Girlfriend won't quit analogs! Help!

[Starlight Express]

So, I started vaping two and a half months ago. I started with a V2 Cigs brand cigalike starter kit. I was ecstatic, and I completely quit analogs cold-turkey about a week later. I got my girlfriend to try it as well, and she liked it, but didn't like it enough to quit analogs. She said that it just isn't like smoking a real cigarette, it's just not the same to her.

I even went out of my way to buy her an extra charger, give her my extra automatic battery, and buy her a strong cigarette flavored e-liquid (Torque56 by Halo, also, I'm not a fan of tobacco flavors...I started vaping to AVOID the nasty flavor of cigarettes ). She liked it, but it still wasn't the same to her!

I don't think it was because the nicotine was too low, because the nic content on it was 18mg/ml. I've gotten her to try a wide variety of different flavors, but she's stuck on analogs. I can't stand the way she smells after she smokes, and I feel like I'm kissing an ashtray (like none of us have ever heard THAT before )

So my question is, would you guys recommend any strategies to try to get her to convert? Also, do any of you guys have a similar problem, where your spouse/significant other won't quit smoking even though you've tried to convert them? I'd love to hear your stories, and/or any successful methods that you have used to convert a smoker.

 

[Papadragon]

She will vape only when she wants to you can't make people ! You can take a horse to water but you cant make it drink !

 

[Iffy]

... because the nic content on it was 18mg/ml. I've gotten her to try a wide variety of different flavors, but she's stuck on analogs.

Depending on her smoking habits, that may be a bit too low. Have her try 24 mg and go from there. ALSO, find her a fav flav and half your battle is won!

Da udder half is dependent on whether she REALLY wants to quit 'bakky!

 

[Smokachino]

I have a friend like that. She'll vape in places she can't smoke, but for whatever reason she has no intention of giving up the analogs. I try to lead by example, but she's an adult and free to make her own choices (glad I don't have to kiss her, though).

The ONLY time I had her full attention when extolling the virtues of vaping was when I told her it decreased my appetite

 

[spartanstew]

There's lots of potential girlfriends out there.

 

[RosaJ]

Take her to a B&M and let her try other flavors and other equipment after all you expect her to like your old equipment and discarded flavors... She may enjoy flavors like fruits, cinnamon buns, chocolate, etc. better than the tobacco flavors.

 

[CaliforniaGirl]

OP, she's just not ready. Think of it this way: when you were a smoker, how would you have felt if your then-girlfriend had quit smoking one way or another, and then became evangelical about it, bugging you continuously to try her way...then to try THIS...then to try THAT...oh no, how about THIS instead...

Wouldn't that have bugged the unholy snot out of you?

And what if she had solicited advice about how to "convert" you?

Wouldn't you have walked? I would have if it had gotten bad enough. Nope, don't really need a significant other trying to control me. I realize you don't want to "kiss an ashtray" but I'll bet there have been girlfriends in the past who felt the same way about you. You switched to vaping on YOUR time, I'm assuming. Nobody stood over you with a vape 24/7, shaking it in your face and begging you to try just one more time in a different flavor or strength. Give her room. She isn't ready.

If you can't live with that, it's possible the two of you can't be together. If you can, you'll have to be patient. She may never like vaping. Some current and former smokers never do. That's just life. I know it's hard, you're thinking of her health, etc., but you really can not "make" her switch to vaping.

 

[Thrasher]

some people dont want to make any effort and just wont stop, as soon as any detox or struggle to maintain surfaces they are done with vaping the girl at work was the same way. got her some nice stuff as a birthday present 2-3 weeks later she was back smoking telling me its not the same thing.

 

[Butters78]

Tell her the James Franco vapes. The women love the James Franco.

 

[ZNinja]

My wife is being stubborn as well. LOL. Here's what I know about her...the more I push the more she resists. So I just don't say anything and vape away. She'll come around someday I hope. If not, well...I can't force her.

 

[WarHawk-AVG]

Show her this video...then tell her it's cheaper and it doesn't have that in it



AND she can get whatever flavor she wants, and not just "ashtray"!!!

 

[retired1]

OP, she's just not ready. Think of it this way: when you were a smoker, how would you have felt if your then-girlfriend had quit smoking one way or another, and then became evangelical about it, bugging you continuously to try her way...then to try THIS...then to try THAT...oh no, how about THIS instead...

Wouldn't that have bugged the unholy snot out of you?

And what if she had solicited advice about how to "convert" you?

Wouldn't you have walked? I would have if it had gotten bad enough. Nope, don't really need a significant other trying to control me. I realize you don't want to "kiss an ashtray" but I'll bet there have been girlfriends in the past who felt the same way about you. You switched to vaping on YOUR time, I'm assuming. Nobody stood over you with a vape 24/7, shaking it in your face and begging you to try just one more time in a different flavor or strength. Give her room. She isn't ready.

If you can't live with that, it's possible the two of you can't be together. If you can, you'll have to be patient. She may never like vaping. Some current and former smokers never do. That's just life. I know it's hard, you're thinking of her health, etc., but you really can not "make" her switch to vaping.

My gawd. I'm in love. Not every day you see a gal with a common sense point of view. Well done.

 

[Baditude]

For a lot of smokers, smoking is a security blanket. Most smokers smoke more frequently and heavier when under stress, because it "calms them down". In reality, nicotine is a stimulent and fills a need for dopamine receptors when under stress. So quitting cigarettes would be equivalent to losing an "old friend". There's a lot of complex psychology and human nature aspects in trying to quit such an addictive substance as tobacco.

She will quit when she makes the decision to. Until she makes that decision, she can at least cut down on her consumption of analogs if she agrees to vape when around you, and continue to smoke when away from you. Give her some breath mints each time you go to kiss her (Not so subtle hint. ). Have some air freshner spray for your car or home and use it if you still allow her to smoke in your car or home. Maybe she'll get the hint.

 

[WarHawk-AVG]

OP, she's just not ready. Think of it this way: when you were a smoker, how would you have felt if your then-girlfriend had quit smoking one way or another, and then became evangelical about it, bugging you continuously to try her way...then to try THIS...then to try THAT...oh no, how about THIS instead...

Wouldn't that have bugged the unholy snot out of you?

And what if she had solicited advice about how to "convert" you?

Wouldn't you have walked? I would have if it had gotten bad enough. Nope, don't really need a significant other trying to control me. I realize you don't want to "kiss an ashtray" but I'll bet there have been girlfriends in the past who felt the same way about you. You switched to vaping on YOUR time, I'm assuming. Nobody stood over you with a vape 24/7, shaking it in your face and begging you to try just one more time in a different flavor or strength. Give her room. She isn't ready.

If you can't live with that, it's possible the two of you can't be together. If you can, you'll have to be patient. She may never like vaping. Some current and former smokers never do. That's just life. I know it's hard, you're thinking of her health, etc., but you really can not "make" her switch to vaping.

Wait...I thought love was that feeling of finding that special someone you could annoy
And marriage was letting you annoy them the rest of your life



Yeah...my wife ain't quit either

 

[Starlight Express]

I have a friend like that. She'll vape in places she can't smoke, but for whatever reason she has no intention of giving up the analogs.

That sounds exactly like my girlfriend. After she gave birth (August 6th) she vaped in the hospital room because she wasn't allowed to leave. The day after, when her friend Jessica arrived, she started sneaking out of the hospital with her to have a cig. They claimed they were "going to the vending machines."

 

[SilentVapidity]

Tell her the James Franco vapes. The women love the James Franco.

Does he really? Swoon!!

 

[Papadragon]

Well I have a buddy that has women that he will take on a date and he vapes mech mods so there clouds huge clouds he always has the problem thay don't like him vaping they don't like people looking at them all the time when he does ! Ther imbarest by it

 

[WarHawk-AVG]

Well I have a buddy that has women that he will take on a date and he vapes mech mods so there clouds huge clouds he always has the problem thay don't like him vaping they don't like people looking at them all the time when he does ! Ther imbarest by it

Maybe that is the guy version of the "best friend bailout call"

 

[vjc0628]

So, I started vaping two and a half months ago.

I even went out of my way to buy her an extra charger, give her my extra automatic battery, and buy her a strong cigarette flavored e-liquid

I can't stand the way she smells after she smokes, and I feel like I'm kissing an ashtray (like none of us have ever heard THAT before )

Really?

I guess she is obligated since you went out of your way

Id be surprised if she is not resentful you do seem kind of self righteous (I'm sorry just don't know a nicer way to tell you the truth you might need to hear)

if you love her the back off,she is not ready

 

[SFBrianT]

I would dump her. but then again, I don't have any experience with women.