OK so this is WAY off topic.

[nonstinky]

I just don't know where else to vent my depression! I'm living alone now, lost my job (been in the medical field for 14 yrs...THOUGHT it was a safe career) back in May and NOW my unemployment only has 7 weeks left before IT runs out.

God G*d I've applied for SO SO many positions. Either they don't want me cause of my age, or a former employer is dissing me. (I have a suit going against the hospital that laid me off, in an illegal manner)

I know there is NOTHING anyone can say, and yeah, I am totally aware of the fact that I am feeling very sorry for myself. But I do not even want to get out of bed in the morning.

Here's my pity pot of the last 2 years:

I moved to this absolutely GROSS excuse of a city I'm living in, purchased a home that was a MAJOR scam, had a lawyer take my last $$$ as a retainer to sit and tell me how screwed I was for 45 min, then dropped the case and wouldn't return my retainer. Couldn't get ANY legal help so lost my good standing credit, the house and a lot of my possessions that were at the house (long story)

Lost the house, lost my job, lost my beloved Great Dane and my teen daughter with baby (she's young but she's fine, she'll be OK I know) moved back with her Dad, (followed the boyfriend) and NOW it's looks like I am going to be major screwed in 7 weeks.

Again I'm sorry I am the FIRST to admit I know it sounds like I am just on a big pity pot. But yep. I AM. I don't even flipping want to get out of bed in the morning. What for? Went from a "career woman" with very good credit and ability to a lonely depressed old goat that's outlook is looking BAD.

Just know this is a safe place to let it all out because who really knows me?

Thanks...

 

[shivadance]

Hope it helps to let it all out. And you're right, I don't know you, but I hope that something positive comes along for you that gives you a reason to want to get out of bed again in the morning.

And what an adorable pic of your great dane. Sorry he/she is no longer with you.

 

[Father Luke]

In a nice way, allow me to recommend that you see someone about
your depression. You're currently taking some major hits, and having
some extreme stress, and it just might be best to seek counseling dear.

All the best.

- -
Okay,
Father Luke

 

[SudokuGal]

It's ok to have a pity party every once in a while. My heart goes out to you; the age discrimination doesn't help in the tight job market. It is difficult to have faith and hope but if you can manage to find even a thin thread of it within you, grab on to it full force.
Please, if you haven't done it already, find some agency in your city that can help with the emotional stuff...this is not a time to bear the burden all by yourself.

Also, if you haven't been to the Women's Room, a subforum here, please join us. You'll get lots of support there. Some of the topics might even bring out a smile.

Hope none of this sounds partronizing. I truly feel for you.

 

[bearscreek]

Best of luck to you, and yes, that's an adorable picture of you both.

 

[Moonflame]

We all need to vent occasionally and thankfully here there are folks that understand and can sympathize. We went through a similar situation a few years ago and it is rough.

 

[surbitonPete]

I have a little bit of an idea of how you feel because I am out of work now and am having trouble finding anything.... nobody seems to want 57 years old's.

Are there any wealthy widows out there ???.......lol.

 

[SudokuGal]

Ya know, one of these days (if the economy does ever turn around), places are going to want us "oldies" back because we have a good work ethic and experience and there aren't going to be enough young people to fill jobs. I hope we're all in positions to tell them where to stick their job openings.

In the meantime, here's to hoping that everyone can survive the poor job market without too much emotional/ego scarring.

 

[Mac]

There are alot of people in the same shoes right now. It stems from a combination of our bad economy and unethical practices by money lenders. Don't give up! Alot can happen in 7 weeks, but nothing will happen if you don't get out of bed!

 

[BigJimW]

I am so sorry to hear that. But unfortunately, this is the nature of the beast in this country. And I honestly don't see a way out.

Where are these "jobs" Obama promised? They will never exist unless they are government jobs.

No manufacturing in this country. All outsourced to China. Former factories either torn down or turned into condos.

That leaves us as a service driven economy. There can only be so many police, doctors, lawyers, etc.

So, you could try for a job filling potholes. Or answering a phone from an irate customer why their CHINA MADE merchandice was not what they expected.

With millions graduating high school annually and can't find work, where does that leave us 40 something able bodied workers? With our ****s in the wind. That's where.

Face it, this country is going down the ****ter much faster than people like to believe.

And most, if not all, of us will watch it unfold in our lifetimes.

Fixing a dying nation always seems to be that "next generations" problem. We always put bandaids on problems to keep us afloat until the chickens come home to roost.

Well, chickens are home to roost. What do we do now?

Again, sorry to hear about your problem. But you're certainly not alone.

Think I'll move to Mexico.

 

[500KV]

# 1--You're not old. Throw that thought away.
Can you get any kind of a job or maybe 2, even flipping burgers.
It would not only provide some income, it would get you back out in the world and occupy your mind. I know I've seen more of the world than most younger people on here. (I'm old enough to be your father) so I'll talk to you like one.
Look at it as something temporary till things come back together for you. You're being entirely too hard on yourself right now and that's very counterproductive.
Try networking with some who might provide job possibilities.
Maybe it would be better to move, if possible, to an area with better job opportunities.
Consider going back to school, nurses are needed everywhere right now and so are hairdressers.(don't laugh) I know some who make more than plumbers and that's going some.
Anyway I can only wish you the best.

 

[nonstinky]

Thank you all so much for the thoughts on my pity post. What a neat group of vapors here. i did get up and work out real hard and am feeling a little better. I also started on SAMe yesterday and it seems to have taken the edge off. Either that or I'm enjoying the placebo effect.

Jim...I agree with you so much about what has happened to this country. I think I told you before I was definitely run out of my job by "Big Corp America". That's who "owns" our country...the big yolk dribblers witht he big cooperation's. Look at prescription drugs! And now all the small hospitals are getting bought out by the likes of CHS...this will totally "give away" my location but I don't even care:

CHS Watch

it's the grossness of what happened here. This site is all factual, it would have to be or the CHS could sue the heck out of our union. My story is video'd somewhere in the bowels of the site.

Hey 500...I do have active apps out there. A couple are actually even "still in review" in TX, AZ and Vegas.

I feel a little foolish for whining on here...but I have to admit it DID make me feel better. Again thanks to all of you!

 

[nonstinky]

PS I guess now you can get extensions on unemployment. Also thought of going back to school for my Cath Lab degree (2 years) but just don't know yet...that will be a last resort. I LIKE working directly with my patients and I LOVE trauma. Plain 'ole diagnostic X Ray is great. Lots of variety as your only with patients 20 min or so, your all over the hospital, not stuck in one place...etc.

I actually have all my fingers and toes crossed for a job in Vegas as they pay all relocation fees, it's a grave shift - 3/12's on and on...my dream shift. I have just gotten SO SO many "declines" that I tend to give up emotionally. Yeah, you would think they'd want older experienced people for grave....but us old experienced people also cost 5-6 bucks more/hr. And what is it all about anymore if not the almighty $$$...

Geez I'm getting on a soapbox here....gotta go shower.

Thanks again

 

[Justncredible]

yes, go to your dept of labour and demand to get retrained.

I am in the same boat, obamanomics.

Our waiting list just to get a intro for retraining is 2 months. No idea what I will try to get in to tho.

As for the depression, unless your having suicidal thoughts do not go see a doctor, as they will only dope you up, and the dope makes people suicidal.

It is better to keep busy, I been working on my truck and car, go see movies, now you can smoke in the movies, go for walks, buy a bike and peddle around, and BBQ with the neigbours, just keep busy. I even go clearance rack shopping, $60 jeans for $12 at jcpenny, levis even. Once in dallas I found a $300 shirt for $40, now thats shopping. Now you even have the time to read the labels in a grocey store, wow the crap they sell, its criminal, I am about to head to whole foods and get some pork chops and buffalo, 10 mile drive for me. If your busy having fun doing things you will forget being bummed out. And my unemployment is running out to, I called the union I am in last week, they slacking.

 

[mischiefgrrl]

I'm right there with ya, only I'm just now seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. I went through terrible death of a loved one, laid off from a job, lost my home, several years of extreme financial hardship even while working full time plus two part time weekend jobs, a lawsuit, and to top it off my wonderful side kick Buster (Australian Shepherd) died in my arms, then my two 14 year old cats followed. Had to move 6 times in 6 years. All the while trying to keep it together for my daughter. It was a 6 year nightmare that seemed unending but I had to just tell myself "This too shall pass" and get through each day. I found the joy where I could in friendships, quiet nights with my daughter and pets, etc. As optimistic as I tried to be, there were times when I just fell apart when nothing went right no matter how hard I tried.

There is a light at the end of the tunnel. You'll get through it stronger and more cautious than you were before. Just hang in there and know that this too shall pass. You're definitely not alone.

 

[tdstrike]

This is a story I'm hearing more and more from friends and associates every day. Maybe you could volunteer at a women's shelter or help out at a non profit clinic in your town, but you've got to get outta the house. Realize there are folks far worse off than yourself, with no formal education or job skills to offer. I know these words won't put food on the table or help your financial situation but the greatest thing about us humans is our ability to adapt to adverse conditions.

 

[Rhetoric Camel]

Sorry to hear about all your problems hope things work out better for you very soon. I'd give you my ****ty job if I could, you're stuck with no job and I'm stuck with a job I hate with a passion and I don't even give a **** that it's a job like everyone says, it sucks ... and I don't want to do it anymore. I'm about ready to survivorman the rest of my life.