I'm crossing all my crossable bits for both of your loved ones. And everyone else trying to quit. I smoked menthol lights and found 18mg to be the perfect starting strength. I've since moved to 12mg. Of course all physiologies are different. I actually purchased sample sizes of 36, 30, 24, 18 and 12. I found anything over 18 gave me a headrush. I kept the 24 with me for about 6 months and actually used it at my weakest moments. It's impossible to even think about stinkies when you're in a nic-coma. 