My parents have cut me off because i vape
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Yes, housing and other expenses are rather astronomical there. A friend was trying to get me to move there, and all I could say is, "I really don't want to live in a cardboard box or a gutter."
I think the OP has gone AWOL.
On the off chance that he's still here...
Yeah, it sucks, but honestly, if someone is giving you money without a contract or an agreement, you have to unfortunately play by their rules.
I don't know how receptive your parents would be to the facts about e-cigs, but it might be worth a shot. However, you should be prepared to either quit vaping or find an alternative source of income.
On the off chance that he's still here...
Yeah, it sucks, but honestly, if someone is giving you money without a contract or an agreement, you have to unfortunately play by their rules.
I don't know how receptive your parents would be to the facts about e-cigs, but it might be worth a shot. However, you should be prepared to either quit vaping or find an alternative source of income.
If my parents paid for all of my gear I would have no complaints when I get something I don't like...but unfortunately they dont and I've wasted countless dollars. I've never gotten an allowence or anything like that because chores around the house were something I was expected to do, so if I wanted something I would have to come up with the money for it. If you didn't want them to find out you either should have been more carful about when and where you vape or confront them before hand saying it was something you were interested in and it would help you keep off the smokes. I remember when my mom first found out a few years ago she was more interested in it than mad at me. A little education goes a long way!
Stay far away from long island. Every bill is crazy expensive here besides natural gas. I've got 250 dollar electric bills, and I have a 2br apartment. And oil heat at 3 bucks a gallon. The town I live in has a 5k property town tax, on top of the 10-15k taxes. It's insanity. Most of my friends have moved to Florida, PA, CT, even Alaska. And these are people with college degrees...real ones too. Teachers and cpas. New York is chasing away it's educated youth. We are looking at moving to colorado after my girlfriends apartment sells.
Anyways, I get not wanting to work lol.. Working sucks. But you're giving up your independence. Freedom isn't free. Get a job or follow their rules. Most people work through college. It's not hard. I started college at 25 and graduated at 30 and have been on my own since I was 18. My father was sick and disabled since I was 19, ended up with a heart transplant a few years ago. My mom died of lung cancer when I was 16. I haven't had any family to fall back on since I've been an adult. You make more careful decisions that way i guess. I wouldn't be spending money on vaping if I couldn't afford it.
It's hard to have any sympathy for you since you have parents who care about you and who are supporting you and your excuse is you can't work and go to school? Most people do, and there's nothing wrong with it. The fact that you think it's an excuse, and then get mad at them for putting down some ground rules, well.. I don't know what to say about that except be grateful for the help.
I wonder if this is even for real. Of course your parents aren't going to pay for this stuff. Especially the smoking 14 year old. Get a part time job, get a full time job. Work at a vape store for products. Lots of options.
I guess it comes down to this:
Do you want to vape, or do you want your parents money. Cant have both.
It doesn't appear you are getting much in the way of sympathy here.
Do you want to vape, or do you want your parents money. Cant have both.
It doesn't appear you are getting much in the way of sympathy here.
Everyone I went to college with in the northeast seemed like they were from LI.
when we graduated and moved to NYC (even more expensive) I guess that's why so many of us lived in STUDIO apartments....with a roommate!!! LOL
If they had something special planned, you just figured out a way to make yourself scarce, like no money so you walked around a lot LOL
People had 1 bedrooms, w/3 people. Built a loft bed in one room, so 2 could sleep. The other person got to "live" in the living room.
Everyone did this stuff back then, we were all working (2-3 jobs) as well as paying off our student loans.
there's just something about living with mom and dad that doesn't quite cut it where "rites of passage" are concerned. . Most kids find ways to be grown-ups and have their own digs, and they are (or at least were) willing to make sacrafices to have their independence.
Maybe having comfortable surroundings is more important to them now than having adult idependence? I dunno. To me, there's a borderline creepy factor to living home at 30.......sorry, but.......there are other places in the US to move to, look for a job, etc. Kids move away from home all the time for precisely that reason.
Things were always expensive, when you are young and poor and paying student loans, you need several jobs to keep a roof over your head. Some people even do that and have children. (but they are grown-ups, at least.
)I guess I don't get the concept of perpetual childhood.
Advise them on the benefits of vaping, then go into the big wide world and get a job!
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Newest member, I can tell already, you are going to fit right in here! Welcome to ECF!
Newest member, I can tell already, you are going to fit right in here! Welcome to ECF!
Well thank you for your kind greeting! Looking forward to rambling around the forums.
~shakes head~ I just don't get kids these days... and I'm not even 40 yet! I left home two weeks after graduating high-school. We didn't have a lot of money growing up, and I knew there was no way that my parents could put me through college. I was the oldest of 4 kids, they still had 3 other kids that they had to support. I also knew that I didn't have the discipline to put myself through college. I would have ended up dropping out of college and working dead-end jobs. So, I joined the military. They fixed my lack of discipline, trained me in a marketable skill (electronics) and paid for my education, kept a roof over my head, food in my stomach, and sent me around the world to visit exotic places that I never would have been able to afford to see on my own. And ya know what? It SUCKED! But I'm better for it. So, I guess the point of my rambling is this: get over it, move on, move out and learn the skills and lessons that you need to be your own man. Become a contributing member of society. Chances are, you were born with two feet... stand on them. Don't be afraid of failure, accept that you will fail and learn from those failures. Trust me, you will appreciate things much more acutely once you have worked for them yourself...
I would too but my horns are loose
Of course you don't -- you are still one yourself
ooh -- the oldest sibling syndrome -- explains much
yeah I was in the army. Guess what? It SUCKED
yeah I fail at everything I do
Why u need money to eat ?? xD, get some cash on the net and talk with them, tell that chips are worst for you than vape
WTF o.o
WTF o.o
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