Advice for my Dad

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aerin555

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I started vaping 2 months ago and it was a bit of an adjustment at first but I was very happy with it. I convinced my dad to give it a try. He is a 2 pad smoker with COPD and lives on his inhaler. He wants to convert but he considers himself a worst case and not capable. I ordered him an ego twist and clearomizer kit and he dreaded the day it would arrive. He eventually tried it and while he said he liked it he says things like it is too stressful at work right now to get started. I think he is afraid to give up his analogs. He is resistant to any new technology, he only just learned to use the texting function on his phone and doesn't even want to think of using a computer lol. I was hoping anyone who might have felt the same way at one time might have some advice. Thanks!
 

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Hmmm... although I'm not a technophobe, I'll offer some suggestions.

The Twist is a good device - but he'll need two. One to use while the other charges.

Same with the clearo, as coils do fail, gunk up, and otherwise decline in performance. Or at least a few extra heads for them. But having two or more clearos with different flavors is a nice way to go.

Most important is the juice. While I'll leave flavors to you and him, as obviously I have no idea what you like, I'd suggest 24mg to start. You say he's a heavy smoker, and having too low a nic level won't do the trick. (I started with 18, didn't work, moved to 24 last October and have been tobacco free since.) Nic levels can be lowered later, if desired.

Take the time to go over procedures with him. Clearos are super easy to work with. But since it's slightly more than "remove cig from pack, light", show him. Repeatedly. :p

Surf over to CASAA and print out some of the info there, especially from this page: Tobacco Harm Reduction

Good luck!
 

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when I started my intention was to cut back, not quit. I wanted to go from 2 1/2+ pad to 1 pack a day.
so when I wanted a cig I vaped a while. if I still wanted the cig after vaping, I had it (guilt free). for my first cig of the day, I vaped 10 min. before I was "allowed" to have the cig. next day I waited 20 min, etc. it wasn't long that I was surprised to notice that my first cig of the day was at 1 in the afternoon. I quickly got down to 2 cigs a day. I and everyone who knows me was shocked! and 2 years later I still smoke my 2 cigs a day, cause I'm old and I want to!
so I advise that he try just cutting back, not focusing on quiting. no stress, no guilt - just do the best he can
count the ones he does NOT smoke, not the ones he does. I believe every cig you don't smoke is a milestone :) I've gotten a few people to try vaping by suggesting they just use it when they are not allowed to smoke. several of them turned into vapers :)
don't pressure him and good luck to both of you :)
 

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you can drag a horse to water...but you can't make him drink. he will always have an excuse until he is ready. encourage him continually. is he vaping at all? i was a 45 year smoker, so he can do it. if he is vaping some...tell him to count the cigs he has not smoked, not the ones he has.

i set up 4 adult children with cig a like vaping gear.....2 of them say they use it at work (hospital). one says it is not taking away the cravings, and the 4th says she is vaping and smoking.......but until they are ready to do it, all i can do is encourage them and show them by example that it works!

tell your dad he does not have to give up the smokes. everyone gives them up at their own pace. tell him to vape as much as possible, and he can still smoke.........he will be happier with that....and it still works! he will surprise himself! check back in and let us know how it goes.

and congrats to you on your victory!
 

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Quitting smoking is a monumental challenge. To many smokers, the idea of giving up something that is such a part of their lives is unimaginable. However, the effort and perseverance necessary to be successful is well worth it. To be free of cigarettes is a wonderful thing.

...so I advise that he try just cutting back, not focusing on quiting. no stress, no guilt - just do the best he can...

I agree. Try the gradual approach. As the saying goes, "you have to crawl before you can walk." Just try and get your dad used to the e-cig experience. You may have to try different juices, nic levels, and devices. I know this can be costly but if it results in getting your dad off cigs then it's money well spent. I always said, "whatever it takes to keep me off cigarettes."

I hope you, and your dad, are successful.
 

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Don't make him look at it as if he has to quit smoking. Just try to get him to use it to smoke less. Every cigarette not smoked is one less nail in the coffin. If there's no real pressure to quit, and he's like most of us, eventually he'll come around.

My sons bought me a kit for Father's Day almost two years ago. They just asked me to try it out. I never had any intention of quitting, the very thought of that was frightening, I'd been smoking for almost 40 years. So I vaped a little, and smoked a lot, then I vaped more and smoked less, then I vaped a lot and smoked just a little. About a month later I smoked my last cigarette ever.

No pressure. Smoke them when you need them.
 

aerin555

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I still smoke my 2 cigs a day, cause I'm old and I want to!
That is so funny cags, my dad would love that! I told him not to even think of quitting right now just to use it now and then and eventually he will smoke less to none. This was how I started. When I first got my kit I had a meltdown because I thought "oh no" now I have to quit but when I decided not to even think of quitting I just vaped and thought of cigs less and less. I was only having 1-3 cigs a day for about 4 days after getting my kit when my husband refused to give me one. I was mad and fully intended to have one later when he went to bed. I fell asleep first and that was my first cig free day. I realized I was just fine and decided I was done with them lol. Even now if I think of not ever smoking again I have a strong urge to have one but I just try to stick to the plan of don't even think about quitting. So far seems to work lol. I don't pressure him because I know that would have just stressed me out. I thought I was a worst case too but he seems to think I pulled some amazing willpower out of somewhere. He really does want to do it or at least he did, I think he's just afraid to leave something behind that has been apart of his life for so long and maybe worried it won't work for him. I don't know but that's how I felt at first. I know he used it a bit the first couple of days but I suspect he hasn't touched it much or at all since and doesn't want to disapoint me by saying so. He lives in another province so it is a little more difficult to help him. He complained he wasn't getting anything from it on day two but I think he just didn't realize the battery was dead. I ordered him 3 batteries 2 1000 mah and 1 650 mah 3 clearomizers and 24mg liquid. Thanks so much for everyone's advice!
 

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I gradually declined my analog use over a course of 2 years, my last 2 weeks I was down to 1 to 2 analogs a day on a highly stressful day. I went from being a 20+ yr 2 pack a day smoker to vaping 100% in 2 years, so tell him don't be discouraged. Ask him to carry the 650mah with him at work, trying to use it instead of an analog every 2 to 3 times he needs a cig break, but not vape instead 100% of the time during the work day hours. When not at work, try vaping more at home, gradually, to help him transition easier into it, if he really interested in doing so, jumping right in, or trying to crutch on vaping right off, his body may not accept, nor will his mind accept it readily.

Like suggested above, it is more about suggestion and advice than pressure and information bombardment, especially if he has an addictive personality, and I speak from being someone with an addictive personality
 

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Hi there. Hope you get your pops to eventually quit the stinkies. Just a thought . . . If your dad is in to any kind of tinkering, you might think about getting him into mechanical mod ecigs and rebuildable atomizers. I have just started vaping (1 month cig free now), but the little "project" of building your own coils can be quite rewarding. The mechanical mods have a better hand feel to them than the ego batteries (less dainty). Also when the battery dies in one he can just pop in another just like a flashlight which will feel a little more familiar.
Just my 2 cents.
 

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I just started from analogs a few weeks ago and didn't feel satisfied with just vaping, but i have cut down from 3/4 pack to 3 analogs a day. I think its all about finding the right juice, i received some Halo Tribecca today that i really like. Fingers crossed. I wish him all the best.

Same here. Quit at you own pace. I did. It Is about the cigs not smoked, not the ones you have.
 

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I'm 60 years old and was a 3 pad 40 year smoker. I'm not sure I would have quit using a larger battery with a clearo. A cig-size with a carto was much better at replicating smoking...and in many ways still is. Of course, after 9 months I have several sizes of batteries, and many delivery systems. I still turn to my cig-size and cartos when I'm out and about in public. They just seem more natural.
 
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