Okay... here is the eulogy that I've written for tomorrow... I didn't want to focus on the struggles that she has faced. This is what I came up with... please be honest and tell me if anything is wrong. I love you guys!
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First off, let me begin by thanking you all for being here. Tricia had always joked by saying that we would be able to fit everyone who would come to her funeral into a phone booth. It brings me great joy to be able to prove her wrong… at least this one time.
How to begin? Well, as many of you know, Tricia and I met online. Long before online dating was a thing. We actually first began talking online in 1997 in one of the old style chat rooms. Eventually, we began talking on the phone and we first laid eyes on each other on September 2nd, 1998. She lived here in Houston and I was stationed in Jacksonville, FL at the time. We took turns travelling back and forth to be together for about a month or so before she dropped everything and moved to Florida to be with me. That alone is enough to tell you what an incredibly strong and brave woman she was. She moved to Florida and her only plan was for us to be together. The day we got to Florida, I went out on ship for 6 weeks. Amazingly, she was still there when I got back! That was when I truly knew that this beautiful woman really did love me with all of her heart.
A year later, we were married. She planned it all out while I was back aboard ship and as soon as I got back we had a beautiful wedding. To this day, she is still the most gorgeous bride that I have ever seen. I am an incredibly lucky man to have been able to spend nearly twenty years surrounded by her grace and wit. Of course, we had our ups and downs as every couple does, but we always put differences aside and cherished one another at the end of the day. We took care of one another and we supported one another. Most importantly, we deeply loved one another
through all of life’s challenges.
I won’t go into the illnesses that plagued Tricia’s life. Those things never defined her. What defined her was her Faith in the face of those illnesses and challenges. Never have I seen another soul who could face such things with the grace and strength that Tricia made seem so effortless. Through pain and sickness, she worried more about what was going on with others. She was always there with love, support, advice, and anything else that she could offer. One thing that she taught me was perspective; that no matter how small a person thinks their challenges are in relation to another’s; if those things are important to you then they matter. Please, never get caught up in trying to compare your challenges to those of another. Face your challenges and try to help others with theirs.
Faith. Unwavering faith. That is something that Tricia had and anyone who knows her will agree with that. Never once did I hear her question why she had to endure the challenges that were put in her path. Instead, she believed that there was a purpose and that God had a plan for her. None of us can say what that plan was, but I believe that she was here to show us the true face of strength, of grace, and of faith. To make us all better people. I know that she did that for me. I owe a large part of who I am as a man to her. I only hope that I can find a way to carry on and honor her for the rest of my days.
Tricia, I love you, SweetHeart. I love you with all of my being. Rest now, my Love… We’ll see each other again.