This ticks me off

[Jules22871]

let me play devil's advocate here, jules! i know all you wanted was a place to vent and that's fine because we all deserve to be listened to, but
when you give something to somebody then it is really out of your hands what they will do with it. yes, it would be nice if things were returned when they are not wanted or needed but once you give that should be the end of it.
and don't forget, just because we were lucky or motivated enough to make vaping work for us, it will not do the same thing necessarily for everybody else.
i remember very well all the methods i tried, chantix, hypnosis, welbutrin, patch, gum, and cold turkey. all without success and , yet, plenty of people were able to stop smoking with those.
so, go easy on your inlaws, maybe a hint that those items could be of use to somebody will get them returned
(((((((((HUGS))))))))))

I see what you are saying, but they are the ones that came to me and asked me to give them these things knowing that income is limited. Fine, if you don't like it and don't want to use them then give them to the person you bummed them from. Had it been a gift that would be different but this wasn't like gift in the traditional sense. It was a I want to try that can you let me try it. So with what you're saying, if they asked me to borrow $50 bucks to buy cigs I should give it to them and never expect to be paid back? I really see this as the same as borrowing money. "Hey, that's cool, I would like to try it. Can you set me up and let me see if I like it?" I should also have said in the beginning that both people offered to buy the supplies if they liked it, but so far neither one has made any attempt at it at paying or returning the stuff.

 

[UntamedRose]

Post their phone numbers

Few calls from all over the country "return the stuff to Jules!" ...should do it.
;p


Just kidding...kinda

 

[mini_art]

I absolutely think they should return it ! Especially since she threw it in the trash. Family can be a pain in the bum . Luckily I only have one brother like that.
I understand the desire to help, it has disappointed me from time to time also, but I will still do it. It was the right thing to do. However some times we should remember the quote
" cast not your pearls before swine"
Jules you did the right thing, now they need to do the right thing too!

 

[tiburonfirst]

this wasn't like gift in the traditional sense. It was a I want to try that can you let me try it.

well, jules, that's a different story and should be easily handled.
next time you see your ils just ask, "hey, what's the verdict on your vaping experiment, are you going to stick with it or bringing back my stuff? let me know in a day or 2 the latest, i got some people interested in buying those kits and i really could use that money."
hope it all will work out

 

[Kate51]

I have a daughter who will be 39 this year, and still thinks I "owe" her whatever she wants, and always reneg's!
She has about $500 worth of stuff I gave her with her promise to just quit smoking, but she said the juice made her sick. So, send it back. No, no, I'll try it again...that was 7 months ago, so it's gone for sure. I'm just hoping someone is getting some good from it all, that it isn't sitting rotting in some re-sale shop.
Yes, it's maddening, but I really can't say I'm surprised. This is what she does best!
She after all forgot it was Mother's Day this year again, too. She got my card, the check was cashed! She's in Alaska, I'm in Wisconsin, so maybe that's best.
My oldest went the route of Cold Turkey, and she's doing better with a little advice on supplements, vitamins and diet, exercise, she's a tough cookie. And true to her word.
So we give and take.
We have to keep true to ourselves, I'm sure we'll help the next person just as willingly! That's what makes the world go round.

 

[VRubin]

Beat down their door and take your stuff back!! lol

 

[Nyxie]

What I think is if you don't do the research yourself and make the financial commitment like we did..you don't get into vaping..it's just a toy.

Yep I agree totally!
People who are given things never seem to appreciate them as much as people who learn for themselves or work for things.

 

[Jules22871]

You showed such restraint! I have a friend that I got started..spent "bucks" on her! since she was out of work and wasting money on cigs..this was after her diagnosis of COPD and her 3rd brochitis of the year.
Does she use them? Fat Chance!
What I think is if you don't do the research yourself and make the financial commitment like we did..you don't get into vaping..it's just a toy.

You may have just hit the nail right on the head. My sister was handed everything and I wasn't. She appreciates nothing she has now and never will. I appreciate everything I have because I had to work for it. I am so glad I taught my kids the way my mother taught me and not the way she taught my sister.

well, jules, that's a different story and should be easily handled.
next time you see your ils just ask, "hey, what's the verdict on your vaping experiment, are you going to stick with it or bringing back my stuff? let me know in a day or 2 the latest, i got some people interested in buying those kits and i really could use that money."
hope it all will work out

I should have put that additional info in the OP but I was just so mad that I was typing trying to calm down,lol I really hate to cause family drama. But, I really do want it back, not for me, but to give to someone on here that I know will benefit from it and use it.

I have a daughter who will be 39 this year, and still thinks I "owe" her whatever she wants, and always reneg's!
She has about $500 worth of stuff I gave her with her promise to just quit smoking, but she said the juice made her sick. So, send it back. No, no, I'll try it again...that was 7 months ago, so it's gone for sure. I'm just hoping someone is getting some good from it all, that it isn't sitting rotting in some re-sale shop.
Yes, it's maddening, but I really can't say I'm surprised. This is what she does best!
She after all forgot it was Mother's Day this year again, too. She got my card, the check was cashed! She's in Alaska, I'm in Wisconsin, so maybe that's best.
My oldest went the route of Cold Turkey, and she's doing better with a little advice on supplements, vitamins and diet, exercise, she's a tough cookie. And true to her word.
So we give and take.
We have to keep true to ourselves, I'm sure we'll help the next person just as willingly! That's what makes the world go round.

Sounds like my sister. I wish she'd move to Alaska.

Beat down their door and take your stuff back!! lol

If I do decide to take that route I'll be sure to have someone tape it so you all can laugh at me,lol

 

[thelook]

Hi hugs(((Jules)))hugs,

I know it is frustrating to say the least, I have a future DIL that has expressed the urge to try vaping, she is a chain smoker, so Mom (me) invetsted in a 510 for her....well that was to much work for her.

So Mom then invested in A Kr808 kit for her....again, to much work for her.

Mom then invested in PRE filled packs of carto's (100's of dollars worth) Now not enough power and not enough battery life for her...so Mom broke down and bought her a V5 box mod & extra batts....no more excuses.

She has not touched ANY of the items I bought her in over a month!

And it's not that I need them back, but I do know other that would love to try them



My rant over now too.....

 

[VRubin]

Lol! I got your back Jules!

 

[Jules22871]

Hi hugs(((Jules)))hugs,

I know it is frustrating to say the least, I have a future DIL that has expressed the urge to try vaping, she is a chain smoker, so Mom (me) invetsted in a 510 for her....well that was to much work for her.

So Mom then invested in A Kr808 kit for her....again, to much work for her.

Mom then invested in PRE filled packs of carto's (100's of dollars worth) Now not enough power and not enough battery life for her...so Mom broke down and bought her a V5 box mod & extra batts....no more excuses.

She has not touched ANY of the items I bought her in over a month!

And it's not that I need them back, but I do know other that would love to try them



My rant over now too.....

That is the way I feel too. I know others that would be happy to get it and happy to use it and they have it sitting in a drawer. It just gets me madder the more I think about it.

Lol! I got your back Jules!

You'd have to have my front too,lol

 

[Fudgey]

Next time they ask you for something tell them ok but I need my pv stuff back first!

 

[nephilim]

jules I had the same problem see this thread I posted back in november
http://www.e-cigarette-forum.com/forum/quitting/47842-gifting-e-cigs-good-bad.html