Older Folks and Vaping Back Porch - Part Three

[oldbroad]

Thanks to all on this. Willie really had a more unfair thing totally out of his control happen to him. Many scars in our lives, it makes us what we currently are.
My sister just lost her husband of over 50 years totally unexpectedly in an accident. Funeral to be next week... I will do what I can to ease her pain, but I know it will just take time to scar over somewhat.

Thanks to all for putting up with my sounding off. It is a VERY rare thing for me to do. Not done since my last psychologist years ago. Which did not help considering how stubborn that I am

Robert...I've realized the short time that i've been blessed with this place how kind, generous, loving and thoughtful this bunch is, always ready and willing to reach out no matter if the situation is happy or sad.

As the old saying goes..."a trouble shared is a trouble cut in half".

I know first-hand your pain as I lost my oldest daughter many years ago...but she's still right here in my heart....

 

[oldbroad]

For KAY....A Belated





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As the song goes..." Oh baby, you KNOW what I like!"

unfortunately all I can do nowadays is look...glad I have great eyesight..

ummm..with my glasses on...

 

[Robert Cromwell]

I have been blessed about not losing too many loved ones so far. But as I age it seems to get more common....
You know you are getting old when the first thing you read in the newspaper is the obituaries to see who you know that died.

Now about that birthday spankin....
How we gonna go about that?

 

[Debadoo]

My sister just lost her husband of over 50 years totally unexpectedly in an accident. Funeral to be next week...

so sorry to hear this. But such a blessing to have had that for so long.

 

[yiddleboge6]

That guy is probably gay

LOL I'm here to tell ya'.....I've had....oops ......KNOWN a few good looking men who weren't gay

 

[Iffy]

Now about that birthday spankin....
How we gonna go about that?

By proxy at da Odyssey! And since you won't be able to make it down here...

 

[yiddleboge6]

Speaking from my own experience here.......We all expect to lose our parents at some point. We know there's the possibility a spouse may be lost, but.....the loss of a child leaves a gaping, raw whole in our hearts that never heals. As time goes by we just learn to handle the pain of that loss, and it only takes something caught out of the corner of one's eyes to spark a memory that brings the tears flooding to the surface once again.

 

[MikeE3]

--------------->Runs around on the porch screaming at the top of her lungs!!!!
YES!! I FINALLY finished that raggedy a%$ Tool Room Inventory!! Over 450 items have been marked, cataloged, pictures taken and put into a booklet! I literally screamed at the top of my lungs when I put in the last page. My boss laughed.

Last night one of the area managers came around, and I showed it to him and asked him if that was what they were looking for. He took a look at it, and said, "Yep, very nice work." Then he told me a little story that ticked me off and made me laugh at the same time. Last week he was at our base when my opposite was working. He asked my opposite how the tool inventory was coming along. This ballsy kid had the nerve to say, "Oh, um, well, me and Debra have a few things left to do, and it will be finished." I think my whole face must have gone red when he told me that.

However, the story gets better. The area manager tells him, "Really? Really? You think I don't know who's been working on this? And I know who is going to finish it too." A whole lot of stuttering took place right about then. So, they know. They've been knowing. My consolation is that Karma is a beast. I may not see it while I'm there, but, his behind will get bitten sooner or later one way or the other.

I've only had 3 hours of sleep right now, and I DON'T CARE!!! Woo Hoo!!

I am 72 years young as of yesterday..


I WANT CAKE N ICE CREAM!!!!

Happy, Happy Birthday!

 

[oldbroad]

I have been blessed about not losing too many loved ones so far. But as I age it seems to get more common....
You know you are getting old when the first thing you read in the newspaper is the obituaries to see who you know that died.

Now about that birthday spankin....
How we gonna go about that?

lightly , slowly and gently please....

 

[DavidOck]

For the birthday girl...

And the book!

 

[oldbroad]

Speaking from my own experience here.......We all expect to lose our parents at some point. We know there's the possibility a spouse may be lost, but.....the loss of a child leaves a gaping, raw whole in our hearts that never heals. As time goes by we just learn to handle the pain of that loss, and it only takes something caught out of the corner of one's eyes to spark a memory that brings the tears flooding to the surface once again.

But we DO go on,,,and cherish the time that we DID have... when the tears start i just let them flow...it does help...

 

[mmsjs5]

Ok, I know what some people think about how I do things, but I want to tell you about something that might make you feel better, so here goes.....

I have gone through loss, depression, anxiety, as well. My youngest son (13) used to be angry all the time about nothing. He's been very sensitive to the world since before he could walk. It was how his brain responded to most people. He couldn't put what he was feeling into words, all he could do is feel it. It culminated in him taking a swing at a teacher, when he felt the teacher was embarrassing him in front of his friends. I have been on a desperate search to find something to lift him up, without the use of the nastiest drugs they could force me to put him on. I searched Google for the answer. There were a few things that kept popping up. Exercise, yogurt, and amino acids. I started them in stages. The addition of the amino acid powder showed the most improvement. It hasn't been quite a month now, and my beautiful son is starting to show. There are several 'tests' that I've put him through, to see if it would trigger a past reaction, and he has gone through them without the outbursts I used to see. He says he feels better too. I have also been following the same routine, and it has improved my mood and my get up and go.

There comes a point when our reactions to things are not reasonable. We have to get out of the cycle. I believe that anything the Dr.'s can prescribe has to have a natural counterpart and always search for that first.

I hope that any part of this will help someone.

Amino Acids

 

[oldbroad]

For the birthday girl...

That was SOOO cute!!!!!


And the book!

 

[MikeE3]

Oh man ... what a 'read' the last few pages were. Everyone opening up ... I just love this porch ... we cyberspace friends have really connected in order to share the raw core of our backgrounds. And much more, that we can understand in our ways the stories of our porch friends and are so willing and wanting to support each other in anyway we can.

I'll not rehash our story but ...

I'll never use the 'phrase' in time you'll get over it to someone grieving from the loss of a loved one, especially a child. It's just not something you 'get over'. At best its something you learn to live with and in time you can find joy in remembering the time when they were physically with us. Strange, we get older, but they are always young they don't get older. The pictures we have of them are like frozen in time ... years pass ... you look at the picture ... and they are still the same ... and the love we have for them is still the same ... strong as ever.

Love and hugs to all my porch friends.

 

[Kenna]

I am 72 years young as of yesterday..


I WANT CAKE N ICE CREAM!!!!

Well Happy Birthday you ol' thang! Mine is Saturday. I'LL BE 61!!
I go for the presceen stuff for the stem cell transplant tomorrow. So far, so good. Mom's behaving, so no flare ups, no fever. Any of that could way lay things.

 

[clnire]

I am 72 years young as of yesterday..


I WANT CAKE N ICE CREAM!!!!

Happy Birthday Kay! Here's to many more!

 

[Uncle Willie]

Oh man ... what a 'read' the last few pages were. Everyone opening up ... I just love this porch ... we cyberspace friends have really connected in order to share the raw core of our backgrounds. And much more, that we can understand in our ways the stories of our porch friends and are so willing and wanting to support each other in anyway we can.

I'll not rehash our story but ...

I'll never use the 'phrase' in time you'll get over it to someone grieving from the loss of a loved one, especially a child. It's just not something you 'get over'. At best its something you learn to live with and in time you can find joy in remembering the time when they were physically with us. Strange, we get older, but they are always young they don't get older. The pictures we have of them are like frozen in time ... years pass ... you look at the picture ... and they are still the same ... and the love we have for them is still the same ... strong as ever.

Love and hugs to all my porch friends.

Mike, you know, sometimes it's good to go back to the roots of this Garden that we populate .. I know your story well, and being a Vet myself, it's stayed with me .. and yes, capturing a fleeting second of time, freezing that time .. and being able to revisit that fleeting moment .. well said, my brother, well said ..

 

[oldbroad]

Oh man ... what a 'read' the last few pages were. Everyone opening up ... I just love this porch ... we cyberspace friends have really connected in order to share the raw core of our backgrounds. And much more, that we can understand in our ways the stories of our porch friends and are so willing and wanting to support each other in anyway we can.

I'll not rehash our story but ...

I'll never use the 'phrase' in time you'll get over it to someone grieving from the loss of a loved one, especially a child. It's just not something you 'get over'. At best its something you learn to live with and in time you can find joy in remembering the time when they were physically with us. Strange, we get older, but they are always young they don't get older. The pictures we have of them are like frozen in time ... years pass ... you look at the picture ... and they are still the same ... and the love we have for them is still the same ... strong as ever.

Love and hugs to all my porch friends.

Very beautifully expressed Mike!

 

[clnire]

Well, I just got an email from a good friend that another of our long time dog training/showing friends has passed. Kathy has been fighting breast cancer for many years and it finally won. This is the third friend in as many weeks. Really makes you reflect on our own morality. So i am feeling some major pangs of sorrow too. I think I am going to go take a walk with my new life, Geordi, along the Ohio River for a few...

 

[oldbroad]

Well Happy Birthday you ol' thang! Mine is Saturday. I'LL BE 61!!
I go for the presceen stuff for the stem cell transplant tomorrow. So far, so good. Mom's behaving, so no flare ups, no fever. Any of that could way lay things.

thank you kenna! If you can, come in the hangout afterwards and share with us! And please try to stay positive about everything...