Hi all. I am a long time lurker and first time poster. I have been vaping for a little over a year and have been cigarette free for 11 months. My husband has been dual-using for about 10 months. He has no desire to quit smoking and I am not pushing him as I know that it had to be his decision. The problem? We used to smoke in the house (not my choice) but about 6 months in, I told him I wanted a smoke free home. As the weather gets colder, he's getting crankier with having to go outside. Any tips for dealing with this (and not giving in for the sake of peace)?
Cranky Smoking Spouse
- Thread starter TWich
- Start date
- th_trl_thread_readers 0
- Status
Welcome TWich!
My thought was, this may work in your favor. One of the many, many benefits of vapeing is not having to go outside. MO, just stand strong. Stick to your indoor smoking ban. I'm certain you want your spouse to be healthier. Here's hoping by Spring he's also smoke free!
Sorry I don't have any advice to make it easier, but I think this could be a great incentive!
My thought was, this may work in your favor. One of the many, many benefits of vapeing is not having to go outside. MO, just stand strong. Stick to your indoor smoking ban. I'm certain you want your spouse to be healthier. Here's hoping by Spring he's also smoke free!
Sorry I don't have any advice to make it easier, but I think this could be a great incentive!
Thanks! I am hoping it helps him make the switch. It's tough not to give in when he is being cranky but am loving that everything in my house doesn't stink!
HMMMM! Having trouble not making a joke. LOL Perhaps give him a room in the house on a outside wall with a window that opens. Put a towel at the bottom of the door. I let company smoke in my furnace room in the winter. Wife and I try to keep a smoke free house as well. Good luck to you. CHEERS!
I did the no smoking in the house a long time even before I quit smoking cigs. I told the hubby if he wanted to continue smoking in the house even though I did not then he would be washing all the wall's and windows as it would be his cigs leaving the nasty stuff behind, well it worked he smokes outside and never once complained. I did tell him if he quits smoking he could vape all he wants in the house and no going outside to freeze, but he still smokes 
He did buy a small kit last year and then he gave up even after I made him his ejuice he wanted. He used that for a day and went right back for those cigs. I don't harp on him as it's his choice and his life. his father died of lung failure and that hasn't stopped him from smoking I can't preach as I'm a ex smoker. Maybe one day he shall quit. But you could do what I did about washing wall's and windows that may work. Good luck and hope he quits also
He did buy a small kit last year and then he gave up even after I made him his ejuice he wanted. He used that for a day and went right back for those cigs. I don't harp on him as it's his choice and his life. his father died of lung failure and that hasn't stopped him from smoking I can't preach as I'm a ex smoker. Maybe one day he shall quit. But you could do what I did about washing wall's and windows that may work. Good luck and hope he quits alsoWe were cleaning windows a couple weeks ago and he said the window cleaner wasn't working because the paper towels weren't yellow.
I intend to stick to my guns - just needed some support from people who will understand!
I intend to stick to my guns - just needed some support from people who will understand!
Hold the line my dear. No one is as cranky as me and I quit smoking and almost have stopped biting. ....almost....
Before I quit smoking I never smoked in my house. Actually glad I never did, I barely handled the smell of my car after my long rides to and from work.
Smoking in the furnace room? Doesn't the furnace just draw that back into the house? Or does the air intake come from somewhere else? (Sorry not a furnace guy, just curious).
@TWich As far as the hubby smoking outside versus inside. Unfortunately I can't offer any great advice, but maybe with time (and cold weather) he will come to appreciate vaping indoors instead of smoking. I truly do wish you both the best in finally, and fully, kicking those butts out of your lives!
Smoking in the furnace room? Doesn't the furnace just draw that back into the house? Or does the air intake come from somewhere else? (Sorry not a furnace guy, just curious).
@TWich As far as the hubby smoking outside versus inside. Unfortunately I can't offer any great advice, but maybe with time (and cold weather) he will come to appreciate vaping indoors instead of smoking. I truly do wish you both the best in finally, and fully, kicking those butts out of your lives!
You know, TWich, I really had no desire to quit smoking cigarettes. I was at the smoke shop, and the line was long, so I looked around at their mostly starter kits. My neighbor had been vaping for 3 months already, so I had already done a bit of online research and my interest was piqued. So I bought a simple starter kit instead of the pack of smokes that I went in there for. An employee gave me a short tutorial, and I thought, "Well this seems simple, and it's gonna cost me less than 20 bucks to get everything I need to start, so what the hay." This was late morning, I used the thing all day instead of smoking, and that night it dawned on my thick head that I had no desire to go out on my porch for a cigarette. That made up my mind. At first, I was just keeping track of the number of days that I vaped instead of smoked (I still do..), then the money that I was and wasn't spending. Now I'm keeping track of the amount of tar that would be but isn't in my lungs. This, out of all the 'tracking things' I do, makes me feel the best about what I'm doing now, and what I'm not. I would've put at least 2 1/2 ounces of tar in my lungs if I continued to do what I was no longer doing. I have been vaping (exclusively) for less than a year and two months.
I hope your husband reads this, or you relay it to him, and it helps.
Good luck to both of you.
I hope your husband reads this, or you relay it to him, and it helps.
Good luck to both of you.
It is better to have the habit of smoking outside the home if you are planning on having any children. Also it helps keep the value of the home up for resale. On occasion, you might try going out to vape with him while he is smoking. It is a good time to talk about who you were before you met each other, and see if there are other things that you had in common while you were kids. You won't know everything there is to know about him, but you will know a little more. Also you will be sharing another experience with him while you are freezing your hinnies out in the cold. It will give you something to laugh about later. You are absolutely right about the decision to stop smoking is all his. My wife stopped smoking a little over three years ago. I smoked for 2 1/2 years after quitting before I decided to make another go at it. She never pressured me, and I am very thankful for her understanding.
Well, TWich, I was categorized as a "cranky smoking spouse" for 20 years never smoking inside and it gets pretty darn cold and miserable here in the winter. Obviously, he has to have some degree of desire to quit/reduce his cig usage. I have no idea how many flavors he has tried, but keep looking for that flavor (or better yet, flavors) that pleases him more then the smoke. That with some degree of desire may just be the nudge he needs.
The one thing I do know is it sure is nice sitting here inside enjoying a flavorful vape on a cold, dreary winter night!
The one thing I do know is it sure is nice sitting here inside enjoying a flavorful vape on a cold, dreary winter night!
Do ya'll have a porch? Those little Mr. Heaters that take the screw in propane bottles are pretty nifty, and if placed close to one's body, on porch while sitting in chair, will take the chill off....they come in small and larger sizes.
A nice wool blanket that is cuddly....maybe I'm weird but I really ENJOY sitting outside in the winter, looking out at my forest and the moutains and ponds, or whatever the view is, in a suburban or urban environment, people walking dogs, etc. ..... whatever.
A little Vitamin D from the bit of sunlight, on face, not a bad thing either.
Maybe you can go outside together, spend some quiet moments vaping and smoking, with a cup o' hot tea or coffee or hot chocolate.
To Me, can be a really nice respite.
.
Hi TWich welcome. Congrats on your cigarette free status. We have a smoke free home and have had since we moved into this house several years ago. My hubby is still smoking, so sometimes I will take my pen and go outside with him while he smokes. He can see that I am cold and that tends to hurry his smoke up a bit. Then he will use the pen inside a few times before he wants to go outside again. He is trying to finish up his last packs and ease into vapor at the same time, and helping me to be comfortable is helping him with the easing process. Good luck to you both. I will be rooting for you.
You should mention clouds of vape you saw in youtube. (Dont go out with this cold you can vape) Just have him stick to vaping. If he could not switch with you means he could not meet his flavour and gets less nic from vape.
Always the garage if you have one. When I was still smoking, that's where the significant other always pointed to when I didn't want to step out in the dark cold weather.
I rent, I found a really nice apartment, fireplace, stainless steel appliances, hardwood flooring etc etc etc, convinced her to move, the apt is non smoking so there's no choice, I go out for a vape every night when she goes for her bedtime smoke, it helps keep her from getting cranky, I don't mind the fresh air before bed anyways... Don't expect a solution for all lifes problems to fall into your lap, you gotta go out and make a solution
as for him not quitting smoking, you have to want to quit to quit.
When I moved I told the BF and my mother that the landlord didn't allow smoking.
....and the test results determined that was a lie.
Edit: The BF no longer dual uses.
....and the test results determined that was a lie.
Edit: The BF no longer dual uses.
- Status
Similar threads
