What's in a name?

[Kate]

When setting this group up I wasn't sure what to call it so I started a poll to include suggestions and a few extra ideas.

We ended up having most votes for 'Wrecked & Bonkers' so that's what I've called the group for now.

This can be easily changed if we decide that's a good idea and there have been doubts about the wisdom of choosing a name that might be seen as negative for the people we are.

This is what Silver says:

... Although I like the name 'Wrecked and Bonkers' too (because it is hilarious and where in heck would we all be if we didn't have humor, eh ?!), I'm also a bit wary of picking a name with perhaps some 'negative' connotations, ie; anything that may 'put ourselves down' to the 'outside world' in any way.

What I mean is this; I always try to approach life (and my condition, with all its limitations) in as positive a way as possible. I feel I have to as if I didn't, I would probably go nuts (bonkers !) because it's so incredibly hard and exhausting to live with something that you can never get away from, even for a short respite. There is always the risk of blaming oneself or suffering from low esteem (never feeling 'good enough'), so I'm careful not to allow myself to become too negative about/down on myself (don't always succeed by the way !).

Perhaps too seemingly tragic or corny (please ignore if so !), but hence my suggestion of 'Better together' - ie; our situation may not be great (understatement !), but we make the best we can of it, and life in general, and support each other as much as possible to feel better.

Anyway, whatever name we end up choosing (what's in a name ?), it's très cool to be able to come together like this and learn from each other. Thank you to all who have come forward so candidly with their 'afflictions', I find it very interesting and informative as I had never heard of some of the conditions mentioned. I applaud your openness, honesty and courage !

Cheers,
Silver

The other suggestions can be found on this thread - http://www.e-cigarette-forum.com/forum/general-discussion/17218-disability-health-social-group.html

If you care one way or another about what this group is called then this is the place to talk about it.

 

[CatVTTV]

I do hold the views of others with the utmost respect and of course would not want to upset anyone in any way especially over a name.

I like the Wrecked and Bonkers title, as I have learnt over the years that if we cant laugh at ourselves life is going to be very depressing indeed.

I have learnt that laughter is better for us than any pill, treatment or lecture from a wise physician.

Here in this forum, we will be able to share, both negative feelings and those of a more positive nature, some of us perhaps for the first time, enabling us to help one another, even if that be a shoulder to cry upon.

 

[Mary Kay]

I love the name! I am a Wreak and certainly Bonkers, but I earned every disfunctional minute of it! I have had a life full of Love and tears, pain and joy and most of all laughter. The illness along the way..so what, no body gets out of this game alive.
I choose to play until my last die is tossed.

 

[Christopher]

I'll admit I was not a fan of it. Sometimes it's hard for me to joke about this stuff. But..... I like the name now, it grew on me quick I guess.

 

[mamu]

When I saw the title of this forum as I would browse the forum's home page I just assumed it had something to do with bikers or something along those lines so I never hopped in to check it out.

When gep recommended I join, considering what I had just posted, I thought aah..yeah..makes sense.

Now I think the humor of the title is perfect.

 

[nitewriter]

I think it's a great name! I also think we all "resemble" the name in one way or another. Isn't that what it was intended to do?

It's only negative if you are incapable of laughing at your own shortcommings.

 

[Mary Kay]

I am 5'3 and losing ground, are you laughing at my short comings?

 

[nitewriter]

I am 5'3 and losing ground, are you laughing at my short comings?

No MaryKay, I'm laughing at my own. (5'4" just to name one)

 

[Mary Kay]

Well being an untall person has it's perks! I don't care how the top of the top of the fridge looks. I never go there..out of sight out of mind. I wait for a tall person to complain about the dust bunnies and give them the dust rag!

 

[Walrus]

If not for the light-hearted nature of the name, I probably wouldn't have joined. I have to be serious with my disabilities every day. Another grimly titled forum wouldn't have appealed to me. I'm already a member of several across the internet.

 

[Silver]

Hi all,

First of all, thank you Kate for bringing this under consideration, I find it very interesting to read what others thoughts and feeling are on this.

Despite what I wrote in my post (and I do still stand by it), I do also agree wholeheartedly that humor is a very important aspect to being able to cope with what life has challenged us with. I found the name hilarious from the start and have also found, like others, that it has grown on me. So, as far as I'm concerned, this forum has it's name and it's a very good one too !

Might I also take this opportunity to say (again) that I am grateful and awed by the openess and honesty with which many of you have shared your lifes' challenges, and also by the kind, respectful and supportive responses.

I haven't responded much yet myself (healthwise not a great time for me right now, very low energy ), but am reading and it does more for me than I could have imagined, to know that I am not alone in my challenges. Thank you so much for sharing !

You guys/gals are great !​

Cheers,
Silver