Girltalk- Life flipped upside down...

[Kat77]

I'm not sure where to start.... My fiance is an American and has been living up here in Canada with me for the last year. He got word that his grandmother and mother arn't doing well without him there to look after them so he headed back there today. I would have gone with him but my ex husband has a ban on me taking my son out of the country and I have my own mother here who isn't doing well that I'm trying to get moved out of the country and into a retirement condo in town. Just to add an extra bit of drama my ex is filing for custody of my son so it feels like life slipped into the twilight zone in a heartbeat. Looks like I'm gonna be racking up frequent flyer miles traveling back and forth to Texas as time allows for the foreseeable future....

Sorry to dump on you all.... Just needed to vent.... It's all very frustrating...

 

[ego-fan]

HI Kat...You are welcome to talk to the "girls" (I have ...they are really good listeners)
SO sorry your life has suddenly become stressfull and complicated, its allways frightening when our personal relationships change, or some outside force pose a threat to them
I hope you dont worry too much about your ex, attempting to take over responsability for your son, he has to have extremely well founded reasons, to have even an iota of a chance to win that lottery
If I may offer a piece of advise (having learnt the hard way myself) then take extra good care of yourself when you are stressed....oftentimes we spend every moment worrying about our loved ones....and neglect our own wellness....
Take time to do something that makes you happy and calmes your mind....every day...
Best Wishes

 

[Kat77]

Thank you for the moral support. I know my ex is unlikely to win, he just likes to cause trouble for me in any way he can. My happy thought I keep in mind is that some day kharma will come back at him.

 

[ego-fan]

OOOh yes Kat....there is a very special place in reserved for men who behave badly toward woman

 

[classwife]

Oh what a bunch of mess you have right now !

Your best resource is "showing off your calm"...and yes, taking really good care of yourself too !

 

[Fudgey]

((((Kat)))) Sorry you are having a rough time right now. Go do something you and your son really enjoy, it will help get your mind of of things! Deep breaths and plenty of rest for yourself!

 

[Mary Kay]

Been there..All I can add is that by living a good life and keeping both you and your son safe and healthy..you win! I never spoke badly about my ex to his kids, I made it a rule to tred lightly around that subject. When they were about 12 and 13 they found out what a stinker he really was. They were staying with his new family while he was stationed in Texas..not on vacation with him like all the other times he had them. They were shocked and hurt by what they saw was his "real" face. Now as adults they tolerate him once every few years when I make them see him.
Your world will straighten out, just make sure you have taken the high road in all dealings. Most guys who are not good men can't "act" good for long.
Take care of you and that boy!

 

[CES]

I agree with what everyone has said...stay calm, live well, and do what you know is right.... and vent here whenever you need to.

 

[rycheme]

You'll be alright in time, just keep your head up and vent as needed with the girls. Someone's bound to be here to listen.

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