unsupportive spouses..

[Detroit]

update...


we'll shes using it even more now and likes it alot and keeps telling me the flavors she likes so i can get more for her lol
the only prob is twice this week she started a argument saying "your out of control with this stuff" and i just sit her down and crunch the numbers and show her shes spending more then me every week the only diff is i have 2-3 months worth of supplys and she only has the pack of analogs in her pocket. she stayed mad for a bit then came and appoligized to me.

i geuss its not that big of a deal it just really bugs me to hear "im out of control" when im spending the same or less. makes it sound like im some kind of drug addict... BUT on a good note im getting my own debt card so i wont have to tell her the dollar amounts anymore Yay!!! lol

 

[Iffy]

Gotta ask, is she bipolar? Or just Italian?

Glad to hear your 'situation' is improving!

 

[Homedude]

I've had to explain that it's not just the cost of a pack of smokes, but the whole trip to the store that has been eliminated. My routine would include a pack of cigarettes, an energy drink, a danish or a kolache, an occasional treat for the kid... that $6 pack of smokes per day was actually closer to $14 per day. But I still caught hell for spending $60 on juice and hardware that should carry me until February.

 

[Detroit]

Gotta ask, is she bipolar? Or just Italian?

Glad to hear your 'situation' is improving!

lmao thats pretty funny, she is italian and levanize(ya i know i didnt spell that right) lol is moodyness commen with them? lol i wasnt properly warned before hooking up with her lmao

homedude,ive also tryed explaning it that way. i think they just want somthing to yell at us for lol

 

[Beans]

I've had to explain that it's not just the cost of a pack of smokes, but the whole trip to the store that has been eliminated. My routine would include a pack of cigarettes, an energy drink, a danish or a kolache, an occasional treat for the kid... that $6 pack of smokes per day was actually closer to $14 per day. But I still caught hell for spending $60 on juice and hardware that should carry me until February.

Your RIGHT! I'm so using this on DH as soon as he starts acting up again

 

[Taniger1]

oh GOOD answer!!! I'm using it too!!!!

 

[JGD]

Yeah, My husband griped about the cost of my unit/accessories too... but he's coming around. Now he says just dislikes how MUCH I vape. "It looks like you're smoking a crack-pipe all day".

 

[Stormiefury]

Glad to hear everything is getting better. I wanted to post the same thing but didn't. I to hope to convert my wife. Is your wife from Texas? Seems Texas girls are so stubborn at times.

LOL

Now what just one minute there MISTER. I'm from Texas and I'm not stubborn. I'm spoiled.

Stormie

 

[annah]

Just to throw it out there.. What I'm planning on doing, once I break even, is to take my bi-weekly cig money, and put it in my money jar. I don't carry cash, so I have an old peanut butter jar that I store my cash in. It's part of my budgeting plan, so I'm not randomly spending money on things I can't afford. Anyway, all my extra money will go into my money jar. When I have enough, I'm going to start paying down credit card debt.

This accomplishes a couple of things. 1) I have a jar filled with cash, so the husband can SEE what I have not spent on analogs. 2) By paying the bills with it, It's another way of actually showing him what I was able to do with all that money. 3)It makes sure I don't have the inclincation to return to analogs, since I have a wad of cash instead (not feeling the urge, just extra insurance) 4) Kindof like saying "hey, if you vaped too, we'd have even more money"

 

[Eddie.Willers]

Feh!
Wimmin, eh? Can't live with 'em, can't live without 'em!

My missus looks at me most times either like I'm a kid with a new toy (I'm 48, but I do have some strange collections: straight razors; tube radios; old cameras; chrome 1940's coffeepots and toasters etc etc) or I'm completely nucking futz. Fortunately, the one thing she doesn't do is kvetch about the $$$.

 

[cracker75]

My GF gave me some grief over a new mod I ordered (particularly because she bought me a Jazz Cartopipe for christmas, and doesn't understand why I would want anything else).....so in the after her little rant, I point to the newest large box on the counter and say...."What's wrong with the shoes you've got? You don't need new ones."

I'm pretty sure it worked, at least until the next mod....

 

[JGD]

My hubby says"it's not that you vape, it's HOW MUCH you vape.. it's ALL you talk about!" I think I bring it up once or twice a day if I'm having a technical issue. He's Mr. Technical, so you'd think he'd ant to help me, right? He HATES smoking, so you'd think he's be thrilled right? He looked into it.....looking for ANYTHING he could find to prove vaping was bad for me. When he came up empty he begrudgingly said "yeah, I guess it's a good thing for your health"... just keep it away form me and the kids.. it's creepy. I think he's just jealous that I have a toy he can't relate to.

 

[Stormiefury]

My hubby says"it's not that you vape, it's HOW MUCH you vape.. it's ALL you talk about!" I think I bring it up once or twice a day if I'm having a technical issue. He's Mr. Technical, so you'd think he'd ant to help me, right? He HATES smoking, so you'd think he's be thrilled right? He looked into it.....looking for ANYTHING he could find to prove vaping was bad for me. When he came up empty he begrudgingly said "yeah, I guess it's a good thing for your health"... just keep it away form me and the kids.. it's creepy. I think he's just jealous that I have a toy he can't relate to.

It's funny how when they get a hobby we are supposed to shut up and be excited and listen to it but when we get one it's creepy and annoying how much we talk about it. I used to talk about it alot when I first quit. Now I just tell him when I need something new. I only made the comment about vaping more than I smoked because I notice it more since I do it in the house so I figured I had to be vaping more than I ever smoked but he says I don't. He did say I talk about it alot and he was worried that I was getting worried that it wasn't helping because I did it more and I would go back to smoking. He told me he'd rather listen to me talk about it all day rather than me going back to smelling like an ashtray. He quit smoking 6 years ago and has never given me any nagging or treated me bad because I was unable to quit. He always said I would quit when I was ready. Now he tells everyone I quit and he doesn't say but she uses an ecig. He just says I quit and he's proud of me.

Stormie

 

[DC2]

My hubby says"it's not that you vape, it's HOW MUCH you vape.. it's ALL you talk about!"

Tell him not to worry, you WILL eventually stop talking about it all the time.
I think it took me about 3 months.

 

[Detroit]

It's funny how when they get a hobby we are supposed to shut up and be excited and listen to it but when we get one it's creepy and annoying how much we talk about it. I used to talk about it alot when I first quit. Now I just tell him when I need something new. I only made the comment about vaping more than I smoked because I notice it more since I do it in the house so I figured I had to be vaping more than I ever smoked but he says I don't. He did say I talk about it alot and he was worried that I was getting worried that it wasn't helping because I did it more and I would go back to smoking. He told me he'd rather listen to me talk about it all day rather than me going back to smelling like an ashtray. He quit smoking 6 years ago and has never given me any nagging or treated me bad because I was unable to quit. He always said I would quit when I was ready. Now he tells everyone I quit and he doesn't say but she uses an ecig. He just says I quit and he's proud of me.

Stormie

haha i geuss we're all the same here stormie. i talk about it alot and at first it just made her mad after a min or ide get the "i really dont care what you have to say about that" now its "wait what flavors did you get? can you fill my tank up?!?!" lmao

oh btw. shes a pack a day smoker and she only smoked 4 analogs today and used her ego for the rest of the day shes almost there!! then i caught her on a e-liquid website (not sure what one) when i walked in she looks at me and says "theres just soooo many flavors" lol i got a feeling she'll be placing orders right along with me before to much longer. shes already asked me to order stuff for her. so i did lol (spare atomizers,2 30ml bottles of liquid) was her part of the order. and today she told me she wants some more tanks and more Mutt's fire N Ice. lol i cant blame her for that though, that fire n ice is soooo good!

 

[BluSwatch]

Is her battery holding up well? She may want to get a spare ..... I had a clearomizer snafoo over X-mas, and had it not been for back-up at my parents' house (nearby Walgreens and Blu cartos) I probably would have gotten analogs for the 3 days there. (I didn't remember back-up cartos ... )

 

[Detroit]

ouch close call! good thing for walgreens! i got down to 1 atomizer and i was freakin out lol now i got 5... i need more lol her batt does well and seems to last a good long while. i took it to work one day and it lasted me all day/night. i am ordering her a spare though, just incase. i think ill get her a pink one she'll like that. i wanna order her a whole pink setup but all this talk about e-cigs getting ban makes me nervious and dont know if i should spend a whole lot.?

 

[panachronic]

anyone have trouble with your spouse being un-supportive? my feiance(spell check) seemed happy for me at first...
then she started offering me real cigs even though i told her several times i didnt want any. then i bought my ego-t and she started to get a slight additude about it "why do you need that one whats wrong with the one you got at the gas station!?" ok so she got over that... now shes been tellin me the last few days "you should have extra money with this smoking thing so go buy this,go buy that" and she gets mad when i say "it takes time to save money, i have to gather all my spare parts and such"

my question is... WHY CANT THEY BE HAPPY WERE NOT SMOKING??!?!?!?!?!?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


sorry about this.. i just needed to vent because i feel like im gonna blow up on her right now, thank god she went to bed already or i probably would have...

anyone eles have somthing similer happen? any luck trying to explane or get her/him off your back about it?

she just makes it so frustrating for me and i dont even think she relizes what shes doing.

thanks for any comments.

Your fiance is not your spouse. And based on this post, I have to wonder you shouldn't keep things that way. Seriously.

 

[panachronic]

My GF gave me some grief over a new mod I ordered (particularly because she bought me a Jazz Cartopipe for christmas, and doesn't understand why I would want anything else).....so in the after her little rant, I point to the newest large box on the counter and say...."What's wrong with the shoes you've got? You don't need new ones."

I'm pretty sure it worked, at least until the next mod....

Well played, sir. Well played.

 

[Detroit]

thought ide give you all a update! she is buying 1 pack a week now (and not smoking them all) and this morning when she lit one up she looks at me and says "this is nasty" then she grabbed her PV

also i went to brush my teeth last night and my bottom plate broke so im thinking about changing my screen name to toothless wounder lmao gonna be a while before i can afford the 400$ to get a new one and they said no warrenty... i love my life.. lol