acting out angrily, because negative attention is still attention…but if I'd give them positive attention (calling them by name because they were almost always regulars, asking them how they were as soon as they got in the door before they had time to figure out something to get worked up about, smiling at them) they changed their attitude completely. Some of them became great customers who would come by and drop cash every other day on something because they knew someone there would be nice to them and pay attention to them for a little bit. Some of the "worst" customers that I used to dread to see coming became some of the best customers, and even though I haven't worked at that store in 5 years, they still come up to me when they see me around town and say hello.
My last waitress job was at a Denny's, on the graveyard shift, directly off Atlanta's main "strip joint" strip.
Andria