Heather's Heavenly Vapes - THE BIG THREAD (Part 5)

[kkay59]

Chak...that was such a heart wrenching story. I am so happy she is okay, and that you didn't have a heart attack from the stress of it all. You adore that woman. That just brightens my day. That is what it is all supposed to be about anyway. LOVE. There is nothing like it in this world. I am very happy for the both of you. I did not know about her disability. Now it all makes more sense. The two of you make a perfect pair. I would say you two are very lucky you found each other. To make it even better, you have a very long lasting relationship too. That sweetens the deal even more. Thank you for sharing this story.

 

[always9988]

Evening army. Haven't been all that busy around here, just haven't been feeling talkative. My once sweet little girl has turned into a nasty little piece of work lately and its been hard on all of us (putting it nicely). I swear I've screwed up somewhere along the line, she might be ruined beyond repair. Always swore I'd never have one of those screaming mean little brats and apparently cursed myself. Sigh... Its been a long week and its only Tuesday

 

[Chakris]

Thanks, David, I'm also glad it wasn't serious.

@always9988, getting right on the sitting arrangement - got a spare chair in the storeroom that ought to work.
@kkay59, Mama Chak's often said we were destined to be together - we both had previous affairs and she wound up crossing the Pacific to find me. It'll be 30 years come August 28.

 

[Bronze]

Chak...that was such a heart wrenching story. I am so happy she is okay, and that you didn't have a heart attack from the stress of it all. You adore that woman. That just brightens my day. That is what it is all supposed to be about anyway. LOVE. There is nothing like it in this world. I am very happy for the both of you. I did not know about her disability. Now it all makes more sense. The two of you make a perfect pair. I would say you two are very lucky you found each other. To make it even better, you have a very long lasting relationship too. That sweetens the deal even more. Thank you for sharing this story.

Chak is as fine a husband as there is. I have a good friend whose wife has MS and cannot contribute to the daily tasks that are needed to keep the house going. So he does it all. Works 50 hours a week, cooks, cleans, does the laundry, maintains the house. While it wears him out, he wouldn't trade his Mary Beth for anything. Hats off men!

 

[Chakris]

Morning Army!
Thanks Bronze, I'm sure you are too. I remember you mentioning your friend before. Thank God Mama can still get around under her own power for the most part. We do use a wheel chair while on long runs like at the supermarket and such.

Gotta run, she's waiting for coffee in the kitchen. We're baking butter cakes this morning.

 

[Bronze]

Morning Army!
Thanks Bronze, I remember you mentioning your friend before. Thank God Mama can still get around under her own power for the most part. We do use a wheel chair while on long runs like at the supermarket and such.

Gotta run, she's waiting for coffee in the kitchen. We're baking butter cakes this morning.

It makes a difference if they can get around. My bud's wife is relegated to a scooter but it allows her to get around. They make it work. She likes to drink so he has to hide the liquor from her and serve it to her in "appropriate" amounts. She'll search and search for where he hides it and will eventually find it. So he has to find new hiding spots. I think he has it figured out now. In some ways, he babysits her. She's a neat chick. Her boys love her to pieces and help her a lot too. They're grown men now.

 

[Bunnykiller]

sounds like my life.... always on double duty listening for the wife to yell when she has fallen.... pretty unsettling to come home and find the wifey on the floor passed out cold due to a fall.... one day she just might realize her limits and tone it down a bit...
doubt it tho......until then, I keep a constant vigil...

 

[Bronze]

sounds like my life.... always on double duty listening for the wife to yell when she has fallen.... pretty unsettling to come home and find the wifey on the floor passed out cold due to a fall.... one day she just might realize her limits and tone it down a bit...
doubt it tho......until then, I keep a constant vigil...

You do what you gotta do.

 

[Bunnykiller]

Evening army. Haven't been all that busy around here, just haven't been feeling talkative. My once sweet little girl has turned into a nasty little piece of work lately and its been hard on all of us (putting it nicely). I swear I've screwed up somewhere along the line, she might be ruined beyond repair. Always swore I'd never have one of those screaming mean little brats and apparently cursed myself. Sigh... Its been a long week and its only Tuesday

gotta consider the genetics from the dads side too... and other external sources of influence.... personality is genetic.

 

[Robino1]

Heart felt prayers and wishes going out to all your loved ones.

Getting older sucks.

Dealing with teenagers (or ones that think they are already) sucks.

Not having kids or grandkids nearby sucks.

 

[Bronze]

Everything sucks.

 

[kkay59]

My once sweet little girl has turned into a nasty little piece of work lately and its been hard on all of us (putting it nicely). I swear I've screwed up somewhere along the line, she might be ruined beyond repair.

Always, believe me, most people that have teens feel that way. I know I felt that way. My daughter was the ultimate in being such a sweet little doll. The tweens weren't bad. The early teens weren't bad. I thought hey, this is over rated. Or maybe I just have a super sweet child. 16 was a little more challenging, but still manageable. Then all hell broke out when she turned 17. If you knew her today, you would think I'm lying. LOLLLLLLL. I kid you not, she was tough to deal with. She just went through this stage... I don't want to ever repeat that time period again. I remember it changing practically overnight. After she moved out, and had her own life, and wasn't here anymore, things got better. Once she turned about 22-23 years old, it was much better. Now I have my sweet daughter back. She just turned 24. I had to be mother and father to my kids. When your kids have their own kids, they will appreciate what you went through even more. Your daughter may say she hates you, she will never treat her kids like you have, blah blah blah. But you have to remain strong, and be her parent. They need to know you care, and they need to know what their limits are. They will keep testing to find it. If you make a limit, stick to it. If you don't, you will regret it. In time things will get better. I know it may seem like that is impossible. You need some time out of the house, doing something you like to do, and your own space. You will probably laugh about this, IN A FEW YEARS.

 

[Chakris]

Everything sucks.

There's no such thing as gravity, the earth sucks...

 

[Bronze]

The only ting worse than having kids is not having kids.

 

[always9988]

Always, believe me, most people that have teens feel that way. I know I felt that way. My daughter was the ultimate in being such a sweet little doll. The tweens weren't bad. The early teens weren't bad. I thought hey, this is over rated. Or maybe I just have a super sweet child. 16 was a little more challenging, but still manageable. Then all hell broke out when she turned 17. If you knew her today, you would think I'm lying. LOLLLLLLL. I kid you not, she was tough to deal with. She just went through this stage... I don't want to ever repeat that time period again. I remember it changing practically overnight. After she moved out, and had her own life, and wasn't here anymore, things got better. Once she turned about 22-23 years old, it was much better. Now I have my sweet daughter back. She just turned 24. I had to be mother and father to my kids. When your kids have their own kids, they will appreciate what you went through even more. Your daughter may say she hates you, she will never treat her kids like you have, blah blah blah. But you have to remain strong, and be her parent. They need to know you care, and they need to know what their limits are. They will keep testing to find it. If you make a limit, stick to it. If you don't, you will regret it. In time things will get better. I know it may seem like that is impossible. You need some time out of the house, doing something you like to do, and your own space. You will probably laugh about this, IN A FEW YEARS.

Unfortunately she is only 5. The teens scare the chit out of me if its this bad at 5. Shall start ordering wine by the case if this continues lol.

 

[Robino1]

My granddaughter is 5 and can be quite the handful but damn, she can be the most loving, sweetest thing. Almost Jekyl and Hyde at times.

 

[kkay59]

Unfortunately she is only 5. The teens scare the chit out of me if its this bad at 5.

Oh my word. FIVE???? Well maybe she is one of those who are rough when they are young, and then are angels as teens. One of my nieces was a pure hellion when she was little. Then she was a great teen. My other niece was a little angel when she was very young. Then as she turned into the teen years...say 16 or 17...it was a complete turn a round. Hope for the best, that is all I can tell ya. My daughter was very strong willed when she was young, but still sweet as can be. She was hard headed too. I know she got it from me, so I can't complain too much. My son was a fun loving baby, but he had a temper. He didn't mind playing alone, and always was coming up with something, or getting into something. When it was too quiet, I'd have to go see what he was up to. My daughter rarely played alone. She was constantly under my feet. (well, not literally) Always, sounds like you have your work cut out for you regardless. I always read stories to my kids, even when they could read themselves. Maybe your daughter is getting picked on in school. If this is a fast change, I would certainly give it a shot. Hobbies are a great outlet for the kids, and you too. I think if you have some down time, you won't feel so battle worn. My brother and I liked to play outside, and we liked sports. I made sure my kids had a hobby. (if nothing else for MY sanity...lol)

 

[Chakris]

Butter cakes and caramel corn finished. Now it's time to get out of the PJ's and deliver the goods...

She likes to drink so he has to hide the liquor from her and serve it to her in "appropriate" amounts.

Thank goodness mine quit drinking when she was expecting. She wasn't a heavy drinker before we got married anyway, so it was no big deal for her. Her ex drank a lot and drinking killed her brother back in 2004, so she's got her eye on me to keep it in moderation, which I do pretty well on my own.

 

[DavidOH]

Late night.

 

[MostlySunny]

I love when we get talking like this.

@always9988 hang in there. It will pass and everything will be fine. My oldest has been a handful since the day she was born and at 17 she still is. It may not got easier, but you'll find peace and realize she just is who she is. Then it sorta gets easier bc you stop blaming yourself and get busy trying to find solutions that work for you and her, bc I bet the standard parenting solutions just aren't working. Sending you sympathetic hugs.