I feel like I should be posting this in a smoker forum somewhere rather than in a forum full of people who have quit, but maybe this will stick in someone's head who's considering quitting. This is also meant to be a little therapeutic for me. My wife's mother just passed away. She was 62. She was a life long smoker until a few years ago when she was diagnosed with Emphysema. She went downhill quickly. Although she is married and they've had a condo in North Carolina for the past 13 years, for reasons that aren't relevant here, she lived mostly in NJ near us. During my entire marriage she was at our house three or four times a week all day and would sleep over on Saturday nights. She even lived with us for about two years a decade ago. My 18 and 11 year old daughters were very close to her because of all this. About a year ago, she decided to go through all the testing required to be put on a list to get new lungs. She went through more than even a healthy person would want to endure for those tests. She was told that if she was put on the list and if she lasted, she would hopefully get new lungs between a few months to two years after being put on it. She was finally put on the list a month ago. Three weeks ago, she had her last required shot. One day later, she got the call to go into surgery for new lungs. We couldn't believe how quick it happened and were thrilled yet scared. SHe was extremely brave. She got through surgery beautifully. The doctors said it went perfectly and they were the best lungs they'd seen in years. We were told though that there are always setbacks so we should be prepared. She was doing great though. We were told that many times. She was going to come home early in fact - last Thursday. Last Wednesday though, she had a little setback after almost two weeks of being in the hospital. No problem, but maybe she wouldn't come home the next day. That next day, the day she was suppose to come home, she died with about two hours notice. We were told that she got Sepsis, a bad infection, and may not live through the night. Less than two hours later, she was dead. Because of the new lungs, she had to be on immunosuppressants for the rest of her life so she wouldn't reject the lung. She had no immune system, and if she were taken off of the immunosuppressants to fight the Sepsis, she would die from rejecting the lungs. She was the sweetest, most selfless person I've ever known. It was way too sudden after how good she was doing. The fact that she died of an infection in the hospital and not because of her lungs made it even harder. Ultimately though, she suffered the past few years and died last week because of smoking. She is one of the many reasons why my wife and I quit 19 months ago. We buried two days ago. She leaves a father, two sisters, a husband, two sons, a daughter and two grandchildren. Make that three grandchildren. Her oldest son had his first baby yesterday.
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Garnoch- My deepest sympathy for you and your family.
Life can deal out a tough hand for a lot of us, it is what we do with the cards that matters. Sounds to me that you played the hand very well. Hang in there and know that she will always be in your hearts and with you forever.
Take care-Hz
P.S.-Thank you for the post and reminder of how much love we need to show and give one another, life is short-live it with love. ((((hugs))))
Life can deal out a tough hand for a lot of us, it is what we do with the cards that matters. Sounds to me that you played the hand very well. Hang in there and know that she will always be in your hearts and with you forever.
Take care-Hz
P.S.-Thank you for the post and reminder of how much love we need to show and give one another, life is short-live it with love. ((((hugs))))
Oh Garnoch,
My heart just goes out to you and your entire family. She sounds like such a wonderful person and I know you will miss her terribly. Life is so unfair at times, but I think it's important that you posted this, for the community here as well as yourself.
Healing thoughts coming at you and yours.
N.
My heart just goes out to you and your entire family. She sounds like such a wonderful person and I know you will miss her terribly. Life is so unfair at times, but I think it's important that you posted this, for the community here as well as yourself.
Healing thoughts coming at you and yours.
N.
My deepest sympathy for you and your family as well Garnoch. I'm sure it seems extremely unfair for her to go through what she did to ultimately die of an infection (in a hospital) and it is. I am so sorry.
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I am so sorry for you and your family's loss. And for hers, as it is clear how much you all cared for each other.
My wife and I are so sorry for your loss. I lost my mother in Feburary 2010 about five months before we started vaping. Being a non-smoker her entire life I know she would have been so proud of us as I know your mother in law was with you.
Garnoch,
I'm so sorry to hear that your family has lost such a loving, special member. I pray that the happy memories will help ease the grief you all feel.
I'm so sorry to hear that your family has lost such a loving, special member. I pray that the happy memories will help ease the grief you all feel.
Garnoch, you have my deepest condolences for you and your family.
And I would personally like to be the first to thank you for that poignant reminder that while we vape easily because of pleasure, we're all trying desperately to improve our lives and our health.
And I would personally like to be the first to thank you for that poignant reminder that while we vape easily because of pleasure, we're all trying desperately to improve our lives and our health.
Garnoch,
I feel sorry about your loss and i wish you and your family the best. Thank you for sharing with us. It meant a lot.
Take care.
Cheers!
I feel sorry about your loss and i wish you and your family the best. Thank you for sharing with us. It meant a lot.
Take care.
Cheers!
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