Vaping and your relationships?

[Claudia P]

Sadly I think your friend is probably right and this is only one example of what life would be with this person and probably better off to find out now and keep on looking.

My SO is not impressed and he's not buying it yet either, since we've been in this relationship for 14 years already I'm not planning on moving on. I just pretty much am going about my business and not discussing it with him at all anymore, no point in getting told off. I go out with him at times and vape while he smokes, and the rest of the time I vape pretty much where I want to in the house except for my coffee vape which he says stinks. I notice he has cut his smoking way down the last couple of weeks, but that's a topic I just don't bring up at all. If he quits he quits, if he asks about vaping I'll answer any questions he has, but he is going to have to be the one to bring it up.
I know he sees that I'm not hacking any more and he is, so it's completely up to him whether he quits or not and I figure it's completely up to me whether I vape or not.
We have a deal that he doesn't tell me how to spend my money and I don't tell him, we maintain separate bank accounts and share household expenses so that part of it is a non issue.

I'm sure there is a thread already. I searched for a bit and didn't find much. Besides, I am curious and lazy

I am just curious how vaping had affect your relationships past and present with your significant other, friends or family. Has it affected new relationships?

So far in my six month adventure, my girlfriend was extremely put off by it. Mostly because it singled her out as a smoker. It was kinda rough for a minute. I stopped going outside to have a smoke with her and that was a lot of the problem. I could never show her my first micro coil (that worked) without some sort of tension. After awhile I got the hint and pinned the issue. I started to only go out with her to vape and spend less time in the "lab" playing with my vape toys around her. Over the last month or so, she has cut smoking by 2/3 and as of the last week started vaping. Needless to say things are back to normal.

On the other side of things.

One of my best friends and I just went out on a double date, (i think) the third date with a guy. She has not used her PV in front of him until tonight. We are outside at another friends music gig. When she did, he treated it as if she was smoking cigarettes and wouldn't accept it. Telling her the usual "you dont know whats in that" routine. She stayed pretty calm and we all decided it would be better to go back to my place, her date not included. Sadly, that's probably over. She's a little distressed about it but still maintains that if he can't accept her and her habits for what they are then it isn't going to work.


So I guess we (the best friend and I) are curious to know how vaping has changed other peoples relations good or bad.

Thanks for your input.

Sincerely,
The Meerkat, The Chinchilla and The Giraffe.

 

[Brian Catalino]

This IS a great thread. Smoked over a pack a day for 30 years. My wife was happy when I switched to the ecigs (blu, mistic) but when those weren't quite doing it for me I started researching and got into the more advanced stuff. When I had bottles of liquid and drippers/syringes she thought I was doing drugs. Lol. Friends are curious, some co workers tell me about the anti news stories they hear and I have to reeducate them I actually converted 2 coworkers and have become my local ejuice makers biggest customer. She gives me great deals and freebies. Let's me test new juices she has created.
It's actually become my hobby now going from standard egos to vv & vw mods. Lotsa fun.
Funny thing I thought about....I'm a disabled retired vet with some major back problems. Couple years ago my doc referred me to a specialist. The specialist told me he would not do surgery or help me with my back unless I quit smoking. He went on to tell me cigarette smoke prevented the body from healing right and I would be wasting his time. I left him all ...... off thinking he was crazy. Got a different specialist, had my surgery, which helped but not as much as I hoped. Switched to vaping. Within 3 months I noticed a remarkable difference in my back pain. Almost a 50% improvement. I got me thinking about "the crazy specialist". How right he was. While my back isn't "cured" my quality of life is much better. I feel better, along with food tasting and smelling better. Wether there are any bad effects from vaping or not, it clearly is better than analogs. I'm living proof of that. We all are.

 

[Orobas]

TSo>SecondLife>ENtropia UNiverse>WoW>ATiTD>LOTRO Yeah My SL AV is 2004 Rezdate

I am that weird thing the Old Lady gamer.

BTW vaping is great for gamers. No more trying to find an excuse for a smoke break. Just take a vape and pull the next pack of MOBs.

On topic. People are going to believe what they want to believe when it comes to vaping. We can educate (and we should) but in the end it is up to them to learn.

Oh yeah? Poke me next time you're in world if you wanna, I'm Senga Recreant. We can go grief goreans or something. It'll be fun.

 

[swampman]

My wife has been super supportive. She was worried at first that i wouldn't quit smoking and have all this stuff layin around but that did not happen..shes interested in vaping to quit smoking now that shes found a juice and pg/vg ratio she likes. Gonna have to get her a pro tank mini i think...maybe one for me too here i go again....

 

[Claudia P]

And then there are those who use religion as an excuse not to have to take responsibility for their own lives or actions, like my brother. I'm not so sure he doesn't have a brain disorder. LOL He was raised Agnostic like I was.

Heck, I'm atheist and I dislike that assertion.

I don't believe it to be accurate at all.

Beliefs in a god or gods has more to do with deep tradition and upbringing than anything else, along with a hope (need) for there to be something more, someone to watch over us and who has our best interests at heart, which is a natural condition for the human mind. That's not any sort of brain disorder or mental illness.


Please understand that I'm not trying to be disrespectful of religious beliefs. This is just how I personally view it.

 

[swampman]

One of my best friends and I just went out on a double date, (i think) the third date with a guy. She has not used her PV in front of him until tonight. We are outside at another friends music gig. When she did, he treated it as if she was smoking cigarettes and wouldn't accept it. Telling her the usual "you dont know whats in that" routine. She stayed pretty calm and we all decided it would be better to go back to my place, her date not included. Sadly, that's probably over. She's a little distressed about it but still maintains that if he can't accept her and her habits for what they are then it isn't going to work.

Meh...Tell her not to fret. There are plenty of vaping young bucks that would like to meet an attractive PV (Oh and a nice young lady also )

 

[t2ak]

Meh...Tell her not to fret. There are plenty of vaping young bucks that would like to meet an attractive PV (Oh and a nice young lady also )

I'll let her know. I think she is gonna join the forum finally.

The Giraffe.

 

[swampman]

May she find her true love at ECF!

 

[Chas F.]

Le sigh you guys made me hunt down the video. Been too many years since I heard that song.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S7OjNP-5oII

Holy cr...cow! I haven't seen that in years.

 

[Chas F.]

I met my wife at a bar and when we started dating we'd hit the bar to hang out with friends and both of us smoked. At that time I was the regular smoker and she was a social smoker. After we got married and had our daughter she quit smoking and has been harping on me to quit ever since. I dealt with it for 10 years, DAILY reminders of the harm tobacco does and questions on whether or not I wanted to live long enough to see our daughter grow up. There were times I got more than just a little ...... off at her but only once did I tell her to basically s*f*. The fact she's a nurse AND and ex-smoker only made things worse.

In trying to please my wife, I've tried patches, gum and wellbutrin and none of them worked. The longest I've ever gone without a cig was 3 yrs ago when I quit cold turkey and didn't smoke for 6 weeks. When I decided to quit in August, I got a c-twist and a couple Protanks and my wife was happy...until she focused on the vapor production. That led to another showdown between us. I won that argument (I think) and since then she's been VERY supportive. Last night we were on our way to her sisters house and I had my mod in my hand and she said to just crack the window and vape 'cause I was driving her crazy twirling it around in my hand.

I get a lot more kisses than I used to. Once she learned that there wasn't any significant amounts of nicotine in the vaper I exhaled she calmed down quite a bit.

I'll be taking my nephew to a local B&M shop tomorrow afternoon to get him a setup and that will make my sister-in-law happy too.

 

[Vapo Marx]

No problems here. Chicks dig it.

 

[Eranda13]

I started vaping when I was diagnosed with tongue cancer in May. The ex-SO started at the same time I did- even though I told him *he* didn't have to quit- but the oral surgeon told me I wasn't even allowed around second-hand smoke anymore, so it would be out-the-door smoking for him only at my house. He seemed fine with it at the time.

However... a few weeks before he moved out, he admitted to buying a pack of cigs. I wasn't judgmental- that was his decision, and as long as he didn't expect to smoke in the house it didn't matter to me. His life, his choice.

He moved out in early August and I would bet my car keys that he's smoking again. He was the kind who would do something new as long as someone else (meaning ME) did all the legwork, i.e. researching stuff, finding new equipment, ordering things for him, giving him new juice to try, etc. He would never have done it on his own.

Whether my vaping and/or my doc's orders that I couldn't be around second-hand smoke anymore had anything to do with him moving out... I have no idea. He never told me it did. But when he bought the pack of smokes, I had a gut feeling that he wanted to go back to smoking but felt pressured not to because of my cancer. Leaving me was an easy way out of that problem. No more Eranda= being able to smoke if/when he felt like it. So... you do the math.

As far as everyone else I know (family and friends), they are very happy and supportive. My parents wish I would quit the vaping too, but they aren't going to harass me about it. My kids are thrilled.

 

[illitirit]

My gf absolutely supports vaping, considering I smoked a pack or more per day when we met. She doesnt smoke herself but the only time she gets annoyed is when i blow vape clouds in her direction so i can vanish and show up right behind her...to give her a hug

 

[joeybear]

My wife absolutely hated smoking, but loves me so she tolerated it...barely. Never smoked around her or my son. Now that I've quit, she kisses me a lot more and is tolerating the $ spent on gear. She knows I'm OCD and will start fast and then level out

 

[t2ak]

My gf absolutely supports vaping, considering I smoked a pack or more per day when we met. She doesnt smoke herself but the only time she gets annoyed is when i blow vape clouds in her direction so i can vanish and show up right behind her...to give her a hug

Haha I need to try that. I just got the Russian 91 and set it up with a micro coil and cotton. With a 50/50 mix it spews vapor. I might be able to pull that off.

And people say romance is dead..

The Giraffe.

 

[burtonsnowww]

my wife and i started vaping together, became a good hobby

 

[t2ak]

my wife and i started vaping together, became a good hobby

That's great. My girlfriend took a good interest into my rc helicopters. We now go and fly together. Granted not the best hobby to share because they are barely affordable for myself. It's completely worth it to have something we can share together.

The Giraffe.

 

[Rocketpunk]

I have become interested in RC vehicles as of late. Before this thread.

Giraffe. Direct me to the "ECF" of RC helicopters.

 

[t2ak]

I have become interested in RC vehicles as of late. Before this thread.

Giraffe. Direct me to the "ECF" of RC helicopters.

Pm sent

The Giraffe.

 

[KalNoodle]

That's great. My girlfriend took a good interest into my rc helicopters. We now go and fly together. Granted not the best hobby to share because they are barely affordable for myself. It's completely worth it to have something we can share together.

The Giraffe.

Seeing as we're all sharing what we do with our SO's, I thought I'd share what my honey and I do. My bf introduced me to WoW about 5 months ago. I've been addicted since.
However, Pokemon X and Y came out yesterday, and he begged me to pick it up for him between between the ceremony and reception he stood in yesterday. I was shocked he didn't whip out his DS during dinner to play.
When the wedding party was being introduced, the DJ described him as "this groomsman sacrificed a day playing his video games to attend the wedding." We laughed our butts off.