Would you date a smoker now that you vape?
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If it were someone I cared about it wouldn't matter if they smoked or not. People can change if you care enough for a person you see through all of that and realize that people can change over time.
People can and do change over time, but entering into a relationship expecting to your partner to change to suit you strikes me as a prescription for failure.
Then again, the original question was, "Would you date", not "Would you marry". Dating implies going out, having, fun, and perhaps a roll in the hay, but not necessarily a life-long commitment, right?
I don't have anything against smokers, I used to be one. But I would not be able to get past the smell enough to get close to them -- I've turned down dates because of overuse of cologne/aftershave, as I also dislike 99% of perfume scents.
Frankly I always thought those who complained about the cigarette smell were whining cry-babies, but now I understand.
Andria
Frankly I always thought those who complained about the cigarette smell were whining cry-babies, but now I understand.
Andria
I wouldn't care either way, but I suppose I was raised differently. I married my wife when I was a smoker and she wasn't she didn't mind eventually she did become a smoker and then me a vaper and then she followed. I don't look at people and judge them on bad decisions, if I raised my nose at someone for their bad choices I'd need a space shuttle to move away from planet earth, either that or a very expensive nose job.People can and do change over time, but entering into a relationship expecting to your partner to change to suit you strikes me as a prescription for failure.
Then again, the original question was, "Would you date", not "Would you marry". Dating implies going out, having, fun, and perhaps a roll in the hay, but not necessarily a life-long commitment, right?
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As a moderate smoker, it's a tad challenging to not take offense to some of the comments here (in all their glorious ignorance). But I do take solace in idea that such ignorance could be played right back at the vaper and from never smoking, non vaper, they could be all like "oh you smoke those electronic cigarette things. Just on principle, I could never date a smoker like you." LOL. Would be hilarious to me if the anti-smoking vaper was met with that line when asking someone out for a date.
I'm very selective as to who I will let into my life and I have no problem completely cutting off all contact with those I see as childish, selfish and greedy, which is most of the earth's population. I'm also pretty particular about belief systems, I have very little patience for strong political and religious personalities and won't give them even one second of my attention/time. Actually any belief in anything that's strong enough to cause the believer to feel threatened is a turn off for me. There's not one belief/opinion in existence that anyone, ever, has come up with that's required/essential/needed for happiness or survival, the only two real essentials. Not one. I say all this to illustrate just how selective I am in regard to who I "let in", my personal sphere is holy ground. So it's very strange for someone like me to see a question like the one the OP posed, smoking is such a small thing in the grand scheme, something that doesn't register on the radar for me. The very idea, not getting to know someone because they smoke, makes me feel quite sad.
I'm also pretty particular about belief systems, I have very little patience for strong political and religious personalities and won't give them even one second of my attention/time. Actually any belief in anything that's strong enough to cause the believer to feel threatened is a turn off for me. There's not one belief/opinion in existence that anyone, ever, has come up with that's required/essential/needed for happiness or survival, the only two real essentials. Not one. I say all this to illustrate just how selective I am in regard to who I "let in", my personal sphere is holy ground. So it's very strange for someone like me to see a question like the one the OP posed, smoking is such a small thing in the grand scheme, something that doesn't register on the radar for me. The very idea, not getting to know someone because they smoke, makes me feel quite sad.
I'm very selective as to who I will let into my life and I have no problem completely cutting off all contact with those I see as childish, selfish and greedy, which is most of the earth's population.
Wow, you and me are a lot alike. Especially when it comes to our intolerance when it comes to Religion and Politics and the extremes people push on others. Growing up in a Christian family (who never went to church and didn't push their beliefs on me) I turned out to be agnostic and maybe even a little bit borderline Atheist. I won't marry into any family with strong religious views, I've already been through that load of garbage with my Ex and her Catholic In laws over an argument she had with me about circumcision and abortion.
When it comes to politics, people are just as bullheaded.. I can take one look at my liberal father and come to that conclusion. I'm just glad I'm well rounded and middle of the road. I wouldn't want any prospect for a wife to be extreme on either end.
I think it depends largely on the *woman* - rather than what she does or doesn't do. But smoking wouldn't bother me if she was good
I'm very selective as to who I will let into my life and I have no problem completely cutting off all contact with those I see as childish, selfish and greedy, which is most of the earth's population.
When your sense of smell is as strong as mine is, trust me, no odor is a small thing. I always hated the smell of fresh road tar -- now that I no longer smoke, I would drive 10 or more miles out of my way to avoid it. Smell is a passive sense -- there is no way to "turn it off", and for someone like me, that's a bad, bad thing, with bad smells.
I can't stand the smell of 99% of perfumes... something like cigarette smoke? No way, no how, no sir. I could maybe tolerate it in a friend... but a date? Someone that might want to get intimate? Nuh uh. Best just to not go there.
Andria
A smoker would be better than a vaper. No confusion about who retains custody of the vape goodies.
Happiness isn't needed for survival; some people survive life just fine being miserable. I've learned that happiness has to come from within rather than outside myself - no one or thing is capable of making me happy.
Our brains are wired for our survival, just like all life is wired to do. We're born. We live our lives. And then, we die. We have no control over the first and some control of the last, but everything that happens in the middle is up to us.
I'm sorry Ms. Universe, you are very intelligent, pretty and quite talented at juggling kittens. I appreciate you hitting on me incessantly, it is quite flattering. But I have decided not to date smokers. If you would convert to my values and become a vaper, there would be hope for us. No, you can't be a dual user, it is my way or the highway. Wait, wait, where you going?
Very wise words. Sometimes even I need to etch that into my brain sometimes. This should really be engraved on a plaque and hung up on my fridge to read every morning. Very, Very, Well said!
I never said happiness was needed to survive. I said our beliefs/opinions aren't required to achieve happiness or survival. IMO, happiness is secondary to survival (sort of a first world problem) but is still something we all seek endlessly.
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