I agree with everything you posted there schaedj, but this statement confused me. I have a 6 year old daughter who OBVIOUSLY knew I smoked. No hiding the smell, etc.
She's THRILLED that her mommy has now 'quit' smoking. She's my biggest supporter.
Is it that you have VERY young children, I can MAYBE see what you said but, trust me, they know you smoke. What's with the dogma that vaping is a NEGATIVE thing?
Just curious!
My oldest child (10) *knows* that I used to smoke. However, she has never seen me smoke, and I have never smoked within 15min of the house or her. I never smoked on the weekends or any family time. The reason my oldest knows is that one of our foster children (two years older) found a pack in my car and told her I smoked. She didn't believe him, and called him a liar, but I had to fess up, because I don't lie, and didn't want to hurt the older child, even though he was trying very deliberately to hurt me and my daughter. (Not deliberately revealing an unpleasant truth to a child is a different category). My other 4 (8,7,3,1) don't realize that I smoked, and weren't around when it came up two years ago. That said, I could explain to
her that I have switched to vaping, but at this point, what I have chosen to do instead is more casually make the fact known by being more open with my preparations for vaping. Eventually I will explain it, and I have chosen to switch to mods since they are more obviously NOT cigarettes. In the meanwhile, I wouldn't want a security guard to pull a package of assembled minis out of my luggage in front of my kids for several reasons.
1) Because the "fear factor" associated with a security situation would change the dynamic and make my kids feel that I was doing something wrong.
2) Because it would immediately confront the issue and cause me to lose the ability to control the way that I reveal it to them.
3) The hassle of the security thing in general.
Because of that, I completly empathize with the OP, and so I was trying to help him with possible solutions / alternatives that I would try in the same situation.
Cheers!
Edit* - I'd also like to point out, that although I have smoked for 20+ years (started as a teen), and I enjoy vaping, I don't want my children to smoke or pick up vaping as a habit, especially in today's cultural environment. Maybe someday, when it is both controlled and socially acceptable, they may choose to do so (as adults), but I am doing it now because I was a smoker, and it is a safer alternative. I don't want to be a wet blanket, but after everything I have dealt with over the years, I wouldn't wish that on anyone, and especially not my children.