Vaping and your relationships?

[permafrying]

Seeing as we're all sharing what we do with our SO's, I thought I'd share what my honey and I do. My bf introduced me to WoW about 5 months ago. I've been addicted since.
However, Pokemon X and Y came out yesterday, and he begged me to pick it up for him between between the ceremony and reception he stood in yesterday. I was shocked he didn't whip out his DS during dinner to play.
When the wedding party was being introduced, the DJ described him as "this groomsman sacrificed a day playing his video games to attend the wedding." We laughed our butts off.

Sorry to be off topic but I want to play the new Pokemon!

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[Mrs C]

DH never smoked. We met at a mutual friends so he knew I did before we started dating. He never really said much other than the occasional comment about the cost when I would ask him to pick me up a pack if he was out running errands. He saw me try several times to quit and fail.

When I told him I was going to get a kit and try vaping, he was skeptical. I lost my job a few months ago and he was getting no work days on his, so money has been really tight. I showed him the math and promised that no matter what I would not buy another pack until I hit the break even point. Worked out to about a week.

He's not said anything, but I noticed he was watching me rebuild a head after I popped a coil dry burning the other night .
He did laugh when I told him to keep his paws off "my" multi meter.

 

[GetVaked]

My beautiful lady understands we all have a hobby. Hers is art. Mine is vaping. And we both respect each others hobby. Although hers makes her money and mine is a money drain.

 

[CommaHolly]

I started vaping when I was diagnosed with tongue cancer in May. The ex-SO started at the same time I did- even though I told him *he* didn't have to quit- but the oral surgeon told me I wasn't even allowed around second-hand smoke anymore, so it would be out-the-door smoking for him only at my house. He seemed fine with it at the time.

However... a few weeks before he moved out, he admitted to buying a pack of cigs. I wasn't judgmental- that was his decision, and as long as he didn't expect to smoke in the house it didn't matter to me. His life, his choice.

He moved out in early August and I would bet my car keys that he's smoking again. He was the kind who would do something new as long as someone else (meaning ME) did all the legwork, i.e. researching stuff, finding new equipment, ordering things for him, giving him new juice to try, etc. He would never have done it on his own.

Whether my vaping and/or my doc's orders that I couldn't be around second-hand smoke anymore had anything to do with him moving out... I have no idea. He never told me it did. But when he bought the pack of smokes, I had a gut feeling that he wanted to go back to smoking but felt pressured not to because of my cancer. Leaving me was an easy way out of that problem. No more Eranda= being able to smoke if/when he felt like it. So... you do the math.

As far as everyone else I know (family and friends), they are very happy and supportive. My parents wish I would quit the vaping too, but they aren't going to harass me about it. My kids are thrilled.

I'm so sorry you had to go through the break up of a relationship at the same time you were dealing with cancer. That's incredibly rough,,,,,,no matter what the condition of a relationship, it's a loss of dreams when it ends.

Hugs.

 

[DC2]

Once she learned that there wasn't any significant amounts of nicotine in the vaper I exhaled she calmed down quite a bit.

Show her this and tell her she should be so lucky...
Nicotine could be put on list of banned substances - Olympics - ESPN

 

[DougFNJ]

My Wife HATED my cigarette smoking and everything about it. She would constantly give me a hard time about it, spray my clothes with Febreeze, it got really bad and we argued often about it. I always told her I was a smoker when she met me, but had made the mistake back then of telling her I was trying to quit when I met her. Let me say I understand her concerns as a lot of her family members died from smoking related illnesses, and a good portion of mine as well. Her father just passed 6 months ago, she is frightened for my life, so I do appreciate where she comes from with it, but never appreciated the delivery of her arguments for me to stop.

So now I am vaping and she gets off my back until she went into her cousin's store who sells these. I buy a lot of juice from this guy, and have brought him some new customers. She went to his store to check it out one day and asked questions about Vaping. I don't know what was going through his mind, but he gave her an earful about a lot of the arguments against Vaping, that although it is heathier than cigarettes, it is still not healthy, that one of the active ingredients are a poison they use in Antifreeze, how it could cause Emphysema, and other breathing ailments. She told me not to say anything to him, but I am ...... and at some point I will. I had to show her article after article that I personally researched before going this route to quit, had to explain that I didn't just start doing this without first researching what I was getting myself into before I made the decision to do it, and I showed her what I had read about a lot of tests being done years ago, the antifreeze ingredient that concerned her, blah blah. Needless to say I have been purchasing my juice elsewhere. I left it off with her to get off my back, regardless what she thinks about the whole thing, I showed her 4 ingredients on the bottle of juice that is used vs the ingredients in a cigarette and made clear this is what I am doing, it will either be this or analogs. There haven't been arguments or comments since.

 

[t2ak]

My Wife HATED my cigarette smoking... There haven't been arguments or comments since.

That's really kind of a shame he explained it to her in that aspect. You would think being a shop owner, you would stay on the "brighter side" of the issue.

I'm glad to hear it has all ironed out.

 

[Patkid]

My most cherished relational improvement is that my G-babies hug me a LOT longer than 31 months ago!

I do owe many an apology to my family, friends, co-workers and strangers for my past self-centered addiction! BUT, dose days are *poof*!

Exactly what you said. Exactly.
I remember one particular incident. We drove 3 hours for the baptism of grandson #2. We smoked all the way down in a closed car.
I can only imagine the revulsion my dil had to swallow to hand her newborn to me.
To this day I am ashamed.
I shall make NO MORE of these shameful memories.
Amen and Amen.

 

[CommaHolly]

Exactly what you said. Exactly.
I remember one particular incident. We drove 3 hours for the baptism of grandson #2. We smoked all the way down in a closed car.
I can only imagine the revulsion my dil had to swallow to hand her newborn to me.
To this day I am ashamed.
I shall make NO MORE of these shameful memories.
Amen and Amen.

life is about learning and growing and admitting our faults to become the better person you've become.

Have pride that you've done that.

 

[Myrany]

Exactly what you said. Exactly.
I remember one particular incident. We drove 3 hours for the baptism of grandson #2. We smoked all the way down in a closed car.
I can only imagine the revulsion my dil had to swallow to hand her newborn to me.
To this day I am ashamed.
I shall make NO MORE of these shameful memories.
Amen and Amen.

The first step to becoming a better person is admitting our faults. The second is correcting them to the best of our ability. You have done these well!

Now it is time for third step...Forgiving ourselves for the now corrected faults.

 

[bluecat]

20 years my wife and I have been married. She finally threatened to leave if I didn't propose. Anyway one of the best decision I made. I smoked all 20 years. I have been vaping 1.5 years. She is slowly coming around on it.

I give her flow charts.... spreadsheets... CASAA info... she never looks at them... but slowly she iis coming around. Now if the insurance companies would just do their part and research... she would come around a bit more.

 

[CommaHolly]

20 years my wife and I have been married. She finally threatened to leave if I didn't propose. Anyway one of the best decision I made. I smoked all 20 years. I have been vaping 1.5 years. She is slowly coming around on it.

I give her flow charts.... spreadsheets... CASAA info... she never looks at them... but slowly she iis coming around. Now if the insurance companies would just do their part and research... she would come around a bit more.

you didnt' propose when you married her???? 8-o

did you just He-man drag her off to the alter or something????? Yanno, women don't like that stuff

(I'm just teasing you!)

 

[bluecat]

I tried the he-man thing but she gave me a right cross... I quickly learned my place in the relationship.

 

[t2ak]

you didnt' propose when you married her???? 8-o

did you just He-man drag her off to the alter or something????? Yanno, women don't like that stuff

(I'm just teasing you!)

they dont complain much after you club them...

 

[Robino1]

they dont complain much after you club them...

Better keep the cub handy

 

[CommaHolly]

they dont complain much after you club them...

don't let her get ahold of that club

 

[t2ak]

she took it away a long long time ago..

 

[CommaHolly]

I tried the he-man thing but she gave me a right cross... I quickly learned my place in the relationship.

good man!!!!!!!!!

 

[t2ak]

Better keep the cub handy

I hope you didn't take offence to that comment. It is in no way serious and was all in fun.

My apologies if I offended you.

 

[CommaHolly]

I think (hope) everyone knows we were just playing around and were in no way serious (god forbid!)