Husband says he wants to quit

[Jules22871]

I'm the one that started the ecig craze in my house. I haven't pushed anyone into doing it, they have all come to me about it. My husband says he wants to to totally quit but he is still smoking just as much as he always did plus using the ecig. I've told him there is no pressure from me. It is up to him whether or not he quits. He still says he wants to quit.

Any ideas on how to help him transition to the ecig a little easier? I've tried upping the nic strenght a little but that doesn't seem to have changed anything.

Thanks for any advice!

 

[Kate51]

I'm the one that started the ecig craze in my house. I haven't pushed anyone into doing it, they have all come to me about it. My husband says he wants to to totally quit but he is still smoking just as much as he always did plus using the ecig. I've told him there is no pressure from me. It is up to him whether or not he quits. He still says he wants to quit.

Any ideas on how to help him transition to the ecig a little easier? I've tried upping the nic strenght a little but that doesn't seem to have changed anything.

Thanks for any advice!

How much (analog) does he smoke, and what is the strength of the juice he's using....there does seem to be a correlation. Heavier smoker will need high mg/ml density. I smoked about 3 packs a day, totally walked from them on 24mg/ml juice, and quite happy! Could go down to 18mg/ml, but would just as soon not upset things for now.

 

[TnA]

I'm the one that started the ecig craze in my house. I haven't pushed anyone into doing it, they have all come to me about it. My husband says he wants to to totally quit but he is still smoking just as much as he always did plus using the ecig. I've told him there is no pressure from me. It is up to him whether or not he quits. He still says he wants to quit.

Any ideas on how to help him transition to the ecig a little easier? I've tried upping the nic strenght a little but that doesn't seem to have changed anything.

Thanks for any advice!

Hi Jules, not sure if this is helpful, and it certainly isn't advice, just some things to consider.

Although your husband says he wants to totally quit smoking, is he ready to do so right now? I have said for many years that I want to quit smoking, however....I've been waiting for the time when my mind tells me "OK...enough of this, you need to stop now". Unfortunately, I actually enjoy smoking, so the times are very few and far inbetween for my mind to be strong enough to just quit and therefore, have been rather unsuccessful in my smoking cessation. That fact is currently true for me. I'm a pack a day Marlboro Lights smoker but since actually dedicating myself to vaping, have only smoked 2 packs of cigarettes in the last 20+ days. Nonetheless, I have not completely given up smoking! Until my mind is strong enough to give me the willpower to completely stop analogs, I look at vaping as the alternative.

What is missing from his vaping experience that makes him miss his cigarettes? Smoking and vaping are definitely not the same (as you well know). I still find myself wanting cigarettes. It might be helpful for your husband to figure out what it is that is not being satisfied by his vaping.

Sub-categories to the above question: Has he found a model/type of e-cig that satisfies his vaping experience, or does he need a different type/model? Has he found a flavor(s) that satisfies his vaping experience? Does he feel overwhelmed and under educated about vaping and what exactly he is doing?

I've had the fortune of taking the past 3+ weeks off from work, so I've been able to spend massive amounts of time understanding vaping and experimenting with it to see what I need to gain enough satisfaction from vaping to make it a substitute for smoking. I also introduced my girlfriend to the e-cig at the exact same time. However, she has not truly applied herself to understanding what it is yet and therefore, has not dove head-first into this as I have. I plan on continuing with my vaping as my primary smoking experience, knowing full well that I will have an analog or two every now and then. In the meantime, I will continue to make e-cigs available to my girlfriend, continue to try to educate her on it, and continue to test flavors to find one that really grabs her, which might allow the e-cig to become her choice for smoking. Right now, it's just too strange and too complicated for her to dive head first into. Your husband may feel similarly.

Hope this helps and I wish you and your husband the best!

 

[Jules22871]

How much (analog) does he smoke, and what is the strength of the juice he's using....there does seem to be a correlation. Heavier smoker will need high mg/ml density. I smoked about 3 packs a day, totally walked from them on 24mg/ml juice, and quite happy! Could go down to 18mg/ml, but would just as soon not upset things for now.

He is about a pack a day smoker. I started him on 18mg but have since went up to 24 but he is still smoking the same amount.

 

[Jules22871]

Hi Jules, not sure if this is helpful, and it certainly isn't advice, just some things to consider.

Although your husband says he wants to totally quit smoking, is he ready to do so right now? I have said for many years that I want to quit smoking, however....I've been waiting for the time when my mind tells me "OK...enough of this, you need to stop now". Unfortunately, I actually enjoy smoking, so the times are very few and far inbetween for my mind to be strong enough to just quit and therefore, have been rather unsuccessful in my smoking cessation. That fact is currently true for me. I'm a pack a day Marlboro Lights smoker but since actually dedicating myself to vaping, have only smoked 2 packs of cigarettes in the last 20+ days. Nonetheless, I have not completely given up smoking! Until my mind is strong enough to give me the willpower to completely stop analogs, I look at vaping as the alternative.

What is missing from his vaping experience that makes him miss his cigarettes? Smoking and vaping are definitely not the same (as you well know). I still find myself wanting cigarettes. It might be helpful for your husband to figure out what it is that is not being satisfied by his vaping.

Sub-categories to the above question: Has he found a model/type of e-cig that satisfies his vaping experience, or does he need a different type/model? Has he found a flavor(s) that satisfies his vaping experience? Does he feel overwhelmed and under educated about vaping and what exactly he is doing?

I've had the fortune of taking the past 3+ weeks off from work, so I've been able to spend massive amounts of time understanding vaping and experimenting with it to see what I need to gain enough satisfaction from vaping to make it a substitute for smoking. I also introduced my girlfriend to the e-cig at the exact same time. However, she has not truly applied herself to understanding what it is yet and therefore, has not dove head-first into this as I have. I plan on continuing with my vaping as my primary smoking experience, knowing full well that I will have an analog or two every now and then. In the meantime, I will continue to make e-cigs available to my girlfriend, continue to try to educate her on it, and continue to test flavors to find one that really grabs her, which might allow the e-cig to become her choice for smoking. Right now, it's just too strange and too complicated for her to dive head first into. Your husband may feel similarly.

Hope this helps and I wish you and your husband the best!

I think you and you're girlfriend are the mirror image of me and the hubby! I honestly think he is just doing this right now to support me and have told him that he does not have to and that his smoking does not bother me at all. I have to quit. If I don't I will die and I know it. His smoking really doesn't bother me at all. If he's not ready then nothing is going to make him ready.

 

[Dilutetrips]

vaping works for quitting if you want to quit. a oerson must decide to stop smoking and then do it. I found vaping a great way to do so. I am not only a nic junky, but love the habit of smoking. I am using 7mg to 18mg most of the time it is 11mg. it is working for me, but i wanted to stop smoking. I also spent my cig money on e-cigs so I had all my cig money into pv's. have not had a cig in over 2 months. last night my wife asked me to light a cig for her. I did not want to even inhale the smoke it tasted so bad. I also hate to be one of those but the smell was ......

 

[Wildsky]

vaping works for quitting if you want to quit. ....

Yep. Doesn't sound to me like he wants to really quit, or he wouldn't still be smoking the same amount. He woudl have at least cut down on a few...

 

[TropicalBob]

I agree on "wanting to quit" being essential and have no idea how e-smoking has ever made anyone an "accidental quitter," but some claim just that. That won't be case with a majority of smokers. They need a real desire to transition from a dangerous practice to something they at least perceive as better for them.

Enter e-smoking.

Might your husband be interested in an e-cigar? The disposable Ruyan Vegas can be used for about a week after dinners each evening. Janty had it for $25 (not sure if they still do, but it's out there). Great taste and decent vapor. No fussing with it. Use it and toss it. He can continue his regular smokes at other times.

The same logic goes for the Ruyan Jazz, a true disposable. $25 and about five days of regular smoking. Tobacco or menthol flavor. Nothing to learn, nothing to fuss with. Great for beginners or those who don't want to sink $100+ into a really good, rechargeable, refillable product. This can fully replace, or just supplement, cigarettes.

Strength? Let him try Janty Shag Tobacco liquid. He'll cough his way around the room like a newly released balloon exiting air.

Help him decide what might fit his style. And understand that he might not come around to the practice you've taken to.

 

[Jules22871]

I think you all have hit the nail on the head. I really don't think he is ready to quit. Like I said, I've told him it's alright if he doesn't and his smoking, even in the same room as I'm in, doesn't bother me in the least. Being around anyone that smokes doesn't bother me. I appreciate him trying but I can't get him to admit he really doesn't want to or tell me what I can do to help him quit, so I'm a little lost with what to do here.

 

[Elle]

he might be putting too much pressure on himself also... i wouldnt be surprised if after he gets it out of his head that he "MUST quit ASAP" it might just happen naturally for him. there are so many elements involved in each of our individual addictions, and it can even be a part of a persons identity.

i know for me i had zero intention of quitting smoking (cigarettes) and tried an ecig for kicks- i did kick tobacco but it wasn't my intention. had i put the pressure on myself, and reminded myself of all my past "failures" of trying to quit, i'd probably have had a much harder time.

 

[Jules22871]

he might be putting too much pressure on himself also... i wouldnt be surprised if after he gets it out of his head that he "MUST quit ASAP" it might just happen naturally for him. there are so many elements involved in each of our individual addictions, and it can even be a part of a persons identity.

i know for me i had zero intention of quitting smoking (cigarettes) and tried an ecig for kicks- i did kick tobacco but it wasn't my intention. had i put the pressure on myself, and reminded myself of all my past "failures" of trying to quit, i'd probably have had a much harder time.

That makes a lot of sense. I think he feels that since I have to he does too. He is really a very supportive man no matter what I try to accomplish.

And yeah, if I thought about all the times i tried and didn't make it, I would fail this time for sure.