Domestic Issues!! Please help...

[Bill K]

I had been a long time "smoker" until I found the world of vaping! I really enjoy vaping and have not had an anolog for almost a year!
My wife of 28 years was always against smoking and was always on my back about it. She never smoked and has no idea the addiction it had on me!
At first she had an open mind to vaping and gave me some latitude. My wife being a pessimist and me being an optimist I am feeling a little more pressure on me from her on her negative vibes. She is starting to relate vaping as smoking! Vaping has had a profound positive affect on my health and "more importantly" my spending. I read a lot of positive literature on vaping and she reads a lot of negatives about it!
What can I do or say to ease her pain! I am down to 3mg of nic and plan to be 0mg nic soon! Help me help her!

 

[dmwalker24]

But vaping doesn't smell bad, doesn't ruin the walls or car interiors, is cheaper than smoking, and there is no indication that it will ever result in the vast majority (if not all) of the medical conditions associated with smoking. Additionally I'd say, a man's gotta have a hobby. Vaping is my hobby and my way of saving money and avoiding early death. I can understand compromise to keep the hobby from invading someone else's space, but there's no real good reason to have to give up vaping if you enjoy it and don't want to. None I can see anyway.

 

[houla09]

My hubby and I both got the vaping starter kits at the same time, I chose to stop analogs after 3 weeks into vaping- he did not. He is equating vaping to smoking even though it's definitely not. I breathe much better, and smokers cough is history. However, after smoking for 35+ years I'm going to need the hand to mouth part to keep me off the analogs, and I'm down to 6 mg currently.
Maybe if you both took a look at real information together, and discussed it from both view points, it may help to alleviate her worries that vaping is a good step in the right direction. There is alot of good info out there, and alot of misinformation as well- sorting through it to find the truth is worth it,

 

[Shadav]

that is unfortunate....some people know matter how much you try to show them the truth from all of the bs, they want to believe all of the media hype....
i think you're best angle would be to show to her how you are doing better.....remind her of how hard it was to breath before but now not so bad....remind her that also there's no second hand smoke so it is healthier for her as well.....
all the studies in the world won't help but showing her how it's helped you might make it sink in....
though then again are we straight talking vaping or are we talking hobby/collecting vaping that's another story hehehe

 

[cags]

I doubt this will help you, but when my husband (who hates smoking and started whining about it as soon as we got married, even though I smoked when he met me) started making faces about my vaping I finally just looked at him and said "well, nothing makes you happy does it" no more faces.............

 

[dmwalker24]

I doubt this will help you, but when my husband (who hates smoking and started whining about it as soon as we got married, even though I smoked when he met me) started making faces about my vaping I finally just looked at him and said "well, nothing makes you happy does it" no more faces.............

I suspect this method works a lot better if you have a husband than it does if you have a wife.

 

[cags]

I suspect this method works a lot better if you have a husband than it does if you have a wife.

LOL, well you may have a point there

 

[r77r7r]

Lol

 

[rurwin]

This might help:
It's presented by Michael Mosley.

 

[r77r7r]

OP- I think some vapers' get pretty involved with this and maybe your wife seems ignored? Or, that you put something ahead of her?
Personally I don't talk about vaping at all at home. It's just something I do.

 

[computerjohn]

Well it was a good run. Time for a new wife. Lol. Just kidding. I started smoking when I was 14 and am now 42 and quite cold turkey in January. The thing is what all smokers can agree on. As soon as something aggravates us or out having a few drinks the smoking is automatic.

Knowing this a friend of mine turned me onto vaping and haven't looked back since and not even had a drag from someone. Others can smoke around me and it doesn't bother me. I vape 6mg, 3mg or 0ml depending on my mood or aggravation lol.

She needs to understand this is a valid tool for quitting.

As others and myself have tried to quit and nothing has worked. The gum or patches are FAR WORSE!! I know of 4 people personally that have had a heartache or stroke using the patch.

The other e-cigs Blues, logics, etc are garage!!

Acupuncture doesn't work and is expensive!!

Hypnotizing nope!! Again waste of money!!

Vaping has saved me and others on here. She needs to look at this with an open mind.

Again it was a good run my friend. Lmao!! Hope this helps.


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[DC2]

What can I do or say to ease her pain!

You'll have to refute each claim one by one.
We can help with that.

The General Vaping Forum would be a better place to ask for specific refutations.
Although most of them will really be found in the Media and General News subforum.

I am down to 3mg of nic and plan to be 0mg nic soon!

If nicotine is a concern of hers, she is doing it all wrong.

 

[computerjohn]

This might help:
It's presented by Michael Mosley.

Great BBC video.


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[ChiBear85]

Sounds like she wants to control your habits to me no offense meant so I would just tell her you married me for better or worse so take it or leave it but leave you alone about it if you enjoy it then it's on you just my opinion not being mean good luck

 

[philoshop]

I'm sorry to hear you're hitting this kind of roadblock Bill K. Assuming that you're trying to get cigarettes out of your life, support of family and friends is a big part of the struggle.
Like DC2 said above, you may have to address her concerns one at a time until she realizes that vaping is not smoking. We can help you with that.
In the meantime, keep reminding her of how far you've come since you last lit up a cigarette, and that you can actually smell her perfume now that your nose is working again.

 

[BadTrainDriver]

She's your wife, not your mother. Be a man and tell her to .....

 

[BadTrainDriver]

Shut the .... up, what I was trying to say.

 

[AndriaD]

I doubt this will help you, but when my husband (who hates smoking and started whining about it as soon as we got married, even though I smoked when he met me) started making faces about my vaping I finally just looked at him and said "well, nothing makes you happy does it" no more faces.............

Very similar to my reaction, when my husband started whining about the smell of my ADV... I just looked at him and said, "well, is it as bad as cigarette smoke?" He shut up, and hasn't said a word since.

For the whining wife, I'd suggest sending her to casaa.org, to read the REAL science, instead of all that hysterical made-up stuff. Or just ignoring her whining while you go on saving your life from cigarettes. If she understood that the choice is NOT vaping-or-not vaping, but IS vaping-or-smoking -- and also that the choice is NOT up to her -- maybe she'd shut up.

Andria

 

[jack wagon]

If your spending less and in better health, what is there to compalain about??? I'd tell her to kiss my ..... Probably not the best approach but that's just me.

 

[AndriaD]

I'd just like to add -- my husband is a non-smoker, he was when I met him almost 29 yrs ago, and other than a brief flirtation with black n Mild little cigars, has remained so for the entire time I've known him. He knew I smoked when we got together, and I smoked a LOT, all the time, pretty much anywhere and everywhere it wasn't strictly forbidden. Naturally this smelled bad to him, as I am now able to perceive, but he said very little about it, objecting only when the smoke was so thick that he couldn't talk or even breathe without choking. And although certainly he wished I might one day quit smoking, he knew very well that it was most unlikely. When I found e-cigs and started experimenting with them, he supprted me, but knew it was just an experiment -- when it actually worked, he was as amazed and delighted as I was, and we both still are. Anything that can get a confirmed and unrepentant smoker to actually quit and stay that way -- that is by definition a great and wonderful thing. Period.

Andria