My SO is in construction so he's a bit rough on gear. The TFV still works properly after about a month and a half, but we use the band around the fill port because when dragging it in and out of pockets the top can get snagged and rotate.
As for your actual questions, the lid itself hooks under the main top to prevent it being pulled up and the friction on the silicone mat under the fill port prevents it from swinging open. I have noticed with use the silicone mat becomes distorted which can allow it to open easier, I usually fix that by switching to the spare that was provided and letting the other rest for awhile to "spring" back into shape. Also, make sure the ridged side is facing up, it doesn't really work well upside down.
As for pockets, I think that really depends on the user. When I put a mod in my pocket, I generally have the top of the tank and drip tip sticking out so I don't have any issues. But if you put the entire thing in your pocket, just be careful when removing it. The drip tip can snag and cause the top to rotate, however we have not had any problems with it opening while still in the pocket. Only upon removal.