Kawfee beanz, DIY and assorted Shenaniganery :)

[dcfluegel]

Don't know why but I was thinking about something today that some of y'all might get a kick out of so I thought I'd share. So story time. Feel free to skip to the end. My dad was pastor of a little middle of nowhere church in the late 80's. A girl at that church and I spent lot's of time together and I always had a crush on her, but I was clueless about women and she was older than me so I never said nothing.
She graduated, I started dating other girls, eventually married wife #1. 5 years and two kids later #1 wants out. She starts seeing someone and her sis tells me I should to. Shoot I didn't even know where to start if I wanted to. But by pure chance I run into Church Girl one night while getting gas, we get to talking. She and her hubby have been separated for months, they (or mostly she) tried to do the weekend away thing to see if they could salvage it a few weeks back, but even after that he isn't interested in trying.
I hatch a devious plan, if I show up with a girl that #1 knows at the bar where #1 frequently goes with her new man, I'll make her jealous. Not the best reason to ask someone out, but I asked Church Girl if she'd like to have dinner sometime, we could catch up, talk about our failing marriages, go have a drink afterward, she said yes.
She was gonna meet me at the restaurant. Sis-in-law (#1's sis) is watching my kids by the way. So I get there, and wait, and wait, and wait. I'm finally about to give up thinking I've been stood up when she finally shows up, her two little girls in tow. Babysitter cancelled last minute. She couldn't find anyone else. So there goes my bar plans, but being a gentleman I still buy dinner for her and the girls. And we talk, and we talk, and eventually she tells me that the 'weekend away' had unplanned results. Turns out Church Girl is pregnant, and now she and Mr Idjet are gonna try again to work things out.
Seems like my whole plan had failed miserably, huh? Funny thing, the story doesn't end there. Starting when he was about 3 months old I was there to watch that baby learn to walk and talk, to feed him, to change his diapers, and I had the joy of having him call me daddy long before Mr Idjet ever heard it. And when he was about 1.5, he walked down the aisle with his new big brother as a ring bearer in our wedding.
Strange how life goes sometimes.

so. much. like

 

[dcfluegel]

I really do not like you much right now......

wait till i start posting pics from the brunch at the Blue Dog Cafe this weekend... crawfish enchiladas with a cilantro cream sauce and prime rib... bottomless mimosas... what could possibly go wrong...

 

[LouisLeBeau]

wait till i start posting pics from the brunch at the Blue Dog Cafe this weekend... crawfish enchiladas with a cilantro cream sauce and prime rib... bottomless mimosas... what could possibly go wrong...

Wut?!? Oh, I hope that's on the itinerary for Bourbon Fest! Bottomless Mimosas?!? I think those precede bottomless Senorita's! Will the world EVER run out of Epic Ideas?!?

 

[Sir Kadly]

Great story kad!!

so. much. like

I figured since I was spreading so much sadz around lately, I'd try to share a bit of happy too. Glad ya liked it.
Who woulda thunk a date could go so far south from what was planned (and did I mention it took almost 10 months for there to be a date # 2?) and 20 years later still be my favorite date of all time?

 

[LouisLeBeau]

I figured since I was spreading so much sadz around lately, I'd try to share a bit of happy too. Glad ya liked it.
Who woulda thunk a date could go so far south from what was planned (and did I mention it took almost 10 months for there to be a date # 2?) and 20 years later still be my favorite date of all time?

LURVLY story! Ah love, I don't think it possible for any emotion to provide more epic happenings.

 

[dcfluegel]

Wut?!? Oh, I hope that's on the itinerary for Bourbon Fest! Bottomless Mimosas?!? I think those precede bottomless Senorita's! Will the world EVER run out of Epic Ideas?!?

lol - this is in lafayette - bit of a hike from the big easy - i am pretty confident we can find something moderately spiffy there, though... call it a guess...

 

[LynnNC]

@Kodak's movie list this afternoon prompted a funny memory. One of her watch over and over movies was Pirates of the Caribbean. I went by myself to see that movie in the theater so I could drool over Johnny Depp the entire time and no one would see me. When the DVD came out, I was first in line to buy it. Watched it quite a bit. When me and my ex husband split, he took off from work one day knowing I was at work and the kids were at school to plunder the house of quite a bit of stuff that he thought I held near and dear to my heart. One was my Pirates of the Caribbean dvd and the other was my Dremel set. HA! Imagine his surprise when he went to watch it and find that the dvd was messed up because I scratched it! My daughter gave me a new one for my birthday and I had the locks changed!

 

[LouisLeBeau]

lol - this is in lafayette - bit of a hike from the big easy - i am pretty confident we can find something moderately spiffy there, though... call it a guess...

Hmm... 3 meals a day, 4 days... what's that, like, 32 meals?

 

[LouisLeBeau]

Well, I never thought I'd be able to earn one of THESE...

 

[Sir Kadly]

Well, I never thought I'd be able to earn one of THESE...

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LMAO

 

[Sir Kadly]

OK, so I have a serious question. Wait, does "If a tree falls in the forest and no woman is around to hear it is the man still wrong" count as a serious question?

No that's not my actual question, I'm just trying to get a handle on the definition of serious. My question is this. If Scrappy (the pup to your left) sleeps in the big person bed tonight with daddy, and mommy isn't around to know about it, will daddy still be in trouble tomorrow?

Now that I think about it that really is kinda the same question.

 

[markfm]

The answer is probably "Not a problem. Tomorrow night the sleepover will be at Scrappy's, you will be sleeping in the doghouse with them."

 

[LouisLeBeau]

So listen, here's the thing. I don't talk about this generally because I don't want to seem like I'm looking for sympathy. But I've been trying to work the nerve up to talk to you guys about this all week. Why? Because if I'm gonna ask for your help you need to understand my problem.

My wife seems to be less self conscious about it than I am. Someone asks how many kids we have she says 5 and has no problem explaining what needs explained if it needs explained. I never know how to answer, my heart says 5, my brain says 3. Not going into all the details, but I've updated my signature today, it should explain if that doesn't make sense.

Every year since 2002, I get kinda depressed in February when my step-son's birthday comes around, in May when my step-daughter's rolls around, on July 17 because that was the day that our family changed forever, and at Christmas for obvious reasons.

It always passes, or used to. This past year, the depression started in November, and has not really gone away. I have more good days than bad, but I'm still having bad days outside of what I had come to think of as the schedule. When I do, I tend to be overly worried about thinking I've said or done something wrong (like the other night) The other thing is that it was the onset in November that partly led to me drifting away from ECF and starting smoking again.

I came back here, and searched for you guys, in part because on Jonathon's bday I promised myself I would stop smoking again, and go back to vaping. But when I get down, I go back to smoking, then feel guilty, and well here I am smoking more than I want to again. So, I guess that's where I am.

Sorry for bringing ya down, I just needed to get it said and that's what all the unclear things I've said lately have been about.

Oh, Jeezus, Kad. I saw this briefly when I was on the road, and didn't really understand. Now I see your signature, and the fact I've been depressed in my life, embarrasses me. On the few occasions I've dealt with it, I've said to myself "There are people with WAY worse experiences than yours, get a GRIP" which of course, never helps.

But Brother, Lord willing and the creek don't rise, I hope some day you can come to terms with your unimaginable loss, and the Black Dog that understandably comes with it. Prayers and bro hugs your way. I'd do way worse than falling down on a cigarette time to time, I'd likely drown in the bottom of a half gallon bottle. You have incredible strength.

 

[Sir Kadly]

Oh, Jeezus, Kad. I saw this briefly when I was on the road, and didn't really understand. Now I see your signature, and the fact I've been depressed in my life, embarrasses me. On the few occasions I've dealt with it, I've said to myself "There are people with WAY worse experiences than yours, get a GRIP" which of course, never helps.

But Brother, Lord willing and the creek don't rise, I hope some day you can come to terms with your unimaginable loss, and the Black Dog that understandably comes with it. Prayers and bro hugs your way. I'd do way worse than falling down on a cigarette time to time, I'd likely drown in the bottom of a half gallon bottle. You have incredible strength.

Thank you Brother!

I do have to say that going back and looking at what I wrote I wonder how anyone managed to read that. It feels like I was rambling and only semi-coherent, so I'm not surprised that you didn't catch it, especially while trying to wrap things up at the job site to beat the coming storm and driving 20 hours straight. In fact I'm a little surprised you went back far enough to find that tonight, shouldn't you be sleeping or at least resting or something?

I find it strange that I go out of my way not to ever talk about it with people I've worked with for almost 9 years, yet felt compelled to talk about it with people I've only known for a few months and never even met.

 

[tejas]

Geez kad, I just read that. You have my sympathy. I know a thing or two about depression, but I've never been through anything like that. Hang in there bro...

 

[DingerCPA]

Thank you Brother!

I do have to say that going back and looking at what I wrote I wonder how anyone managed to read that. It feels like I was rambling and only semi-coherent, so I'm not surprised that you didn't catch it, especially while trying to wrap things up at the job site to beat the coming storm and driving 20 hours straight. In fact I'm a little surprised you went back far enough to find that tonight, shouldn't you be sleeping or at least resting or something?

I find it strange that I go out of my way not to ever talk about it with people I've worked with for almost 9 years, yet felt compelled to talk about it with people I've only known for a few months and never even met.

Kad, that's what's so cool about this little group. There's a lot of love here. And some amount of anonymity Sometimes that helps make it easier to open up. I just know that we all really are a lot alike. Which IMO makes the conversation easier.

Ohana, Brother

 

[skullblade789]

Being married 13 years the man is always wrong. Still learning that lesson.

 

[LouisLeBeau]

Being married 13 years the man is always wrong. Still learning that lesson.

Your halfway there, Brother. Now, to learn to embrace your wrongness! And once you get comfortable with the fact that you are indeed, wrong, it isn't a long way to VERY wrong...

 

[Sir Kadly]

Being married 13 years the man is always wrong. Still learning that lesson.

OK, I'm gonna let you all in on a little secret here. There is a way to be right. You see, as soon as there is even the slightest hint of a disagreement, just immediately say "Yes dear, I am completely at fault, I don't know what I was thinking. I am so sorry" If you can say it sincerely enough she'll respond with something along the lines of "You're right, it is your fault" and voila!

 

[dcfluegel]

Your halfway there, Brother. Now, to learn to embrace your wrongness! And once you get comfortable with the fact that you are indeed, wrong, it isn't a long way to VERY wrong...

Yah, sometimes it's okay to just sit there in your wrongness and be wrong

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