A question for the ladies here...
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Tried that once. She had me go “in there” for something and I couldn’t even get it open. Seems those buckles and straps on the front were just for looks and the hidden zipper was the answer. Silly me.And DO NOT get me started on this, “New Purse of the Week Club” some of you ladies are surely members of. Do you know what kind of "useful" crap us guys could by with that money?
Silly bear, they are there for a reason. You didn’t get into the purse did you?
Haunted, I just passed your wife in the hallway. She said she was looking for you and she does not look happy. I told her I thought you were in the tin foil hat forum just to give you a head start. Best of luck to you.
OMG, that is funny! Sad, but funny.
I feel your pain
My husband can take three square feet of junk and pack it into a shoe box. It's pure genius. The problem is he can't tell you which unlabeled box box he put something in or even where he put the box.
Tried that once. She had me go “in there” for something and I couldn’t even get it open. Seems those buckles and straps on the front were just for looks and the hidden zipper was the answer. Silly me.
Yeah, my husband has a hard time figuring out which "side pocket" I'm talking about... there's only 3... or maybe there's 4.
But I'm not a member of the "purse of the week" club. My idea of a good purse is one with many pockets, which will last for at least a year or two before it finally falls apart, and along with all the usual stuff like wallet, keys, pens, etc, it must be large enough to hold at least one book, and it must have a SHOULDER STRAP! Because ladies do sometimes need to carry other things, which modern purse designers don't seem to get. My mom, however, is a dedicated member of that club; she has a purse that matches every pair of shoes -- and she's got a lot of shoes. Once my purse begins to look like I found it in a dumpster somewhere, she'll give me one of hers -- and it almost never has a shoulder strap, so I end up going back to the old dilapidated one, until I can FINALLY find one to buy that actually has a SHOULDER STRAP!
(Yes, I really have wondered many times if I'm a changeling, because in many, many ways, I'm nothing like my mother at all. But, it's hard to quarrel with my parentage, since I look almost exactly like *her* mother.
)The only thing interesting about the interior of my purse is how much trash accumulates in it. Every store you visit, a new receipt, and I'm not a litterbug, so I just stash it in my purse. After a few weeks, the amount of trash paper in there, if it had NOT been made into paper, could have saved 10 trees. After a year? A whole forest.
So much for the "paperless society" they promised us when computers got to be a big thing.But anyway, if you can't deal with her purse, then try the same tactic with... hmmm... her lingerie drawer, especially where she stores her pantyhose/stockings -- men's hands are usually so rough, no woman wants them ANYWHERE NEAR her fragile nylons. It should have the same effect of her freaking out, as I first suggested with the purse tactic, and you can respond with the "what's mine is yours, what's yours is mine," etc.
Andria
My wife is not familiar with the concept of putting things away.
She just leaves things wherever they are when she is done using them.
The beauty of this is that I am the one that puts things away.
And so I always know exactly where everything is!
She just leaves things wherever they are when she is done using them.
The beauty of this is that I am the one that puts things away.
And so I always know exactly where everything is!
My wife is not familiar with the concept of putting things away.
She just leaves things wherever they are when she is done using them.
The beauty of this is that I am the one that puts things away.
And so I always know exactly where everything is!
This sounds a lot like my house... but, having been the recipient of this treatment enough times, I'm starting to learn (after almost 27 yrs of marriage!) to put my own things away, so that I can find them again! So don't give up. Hide enough of her stuff and maybe she'll learn too.
Andria
I do that a little... but not so much with a purse, but with whatever new mod I just got; I explain all the reasons it was REALLY WORTH whatever I paid for it... to a person who doesn't smoke, doesn't vape, and has no interest in either. It's a defense mechanism, to justify a purchase that a woman knows her man would never understand, so it must be EXPLAINED!
Andria
Mrs. Kodiak cleaned mine out once back in 92. She didnt understand that us guys who are fiscally responsible save receipts for everything we buy for at least 5 years. I explained this to her after the cleansing and now Im not allowed to carry cash.
No. And the gals in the checkout were quite amused. Not a single one of you bothered to assist me either. You all are so wicked.Silly bear, they are there for a reason. You didnt get into the purse did you?
Wiseguy knuckleheads. Stay with the tour!
Go on......
On the bright side of all this... I've been getting some very nice "apology" dinners and I'll probably get extremely lucky any night now. It might even involve that milk maid costume and some stilettos
On the bright side of all this... I've been getting some very nice "apology" dinners and I'll probably get extremely lucky any night now. It might even involve that milk maid costume and some stilettos
Any night now?! Poor Bear, I don't think she quite grasps the seriousness of the situation yet.
As I pass by things that are lying there I'll pick them up if I happen to be on my way to where they are supposed to go.
That's basically how things get put away around here, when they get put away.
But I've become accustomed to a certain amount of clutter now, and don't let it bother me if I have to pass it by because I'm not headed in that direction.
HOWEVER, when I get frustrated or aggravated about something, I start SEEING all the clutter EVERYWHERE and it exacerbates my state of disturbance.
And then I go on one of those cleaning fits you are talking about, and I enlist the wife to help since just about all of it is her clutter anyway.
She has grown to accept this occasional event as inevitable.
Just as I have grown to accept the clutter as inevitable.
I'm glad that both hubby and I are neat freaks. Although his office looks like it needs attention...... I'm not gonna do it
His office, his to clean
My office, mine to clean
Common areas....ours to keep neat.
Right. Makes perfect sense, but Kodiak hid his juice in a kitchen cupboard...
Some 18 years ago I decided to marry. Most of it is aa nightmarish haze now, but I distinctly remember a few things. I remember my new husband bringing his things to my house. They included several dead marine batteries, a box of dirty dishes, fabric full of holes that I think were once T shirts. I also discovered he thought the floor was a trash can and left dirty dishes and empty pizza boxes in our bed.
So yeah, if I had found some suspicious looking liquid hidden in a cupboard i'd have pitched it without a second thought, shaking my head as I did it.
So yeah, if I had found some suspicious looking liquid hidden in a cupboard i'd have pitched it without a second thought, shaking my head as I did it.
He needs an office
With a door
and a lock
maybe even a deadbolt
bigger house
more money
I digress
so..all this, most of the the thread, is why that on my list of stuff that potential partners need to have (a list that includes a sense of humor and all of his teeth, or a reasonable facsimile thereof) having his very own house is really, really near the top.
Ok you smart ladies. Heres the deal
While I concede that my e-juice was in Mrs. Kodiaks domain, it was carefully positioned right behind my special blend of imported Columbian coffee. Put on a shelf I was allowed to have all to myself I might add. (I have witnesses to this effect). I put it there (on *my* shelf) because every time I reached for the coffee Id remember to shake my e-juice. A brilliant example of male laziness if I do say so myself.
So, there shall be no sides taken in this. No manipulation of the facts using your feminine wiles. There shall be no blind defense of another member of the female species. This is one of those rare and documented moments in history when an actual male is clearly innocent of all wrong-doing.
And now I have a milk maid costume to put on. I hope it still fits.
And his wife apparently thinks that's where one stores the dog shampoo...
Ok you smart ladies. Here’s the deal…
While I concede that my e-juice was in Mrs. Kodiak’s domain, it was carefully positioned right behind my special blend of imported Columbian coffee. Put on a shelf I was “allowed” to have all to myself I might add. (I have witnesses to this effect). I put it there (on *my* shelf) because every time I reached for the coffee I’d remember to shake my e-juice. A brilliant example of male laziness if I do say so myself.
So, there shall be no sides taken in this. No manipulation of the facts using your feminine wiles. There shall be no blind defense of another member of the female species. This is one of those rare and documented moments in history when an actual male is clearly innocent of all wrong-doing.
And now I have a milk maid costume to put on. I hope it still fits.
I have a question: how does your wife feel about your vaping? Is she somehow, in some way, hostile to it? Or, alternatively, have you done anything lately that would prompt this kind of passive-aggressive spite? Because frankly spite is the only way I would do anything at all to anything of my husband's, and maybe not even then. The most I would do is ask him, what's this, is it important, etc etc... To me it really does seem like passive-aggressive payback of some kind.
Andria
We don't come up with these ideas randomly. If a person frequently puts non-food, non-cookware, and non-dinnerware in the kitchen cabinets and leaves them there until someone else cleans it up, they aren't allowed to be surprised nor upset when said clean-up happens.
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As I pass by things that are lying there I'll pick them up if I happen to be on my way to where they are supposed to go.
That's basically how things get put away around here, when they get put away.
But I've become accustomed to a certain amount of clutter now, and don't let it bother me if I have to pass it by because I'm not headed in that direction.
HOWEVER, when I get frustrated or aggravated about something, I start SEEING all the clutter EVERYWHERE and it exacerbates my state of disturbance.
And then I go on one of those cleaning fits you are talking about, and I enlist the wife to help since just about all of it is her clutter anyway.
She has grown to accept this occasional event as inevitable.
Just as I have grown to accept the clutter as inevitable.
Never give up! Persistence pays off! You just have to be the most neurotic person in the house.
I have a huge hoard of found items that are now mine, due to the finders-keepers rule. I make them pay me(usually in chores and favors) in order to get their stuff back. I currently have my son's phone. It oughtta be good for a whole weekend worth of yardwork. *evil laugh*- Status
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