Aww you guys are too sweet.
He told me that he thought it was ridiculous to "be sending samples all over the place!" because I have a lot of different TV flavors and I wanted to try new ones.. SO I was sending 6ml bottles out for the favor in return. He said that it was a waste of money to send out one little sample, and that if I wanted to send out a WHOLE bottle for a whole bottle in return, something like that would be okay.
Then he said something along the lines of "I have spend a lot of money on this stuff for you!" He hasn't, I bought most of my new stuff with the money I got from school.. but whatever. Sometimes "we" just means "I" in his world. He went on to say that I should just be happy with what I have for a while.
Well, I mean, that would be grand wouldn't it? But there's just something about this hobby that makes it more fun to swap stuff with other people, give for free and get in return.
My husband is NOT a very giving person. Oh, and let me mention that a friend of mine was almost homeless a while ago and needed 500$ so he wouldn't be homeless. I talked my husband into lending the money with the promise that we would get 150$ a week back. Well dude hasn't sent us back any money so I'm already dealing with his aggravation over that.
So he can be giving but very rarely and under rigid rules.. and it's not because he's a bad person. Keep in mind that I don't have a job. I'm going to school and my husband is working to help support me through it and keep this family fed, clothes, and happy. So he does have a lot on his plate. But at the same time.. We are not poor people. We are not down and out... at all. When his father passed we got left a considerable amount of funds. Not to mention he is a computer technician and makes a decent salary. We also have his mom to help us out with small stuff like clothes for the baby, etc.
Honestly, I understand where he's coming from. But we are at place where we are totally able to spare a little money here and there for some people who aren't as lucky but he just doesn't see it that way. It's like he forms a plan in his mind about where all the money should go and if I spend it on something else it becomes the end of the world.
I don't know how to sit down and talk with him about stuff like this because he is very stubborn and won't listen. And if he does listen for half a second he usually informs me that it's his money and I don't have any right to argue which is like okay, kind of messed up, but I don't have a job and I'm not contributing to the house hold funds so I can usually let that go.
He spends a lot of money on himself. A pack of cigarettes (or more, sometimes) a day not to mention another habit that costs about 70$ a week that we won't talk about. I feel like that if I have found this new hobby that makes me happy, keeps me from smoking, and makes me new friends.. I should be able to do it.. even if i have to sneak around..
