Today's experience with a homeless guy

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Tempus Fugit

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Out in the real world today, I was working at a benefit car wash for a friend whose 4 year old child was killed in a senseless and tragic car accident last month. He needs the help to be able to get a headstone. Anyway, a friendly although drunk homeless guy approached us, with no car of course, and donated all the change he had in his pocket. It came to a little under a dollar. One of the folks I was with bought him lunch (karma in return for karma). I thanked him for his kindness as he was walking away, and he asked me if I was smoking a peace pipe. I had my eVic with a ProTank attached. What followed was a very difficult and awkward discussion with me trying to explain what it was. He had never heard of e-cigs before. He was intrigued, but obviously totally baffled.

I felt like such an idiot the whole time because I was touting the benefits of it being cheaper and healthier in the long run than cigarettes. I saw him earlier picking butts out of an ashtray. I don't believe this guy has anywhere he could even charge an e-cig. I'm sure he doesn't have a computer to look up ECF, vendors, reviews, etc, and was far enough away from the B&Ms in town that he probably doesn't know they exist. He asked me how much my setup cost, and I told him a little over $100. The stunned look on his face, and his sheer disbelief that so much money could be spent on this thing I was holding in my hand made me feel ashamed, blessed, and wasteful all at the same time. I couldn't believe that had just come out of my mouth! I instantly felt like I had been insulting or something, although he did not express that. I know if he had $100, an e-cig would be the last thing on his mind. He actually said, "I wouldn't know what to do with myself if I had $100!"

I'm not sure what lesson to take from this experience. I'm pretty far beyond the experimentation phase of vaping, and I pretty much stick with a couple of devices, inexpensive 510 atties (well, also the Protank), and I go through maybe 2.5-3 ml of e-juice a day. I'm not the big spender I used to be, but I have caught myself complaining about high prices and the other "frustrations" associated with purchasing gear/juice. I guess I didn't have any qualms about dropping a bill on an eVic and twenty bucks on a ProTank though. Again, ashamed, blessed, and wasteful. I'm lucky to have what I have, and today's experience pointed out how much I take things for granted.

One glaring reality was that a homeless guy gave us what apparently was every cent he possessed. People in Mercedes, BMWs, Jags, Vipers, etc, etc passed by and tried not to make eye contact with us while drinking their designer coffee or talking on their cell phones. I makes me sick to think that I have often acted like the avoiders when I should have acted like the homeless guy. I hope something really good happens to him.
 

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That was a tragic yet heartwarming story. Thank you for sharing.

I so glad that someone bought the poor chap lunch. Shoot, after the sacrifice that he made, I might have slipped a $5 bill in his hand and wished him a good day.

"And in the end...the love you take...is equal to the love you make." Someone famous once said that. ;)
 
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the lesson is easy - never take what you have for granted and count your blessings before its too late to realize what you have.



5 years ago i had a sign in my hand too, i dont like to share it but it happened it was a ell of a fight to leave it behind, it made me realize some of the superficial things we worry about dont really matter in the end and you need to enjoy life for what it is, what you have, and where it takes you.
 

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Wow, I have had some humbling experiences in my life, but nothing close to what some of you have said here. When I heard the news of my friend's little boy, it brought tears to my eyes, which is very rare for me. He is a great guy with a really good soul and no one deserves to outlive their kids. The accident was out of sheer negligence and stupidity, and had nothing to do with him at all. He just had to deal with the aftermath.

Thrasher you are right about the lesson, but that just sounded too "easy" to me. I hear that stuff all the time but I guess they are just words until you have real faces or experiences to make them real. I have great respect for those who are/were forced to lead such a hard life because I don't think I would have it in me to handle it. It's amazing what kinds of wise words you can obtain from the homeless too. I do try to listen to what they have to say, and I hope to not come across as stuck up to them. Often they appreciate good conversation more than the busy folk, and many are much more intelligent and open than one might expect.
 

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That was a good read. My sympathies to your friend and that family.

So often we think we have it bad, then we see someone like that homeless man and, realize we really do have it good. We may have challenges and issues we have to deal with everyday that are none to enjoyable but, we know we will get our next meal, have a vape later, and a bed for the night, that's a lot more than many have.
 

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I like this story. It's obvious that the guy has a big heart. But the way this story was written implies that the writer and the readers should feel sorry for the homeless guy. Considering he was drunk, I can't help but think he put himself in his own dire situation. He is not less fortunate. This implies that he is a victim. He is not a victim of anything. He is the cause of his own problems. He says he wouldn't know what to do with himself if he had $100. It's nice to sit back and think that if you gave him a $100 bill he might use it to get some new clothes, some food, and maybe a cheap motel room for a couple nights. But most likely, he'd spend it on booze and sit under an overpass drinking it. Like I said, the guy may have had a big heart. But don't feel sorry for him. He put himself where he is.
 

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But the way this story was written implies that the writer and the readers should feel sorry for the homeless guy.

But don't feel sorry for him. He put...

... all he had in da pot!

Do you realize that you are the only poster that used the word sorry thus far? Didn't think so...
 
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I like this story. It's obvious that the guy has a big heart. But the way this story was written implies that the writer and the readers should feel sorry for the homeless guy. Considering he was drunk, I can't help but think he put himself in his own dire situation. He is not less fortunate. This implies that he is a victim. He is not a victim of anything. He is the cause of his own problems. He says he wouldn't know what to do with himself if he had $100. It's nice to sit back and think that if you gave him a $100 bill he might use it to get some new clothes, some food, and maybe a cheap motel room for a couple nights. But most likely, he'd spend it on booze and sit under an overpass drinking it. Like I said, the guy may have had a big heart. But don't feel sorry for him. He put himself where he is.

Booze is cheap and I doubt he has many escapes that bring him any kind of pleasure. I suppose it becomes a vicious cycle. I bet I would drink if I were in his situation, and I don't even like drinking much. I didn't mean to imply that we should feel sorry for him, I was more trying to point out that he seems to have some very admirable qualities and probably doesn't take things as much for granted as I do. I can't judge whether he put himself in his own situation or not, I know I have put myself into some but BS has also befallen me randomly. I also know that I live in a region where this is common, and it can be hard to find work for anyone with any kind of skills.
 

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I lived homless in boston with my pregnant girlfriend in a van untill it was towed by the police for being uninshured then we lived outside wherever we could, this was over the course of about 7 months... unfortunatly if he had a hundred dollars ......he knows exactly what he would do with it , go get high ... trust me i lived with thease people for half a year and slept with a 8inch french chef knife tight in my hand and a arm around my woman . Thankfully we got the hell out of that sintuation long ago. Its rock hard on the streets here in boston but most of it ... about 95percent of it is self inflicted by addiction . All the money they have goes to junk that is why they are homeless.

My woman now works as house mother at the salvation army arc program. (Adult rehabilitation center) she helps new women coming into the home get adjusted to the new lifstyle and also runs a life pourpose program where she helps the girls find new poourpose to there life . And she aslo is the warhouse manager anfd over sees the girls work therapy in the warhouse . She loves what she does and she loves bringing them to meetings and just talking . The residents respect her far more than the other house mothers because they can relate with her and all that they have been through .

Let me tell you i am so proud of where we are now i cant even beleive it lol i mean once i was sleeping in a corner in an alley in court square boston in december freezing my ... of hopeing my girl was warmer than i was .... and now i have full time job computer cell phone my own place money in the bank and just ordered a new 100$ mechanical mod ..... most homeless are that way because they want to be or just dont care or are addicts who only care about the high. ANYONE CAN RISE UP FROM THAT IF THEY WANT IT BAD ENOUGH ... I DID.
even if you gave a homeless guy a 100,000$ it would be gone in less than a year and they would be right back on the street so dont ever feel bad
Never feel bad and never give them money. I have watched people beg for change until they had enough to buy drugs then come back and do it alll over again . I lived in it for almost a year .... trust me never give money and never feel bad.
 

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Sorry for the rant but i livedvit for almost a year and it makes me cringe now when people say they feel bad or want to put change in the cup ..... because i know from first hand experiance that change cup is not for bus fare , a hamburger or a new sweater lol

There is always that 1 percent though that really is just in a bad sintuation thevproblem is that its too hard to tell who that 1 percenter is . I have never seen one in all my time on the street . Everbody i met was an addict . Every single person.
 
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