Every time I try to quit smoking I begin to get stressed out and instead of using the ecigarette I go back to analogs to relieve the stress, now I want to go cold turkey but when I try I just begin to think about how my life isn't so great and lose my motivation. I'm tired of smoking, I can barely breath most of the time and I can't think straight but at the same time I don't want to think straight because then I will begin to think about how my life has been going downhill these past few years.
Most of my stress comes from my family arguing with me for any reason, my lack of motivation to succeed because I spent the past 15 years of my life in school and now the economy is getting worse and no jobs are available, a girl friend who told me she doesn't love me anymore and now is trying to contact me to stay in touch (I just want her to leave me alone after what happened), midterm & stress from studying for exams, staying at home all day because I can't afford a car, having no friends because I can't go anywhere (public transport isn't easily available and I have no money), people in my college constantly trying to get me to talk to them even though I'm angry about my life so I want to stay introverted, being bored of not having anything to do sometimes, seeing other people who seem to have better lives than me (better looking, more money, etc.), a fear of being happy and losing everything no matter how hard I try, and worst of all my own desire to ruin my life because I get my high from doing things that are risky/dangerous to my health in a way to be better than others.
I fear that if I stop smoking I will just fall into the trap of being happy and not letting someone else into my life who will ruin it for me.
Somethings I'm trying to alleviate the stress:
Meditation/Music
Weightlifting/Basketball/exercise
Eating more tasty food (I'm underweight)
Getting more sleep to feel better
Taking care of my health/my looks/my confidence
I'm just frustrated that I keep hurting myself and I can't find the will to even live (not suicidal just lack motivation to care). On top of it all the girl still thinks we can be friends and every time she contacts me I begin to think of how she hurt me and I start drinking/smoking again. I have tried ecigarettes but after a few weeks I am back on the regular analogs. I will graduate college in 3 more months so I'm trying to use that to motivate me to change my life but my mind always manages to trick me into having just "One more" cigarette, I buy another pack and the cycle continues of me hating myself for smoking, smelling horribly and having everyone tell me how badly I smell, my parents arguing with me for being stupid, my desire to live life on the edge.
I'm going to make a large order of ecigs and juice but I really need advice at this point because I feel like nobody else cares and if I don't care either...then I don't even exist.
Most of my stress comes from my family arguing with me for any reason, my lack of motivation to succeed because I spent the past 15 years of my life in school and now the economy is getting worse and no jobs are available, a girl friend who told me she doesn't love me anymore and now is trying to contact me to stay in touch (I just want her to leave me alone after what happened), midterm & stress from studying for exams, staying at home all day because I can't afford a car, having no friends because I can't go anywhere (public transport isn't easily available and I have no money), people in my college constantly trying to get me to talk to them even though I'm angry about my life so I want to stay introverted, being bored of not having anything to do sometimes, seeing other people who seem to have better lives than me (better looking, more money, etc.), a fear of being happy and losing everything no matter how hard I try, and worst of all my own desire to ruin my life because I get my high from doing things that are risky/dangerous to my health in a way to be better than others.
I fear that if I stop smoking I will just fall into the trap of being happy and not letting someone else into my life who will ruin it for me.
Somethings I'm trying to alleviate the stress:
Meditation/Music
Weightlifting/Basketball/exercise
Eating more tasty food (I'm underweight)
Getting more sleep to feel better
Taking care of my health/my looks/my confidence
I'm just frustrated that I keep hurting myself and I can't find the will to even live (not suicidal just lack motivation to care). On top of it all the girl still thinks we can be friends and every time she contacts me I begin to think of how she hurt me and I start drinking/smoking again. I have tried ecigarettes but after a few weeks I am back on the regular analogs. I will graduate college in 3 more months so I'm trying to use that to motivate me to change my life but my mind always manages to trick me into having just "One more" cigarette, I buy another pack and the cycle continues of me hating myself for smoking, smelling horribly and having everyone tell me how badly I smell, my parents arguing with me for being stupid, my desire to live life on the edge.
I'm going to make a large order of ecigs and juice but I really need advice at this point because I feel like nobody else cares and if I don't care either...then I don't even exist.