Puzzled

[Aresi]

Okay, here's my situation.

I smoked for about 10 years. I know not long, I had a two year break in there, so about 8 years total. My roomie hated it. I couldn't smoke in the apartment or car. If she got in the car after I'd had a cig outside the car she'd wrinkle her nose and tell me I stink. But she always bribed me to do things for her with packs of smokes. I've known my roomie for, well, over a decade. We went to middle and high school together. We consider eachother sisters.

3 weeks ago I got my first e-cig kit. She was skeptical of it. I can vape in the house, but not in the car. (Technically it's her car anyway. I'm just the only one of us with a licence.) Fine, I vape in the car anyway, she hasn't noticed. She STILL gives me grief about it, saying I haven't really quit smoking, I've just taken up another habit. Yes, I still get the nicotine. I've shown her my cig. I've told her what's in the juice. I mentioned it to one of her co-workers who needs a ride this week to work. She grumbled a bit about it, and how I haven't really quit smoking.

It bugs me that she still gives me grief over 'smoking'. I don't know what to do, what I can tell her to make her realize, this is a big thing. A Major Deal. My boyfriend is happy, heck, my grandparents are happy. Why can't she be happy?

 

[keyzygirl]

Maybe she just doesnt want to be happy for you.Whats important is that you are happy and you know your doing a good thing that will have positive results on your health.When she sees the improvements she will have to admit its a good thing.Dont worry about it,just enjoy it.

 

[Mary Kay]

A lot of people are like that. If they smoked and quit cold turkey they are mad that you are getting an easy ride. yeah right. So it's a whole "I did it the hard way!!!
For those who never smoked it's one addiction for another. Soooo? What's the harm? I am addicted to Nic..but not the other 400 other things in cigs. Tell them to stop eatting tomato's Potato's and any kind of peppers..there goes the salsa and potato skins for superbowl! All those things have nic in them. Also they can now quit drinking coffee and soda!
This is something you are doing for yourself. Compared to smoking it's better. Of course we don't know long term what the end results and risks will be but I haven't sprouted and extra ear or anything. My medical results on B.P. and Diabetes are much improved. Alas it hasn't caused weight loss (it did for a while though). However we know what the results of smoking are.
My grands worry that I won't quit e-cigs. They like them and all..but they want me off everything. I tell them..turn off the noise you listen to and buy pants that fit! LOL
Just get educated on E-cigs and explain the benifits the best you can. Tell her you may want to qit everything in the future after the cravings are gone...or not. It's your choice and thank you for caring.
BTW, I live with a smoker who dabbles in E-Cigs. I don't want his cigs anymore..in fact I quit following him around for some 2nd hand smoke! I can go days without an E-cig...but I do like them and the flavors!
I meant to add the flavoring is probaly in her muffins and cupcakes and there is P.G. in her toothpaste, icecream and makeup. Of course those things are not atomized into a mist except at concerts and on stage(the fog machines).

 

[sheryder]

Famous Quote: You can please some of the people all of the time and all of the people some of the time but you can't please all of the people all of the time? (Don't remember who said it first <grin>.)

Are you pleasing yourself?

 

[Aresi]

Oh, the directions I could take that Sheryder. LOL! Am I happy with my choice? Yes. Very much so. It just bugs me that someone who is so...*trails off as she sees the mail carrier and runs off, returning after plugging her passthru in and vaping happily* Where was I? Oh...yeah. It kinda bugs me that someone who is so close to me just can't seem to see the benefits.

 

[Mary Kay]

"You can fool all the people some of the time, and some of the people all the time, but you cannot fool all the people all the time." - Abraham Lincoln

A common variation is the following:

"You can please all the people some of the time, and some of the people all the time, but you cannot please all the people all the time."

 

[classwife]

All posts well said !

Even my mom (a smoker) says..."so when are you going to quit that ?" ??!!! geez.....she has a 510 kit and "doesn't like it"...(won't try much)

So...just look out for yourself as best as you can !! I have a feeling your friend will come around !

 

[Fudgey]

I work with a lady that smokes, when the weather was still nice I would go outside with her. It took me 6 months to get her convinced I was not smoking. I think what got her was when I said I am not enhaling burning tobacco and paper. Now she is jealous because I don't have to go outside in this bad weather, I just go to the ladies room....LOL. She asked me if she could try one so I am going to give her a 510 kit to see if she likes it. For some people it just takes time, don't let her discourage you. Maybe next time she says anything you can tell her...yes I know how you feel you have told me plenty of times.

 

[Seabrook]

All advice given is excellent. Perhaps she wanted to see you quit smoking cold turkey. Be patient, she may come around yet. Maybe she just hasn't thought it out clearly and realized that she actually is really proud of you. I'm happy for you for quitting, good job!

 

[Aresi]

Thank you ladies for your advice. I'll just keep on doing what I am, and being proud of myself. And basking in the pride of the rest of those who are proud of me.

 

[Mary Kay]

That's the attitude! This is the best support group ever! Keep hanging with us and you will have sucess.

 

[CES]

No one's really given me grief about vaping. A couple of people have asked, but i just answer very matter of factly. oh, and I throw in lots of data, references to studies, and some of what MK suggested. Their eyes glaze over and they never, ever ask me again

time also makes a difference- they're seeing me stick with this and not being defensive. I know this isn't the point of the thread- but gradually my some of my smoking friends are stating to switch over, but in their own time and by their own choice.

 

[Seabrook]

No one has given me grief about vaping either. My family is thrilled that I don't smoke the tarsticks anymore. Now they're so used to seeing me vape that they don't even comment on the novelty of it. Although I do see their noses twitch a little to try to smell and guess the flavor.

 

[Mary Kay]

My Grandsons play "guess the flavor"! The one they like best is RY4..once I was vaping it and my granson jumped up and yelled 'Toast"! he thought G'pa was making a late breakfast!
I vaped around the guys doing the recovery on my house and he said are you chewing grape gum? I had a purple E-cig in my hand for pete's sake!
I do notice less is better when explaining E-Cigs. If they want more info I send them here. For it to be a sucess they need to do thier own research. People I have set up dropped it after the first week. It was just a novelty and they had no investment in it, or they didn't follow up on research or maybe they just weren't ready.
My best friend got a full kit from me, I sat her down and showed her everything and even gave her a makeup kit to keep all the stuff in. I have never seen her use it but once!
No I rarely get negative remarks, but I also don't get serious interest.

 

[Aresi]

I actually converted a friend of mine to e-cigs, and I'm considering cutting my kit in half for a friend who needs it until he can get his own. Poor guy.

 

[Fudgey]

No one has given me grief about vaping either. My family is thrilled that I don't smoke the tarsticks anymore. Now they're so used to seeing me vape that they don't even comment on the novelty of it. Although I do see their noses twitch a little to try to smell and guess the flavor.

My family is the same way, very excited that I quit. My daughter said she would go to MO with me in April and made the comment "It will be even nicer in the car since you don't smoke" DH tries to figure out what I am vaping too....LOL

 

[Katattack]

I think some people get very fixed ideas of the "right and wrong" ways of doing things. My 1st husband feels everyone should just quit cold-turkey and if people smoke around them it shouldn't make a difference (he's never successfully quit ever). I mentioned starting vaping again and he smirked and said "yeah I'm thinking of trading in one addition for another too." I just rolled my eyes.
Let me add though that my kids and my siblings think that I'm doing a great thing and support how I'm doing it.

 

[Mary Kay]

If you ask me that's called pig headed! But you seem to be nicer then I am!

 

[Seabrook]

Yeah, I don't think those who have never smoked realize what a grip all those wiked chemical in cigarettes can get on a person. I remember when I was young, I had the belief that I could just quit any time I wanted to. That's sure not how it is, though.

 

[Cynnamin]

Kudos for stopping the cigarettes.

It is unfortunate that she used to bribe you with smokes and now she can't be proud that you're doing something that you know os making you feel better. Perhaps it's the loss of the bribery she's upset about, or she doesn't understand how much a hold cigarettes can have over someone, or maybe its just her nature. No one will ever know! Be proud and happy! What we do for ourselves sometimes makes others unhappy - and that can hurt us - but always remember that the only person you can ever make completely happy is YOU!