Whatever you gotta tell yourself to make yourself feel good. Especially love the part about how you got her to order the units for you by convincing her that setting a higher unit price than she felt they would sell for would sell more units when it is a price that you yourself aren't willing to pay after she has acquired the products at their expense for you.
Cost is the least important factor, as I already said:
I'll
buy one from her as soon as the resistance problems are fixed; I don't want
three with the low resistance, but I certainly want at least one that doesn't have it, and it's very unlikely that Quantum's batch will have the fix.
More importantly, she hasn't acquired anything for me, or any other single person. She's arranged a sample and said, as thanks for convincing her of the demand, we can reserve one if we email her within a 12 hour window. How you take this to mean she spent money to get products for
me or
us, I cannot fathom. There is not a single word of a single email you could point to that would indicate she thinks that - at least any sent to me, all of which I've posted, and those are the only ones to which I am privy and the only ones on which I am able to base any decision.
Legally you are entirely correct in everything you have just stated, however We were obviously taught differently where morality is concerned.
Cheap shots attacking my morality don't further your case: you had not, and still have not, given me the slightest reason to think I have done anything remotely wrong. There is no evidence to back up any of your assertions about commitments, risk for Doris, or anything else. The evidence in fact directly contradicts it.
I have already emailed her to apologize for my involvement in this matter and I know she stepped out of her normal guidelines of running this as a mini special interest group buy requiring you to commit to purchase prior to moving forward to product acquisition in an attempt to service your needs in this instance and I personally will be very surprised if you see her take that kind of professional risk to do that again. I just hope this has not placed her in any jeopardy.
She must have forgotten to send me the email mentioning any kind of commitment at any point. I must have forgotten to send her the email where I said I was committing to buy. All I remember saying is that I wanted a second flask, that many people wanted flasks, and that $70 was a price I'd pay for a flask. As I asked you yesterday: how long does your supposed commitment last? If she'd come back not in two weeks but two months, must I still have held off buying from other sources?
Are you seriously and honestly meaning that sending an email to a vendor saying "I want product X, will you try and stock it?" is morally a commitment to buy it if and when they stock it at some unspecified future date? And that not only is it a commitment, but it's a
de facto commitment, without either side needing to specify that?
She hasn't asked for a commitment, she hasn't once mentioned a commitment, she hasn't implied a commitment existed, and on the basis of her emails to me she could not possibly have taken any kind of commitment as existing. In fact, quite the contrary: she's thanked me for my help and offered as reward the chance to reserve one of the first batch. Had this happened a week ago, I would gladly taken up that chance. As it is now, I have made other plans and I will wait. I have absolute confidence that it won't make the slightest difference to her, and have been given no reason at all to think otherwise - not from you, and least of all from her.
As for jeopardy! OMG. I honestly don't know what to say. I've tried hard to understand your point of view but it is incomprehensible. The words you use do not in any way describe the communication that has occurred between myself and Doris. They do not describe anything that is close to reasonable. Doris has ordered 10 flasks, and will sell 10 flasks - in fact she expects to sell them so quick she was only willing to reserve one for me if I emailed in a 12 hour window - that's me with such a
strong commitment, you know? So important is it to her that I buy one that I could oversleep and not even get the chance to buy it. If that's really what you think 'commitment' means to Doris, then you're doing her a grave disservice.
I'm really fascinated to know what you think has happened here. Do you really think those flasks are going to go up and not sell?? What possible reason could you have to think that, given how quickly they sell everywhere else and how much unfulfilled demand remains concentrated in this thread?
As for her job being at risk, well! Sorry but that's beyond ludicrous - even if they didn't sell, it's ludicrous; doubly so given they so clearly will.
Lets just agree to disagree and call it a learning experience all the way around.
Whichever you prefer - I'm happy to continue discussing and equally happy to leave it as-is, your call.