Here I Go Again! How do you communicate with loved ones who have passed?

[Saintscruiser]

I know we all have loved ones who we would like to pass on info to, but they have passed. My daddy died in 2007, and I was the epitome of a daddy's girl. My mom died in 2009. I am a kid who loves their parents....I know they are with Jesus beyond a shadow of a doubt. Some people talk to them like they can actually listen. Scripture states not to talk to the dead. So what I did was write them letters like I did when I was in Germany or any other state. It helped me to put my feelings down on paper. I missed my daddy everyday.....still do, but through counselling, I was shown that I had to let them go. The loss stayed fresh within me. My heart hurts each and every day because I missed them that much. So, I wrote a letter to them stating I had to let them go for now because the grief was consuming me. I read the letter out loud in tears and the Lord has helped me commit to my choice.

Now, when I quit tobacco, I wanted them to know. The only way I knew how to do it was to ask the Lord to tell them for me. So I asked Him to tell them for me. "Ye have not because ye ask not." (I have been off of cigarettes since July 2010. I give God all the Praise, Honor, and Glory. I only vape and I stick with it.) Every once in awhile I ask Him to tell them that I love them. I'm not using a medium, nor a physic, etc. Other people do this and I just wanted your opinion. Please speak freely and I would never judge you, as who am I to judge anyone. God gave me a mouth and I know how to use it! HA! If you know of a better way, please answer without hesitation. I thank you in advance for sharing.

 

[BackDoc]

Hi Saint , I understand how difficult it is losing a parent( lost my dad when he was 48) , unfortunately he was not saved ..... I'd agree with youthat sscripture is clear that we are not to communicate with the dead ......that being said I also know that Jesus knows your intentions are good in asking him to let your parents know you've quit smoking , my thoughts are that its cool with The Lord ( he always wants to hear from his children) even if at times we are not being theologically accurate ...........

 

[Saintscruiser]

AMEIN BACKDOC!!! Welcome to our little corner and I pray you will stay wiith us. So sorry about your daddy. 48 is terribly young and it must have been such a shock! At least in my family, my parents were 95 1/2 (Daddy) and and 86 (Mom). They both suffered and we knew it was coming. But no matter what the circumstances, you're never ready to let them go. (I would give everything I own to spend 5 more minutes with my daddy. But after 5 minutes, I'd have to give him up to the Lord again. I couldn't go through that grief for a 2nd time. I was a 150% Daddy's girl.) I can only imagine the heartbreak of knowing he wasn't saved. I am so very sorry. No words I can say will help, but I will pray that the Lord gives you peace, and I truly mean it from my heart.

 

[BackDoc]

Thanks Saint , yes I was 28 when he died , it really rocked our family ( I'm the oldest of three ) I'm 52 now but think of him often and quote him to my boys........funny how we are so like our parents , it becomes more evident as we get older .......wishing you and your loved ones a happy Thanksgiving saint !!

 

[mightymen]

A little bit of my IMO

I lost love ones who have claimed to be saved and others who talk about God and refused to accept Jesus into they lives.

And some who claimed Jesus as their Lord; That if I looked at their actions I would have became their Judge.


I can not know who has been saved only be a witness on what I heard them say. I know that God hears anyone who asks for the Blood of Jesus and accepts what He did for them and will receive forgiveness from God right up to the very last breath their take.

I have faith that God has heard my prays and some how some way those that have past on from where we are now are with the Lord and saved.

I don't know who hasn't received Jesus into their hearts only God does. I have faith that my mother who refused Jesus in front of me some how did accept Him maybe at her very last breath but she did I know this because I have faith.

 

[Saintscruiser]

Mighty, I will stand with you. You are correct. No one knows the true heart of another....only God knows at the time of their death. A death bed conversion works. There is only so much you can say or do to a loved one before they flat out ask you to be quiet....they don't believe nor do they choose to believe. That is a heartbreak...for them and you. But, never give up.

My mom was saved, but she allowed satan to rob her of her security. She'd say, "I hope I make it." I kept telling her what she was allowing satan to do. It didn't matter. She prayed the sinner's prayer so many times, and completely meant it! Her last week on earth, I prayed that the Lord would reveal Himself to her so that she wouldn't be afraid. It was late afternoon the day before she died. She had stopped speaking. I was standing by her bedside and she said with her eyes closed, "Thank You, God." She then said like she was at the throne room of God, "Ohhhhhhhhhhh, Jesus!" Then spoke it twice more. The Lord not only revealed Himself to her so she wouldn't be afraid, He chose the time that I was a witness, to let me know that He had answered my prayer. My mouth fell open! It was then that I KNEW for sure that she was saved. What a shame that she couldn't enjoy the 'joy and peace' that she allowed satan to rob her of. But, that is all in the past. He can't rob her anymore.