Helping a spouse make the switch...

[Swede]

I'm appealing to the ones here who've been successful in helping their other half make the switch.

Over the last nearly five years, I've been completely analogue free. My Mrs on the other hand has not adopted the vaping life as I have. She's been smoking for over 25 yrs, and told the kids this was the new year that she would quit. (it didn't happen)

It boggles my mind, I went from 1.5PAD to zero the day I got my first crappy 510 bridge atty and batts in the mail, the stuff available nowadays is so much better. Good equipment and properly made and regularly rewicked attys are not good enough to quell the urges to smoke, what else can a man do?

I fully realize, to quit the analogues, you need to really want to quit. I was ready, and I am guessing theres no way to convince one who's not to make the switch. For now, I'm hoping the it'll be a gentle conversion at best. (It's been a few years of this so far, when do they make the full switch?)

For someone that went full turkey (as opposed to cold turkey) it's hard to understand.

Tell your story here, it just may help.

Thanks fellow ECF'ers.

 

[Canadian_Vaper]

I'm pretty much in the same position. Would love for her not only to quit but to get into vaping with me as a hobby, I'm fully immersed in it, from advocacy to diy and everything related...

I think after xmas bills are paid, I'm going to get her a pink ego one mini, I have a subtank mini on a istick 40w TC always charged and sitting in front of her on her desk set up for tootle, yet if she does decide to ever take a vape she still reaches for the original Ego-T I got her 11 months ago when I got mine :X

 

[Susan~S]

I fully realize, to quit the analogues, you need to really want to quit. I was ready, and I am guessing theres no way to convince one who's not to make the switch. For now, I'm hoping the it'll be a gentle conversion at best. (It's been a few years of this so far, when do they make the full switch?)

Sometimes they don't choose to make the switch.

I've been vaping 9 years and have many different setups that my 3 smoking siblings have tried over the years. Still all 3 of them choose smoking over vaping.

 

[Swede]

She has a IPV mini with a TGTII built for tootle puffing always ready, (filled, charged batt, ready to vape) and when the urge to have a "real" smoke hits, she has trouble saying no.

Juice is a tobac flavored VG which we've found through experimentation is the one that she likes best. and there's no reason not to fully adopt.

Crappy thing is, she has a new VTC mini on order from FT that hasn't got here yet along with a hurricane atty (similar to her current TGTII) and I was hoping new vape gear would make it more real. The full bore switch that is...

 

[Canadian_Vaper]

Crappy thing is, she has a new VTC mini on order from FT that hasn't got here yet along with a hurricane atty (similar to her current TGTII) and I was hoping new vape gear would make it more real. The full bore switch that is...

I think it really comes down to you got to want to quit to quit. All her family smokes and I mean just about all of them brother sisters, cousins, aunts, uncles, I think it's just so normal for her, being around them I don't think I would have ever quit without vaping :X

 

[K_Tech]

Change comes from within. I smoked for thirty years, and I hated the fact that I smoked for about the last decade of those years. But I was never successful at quitting, and I tried everything, from gum, to patches, to prescription medicine.

When I got my two Egos and two Kanger PT2s, I was an ex-smoker 12 hours after I opened the package.

Maybe part of that was the gear I was using, but most of it, I think, was that I was finally ready to quit smoking.

Be patient, be understanding, and whatever you do, don't beat her up about her smoking. She may switch tomorrow, she may switch next month, or she may continue to smoke. The decision is all up to her. The best you can do is keep your fingers crossed.

 

[Bunnykiller]

maybe she is the resistive type.... the more you mention something the more they resist it...
maybe just quit "nudging" and let her find her own way... some people cant just switch but require a transitional stage that can take months...

 

[Vaslovik]

I fully realize, to quit the analogues, you need to really want to quit. I was ready, and I am guessing theres no way to convince one who's not to make the switch. For now, I'm hoping the it'll be a gentle conversion at best. (It's been a few years of this so far, when do they make the full switch?)

When I made the switch it was because I knew I had to, and really wanted to. I was developing serious health problems from smoking, peripheral arterial disease, serious leg pains, trouble walking, and the cost of smoking two packs a day was horrendous. Between my SO and I we spent over $500 a month on cigs. That had to stop. My first vape was a wretched device, but I knew there had to be a better way, and after going through an array of hardware I arrived at what I was satisfied with. I smoked the full flavored Morleys so I needed something that filled that need. I found it, and have not had a cig in nearly 3 years now. Perhaps the economic issue would help convince your other half. If she's not having health issues from smoking yet she will down the line at some point. You don't want to wait for that to happen.

My SO went back to smoking, because he wasn't willing to deal with charging his batteries, and didn't care to learn his equipment or maintain it. We are no longer together.

 

[Paul lamb]

My wife

Got her off 25 cigs per day on to an ego type

Then upgraded her to an mvp2 and a nautilus mini

She loves it she's not interested in lung hits but the nautilus mini is one of the best tanks going for noobs imo

There a lot more released since but that's what I always refer to as the best

 

[Vicshalls]

I personally did not want to quit. I just did not want my new car to smell like smoke. I just wanted to vape in my car. Next thing I knew I had quit. I guess what I am saying is there still has to be reason to even start to vape.

We have a friend that just wanted to vape some so she would not leave her baby in the house when she went out to smoke. Now she is down to like 3 cigarettes a day vs a pack or more.

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[EvilZoe]

All you can really do is gently try to get your spouse interested enough to try and then make sure he/she has proper gear and supplies to make it as easy as possible. We, as enthusiastic vapers, definitely run the risk of turning off those people by harping on it too much, nagging, or just being overbearing about it. Or even just boring people to death with it.

Be careful to not press too hard but DO share the good stuff and always be there for the moments when he/she is more receptive to the idea.

I personally didn't try vaping to quit. That would have put me off immediately. I just tried it because I was curious (that and the prospect of saving some money by cutting my smoking down was very appealing). I found THIS MESSAGE BOARD and discovered a whole new world and met more positive people. It all just clicked for me.

If anyone had been pushing me to quit by trying vaping I'd have dug my heels in and refused just because I don't like feeling like I'm being pressured.

 

[Rabbit Slayer]

I would buy some juice, pick her favorite fruit, then when you're vaping it, go "OMG, this taste awesome, you gotta try it" It she tries it, build from there

 

[mattiem]

Hubby and I started this vaping journey together. He vaped and smoked for a couple of months. He then went to full time vape for about 6 months and then gradually started the smokes again. Now he does both but instead of 2 to 3 packs a day, a carton lasts him 2 weeks. I quit the smokes the day I got my very first little cig-a-like kit. I quickly upgraded away from the atomizer/cartridge set up that came with the kit to a better ego type battery and cartomizers. He really isn't interested in getting as involved as I am as to how all this works but that is OK too. I never try to press him to go any farther than he wants to go.

I smoked for over 45 years. If someone had been pushing me to make the switch I feel sure I would have rebelled and it would have been harder for me to even consider vaping instead of smoking. All you can do is be there for her as she considers this step but try your best not to push. She has to make the decision.

I can't prove it but I think lots of folks would be more successful if they started small and worked their way up, I know a lot of folks are saying you may as well start at the top since you are going to end up there anyway but I can't agree with that. I see this as a journey and not a race.

I went from cig-a-like to fixed voltage ego type to 1300mah spinners to MVP's and isticks. I have stopped there because it just works for me. For toppers I started with atomizer/cartridge, cartomizers, various clearomizers (both top coil and bottom coil). As toppers improved I tried just about every one that came out. Once I got an evod I decided that they have finally got it right. I loved them and loved the fact that I finally had a topper that didn't leak for no apparent reason like so many others that I tried. I loved the colors available because I could match them to my batteries I moved on to evod glass and of course have one of each color but I actually use the Smok ARO ll mostly as of today. They too come in lots of very pretty colors so I ended up getting several of each color. I know your wife isn't interested in how things work right now but maybe she would be interested in using something colorful.

 

[Rossum]

I smoked for over 45 years. If someone had been pushing me to make the switch I feel sure I would have rebelled and it would have been harder for me to even consider vaping instead of smoking. All you can do is be there for her as she considers this step but try your best not to push. She has to make the decision.

+1000.

 

[Rt1Rebel]

I can't really give you useful advice, I just got lucky. I also tried for months to get my GF off of cigs, at a point she was mostly vaping but still smoked 5-8 a day. Then she had to have a root canal, and couldn't smoke for 3 weeks, but I told her (probably wrongly) that it would still be fine to vape, and that was that!

 

[OlderNDirt]

I would buy some juice, pick her favorite fruit, then when you're vaping it, go "OMG, this taste awesome, you gotta try it" It she tries it, build from there

I agree and would also encourage her to try flavors she may be interested in. Even if she finds one she likes, keep on trying others as even better flavors might be found. Get her to use that "shopping for shoes" method.

 

[WhiteHighlights]

I was a PAD smoker and it was the flavors that made a big difference to me. I started with yummy dessert flavors and actually lost a couple of pounds because I vaped instead of any evening treats. What would appeal to her taste buds?

 

[ismokeinbinary]

I'm in the same boat OP. My SO absolutely HATES vaping. It drives her crazy that I like to rebuild my tanks and that I post on ECF. I'm not quite sure why, but after giving her a VTC mini and a Bellus tank I've backed off, I don't try to get her off cigarettes anymore. Every time I order juice I let her pick out a few flavors. She has about eight bottles now. I'm hoping if I just leave her alone she'll quit on her own..

 

[DingerCPA]

I'm appealing to the ones here who've been successful in helping their other half make the switch.

Over the last nearly five years, I've been completely analogue free. My Mrs on the other hand has not adopted the vaping life as I have. She's been smoking for over 25 yrs, and told the kids this was the new year that she would quit. (it didn't happen)

It boggles my mind, I went from 1.5PAD to zero the day I got my first crappy 510 bridge atty and batts in the mail, the stuff available nowadays is so much better. Good equipment and properly made and regularly rewicked attys are not good enough to quell the urges to smoke, what else can a man do?

I fully realize, to quit the analogues, you need to really want to quit. I was ready, and I am guessing theres no way to convince one who's not to make the switch. For now, I'm hoping the it'll be a gentle conversion at best. (It's been a few years of this so far, when do they make the full switch?)

For someone that went full turkey (as opposed to cold turkey) it's hard to understand.

Tell your story here, it just may help.

Thanks fellow ECF'ers.

It's a tough spot you're in.... You can't *MAKE* anyone do something they don't want to do. She has to find it for herself, if and when she wants. Best you can do is have gear available, but don't push. If she asks questions, answer simply and concisely. There's a fear there of giving up a "security blanket". Or the stubbornness of "I'm an adult, and I'll do as I d**m well please." (raises hand, 'cause that's how I roll)

I dabbled with cigalikes for 2-1/2 YEARS before I finally came to MY OWN conclusion that I didn't want to spend money on both vapes and smokes. We all have our own paths to walk - one may quit in the first day; others of us may take many months.

I hope she chooses vaping over smoking, but let her find her own way.

 

[mario23]

My wife is really liking her new endura. Closest to the smoking experience she has tried so fingers crossed.