Made a bit of a fool of myself - how to get out of it

[zapper]

Hiya

I was at my works party last night and had a lot of wine then some cocktails - etc etc etc.

That was fine and we were all having a great time. But my boss is such a flirt (not with me I hasten to add I'm not young, blonde and gorgeous!). He is a real 'ladies' man'. Anyway of course I was getting braver and braver and not really bothering what he was thinking of me. I told him he was a 'player'. He kept asking me what it meant and I told him to 'google' it.

Thing is if you look it up online it's a really really bad thing.

I'm a bit concerned about going into work tomorrow. I'm trying to think how I can soften it if he says anything????

Or do you think I'm over-reacting???

Thanks.

 

[Lyndagayle]

If it were me, I'd make the first move and address the issue with him by acknowledging you had a little too much to drink that night and apologize for any remarks made that might have been offensive. That should clear the air. Apologies go a long way.

 

[Rhetoric Camel]

What Lynda said, and if you're a good worker you should be safe.

 

[zapper]

Thanks for your advice. I don't see him often as he's on a different floor (he's the owner of the company).

It's difficult because I might make it worse by bringing it back up and he's one of these men that doesn't think you should ever apologise and if you do he sees it as a sign of weakness and always says 'I'm not interested in your apology'.

I was more thinking if he asked me again what it meant and how I could phrase it - but I am going to have to face the consequences I suppose.

My appraisal's are always excellent although the boss doesn't really 'like' me - he does respect the work I do.

Thanks a lot for listening.

 

[Mac]

If he asks again just tell him it means perpetual bachellor and that when you told him to look it up on line you were joking. Stay firm as that is what he responds to.

 

[zapper]

If he asks again just tell him it means perpetual bachellor and that when you told him to look it up on line you were joking. Stay firm as that is what he responds to.

Thanks - that's excellent I kind of meant that in a way but when I looked up player it was so disrespectful!!

pheww.

 

[Ardeagold]

And keep in mind for the future...NEVER, EVER, NEVER have more than one light cocktail at any company function. I can guarantee that you're not the only one who's regretted their actions or statements the day after.

I think I'd just wait until he brings it up to you (IF he ever does) and then using the "perpetual bachelor" line is a good one. Then stick with that. hahaha

 

[breaktru]

I googled it and came up with exactly what you are referring to of him:
Urban Dictionary: player

 

[zapper]

Oh I know - no more drinking for me. I do like a drink but we ended up going to a late night club so was drinking from 7pm till 3pm - not a good idea!

Thanks for your advice.

 

[zapper]

I googled it and came up with exactly what you are referring to of him:
Urban Dictionary: player

I know that's the webpage I found when I googled eeek!

 

[breaktru]

yes but the truth is the truth.

 

[Scarlet Fire]

Maybe he was feeling pretty good himself and your comments didn't stand out to him in the whole scheme of things. I wouldn't approach him about it. Instead, I'd just see how your next interaction with him goes. If he seems tense or irritated with you, then you can apologize for saying something that he might have misinterpreted.

You can always say that by calling him a player, you meant that he seems like someone who likes to have a good time. I don't suppose you could get by with saying that you meant he was a team player...most bosses love stuff like that.

Either way, I doubt there was much damage done. If he's a reasonable man, he understands that sometimes people say things they don't mean when they've had too much to drink. I wouldn't sweat it- it sounds like one of those situations that seems worse than it actually was.

 

[zapper]

Just to update you all.

He's not mentioned it all all and given everyone (myself included) a lovely christmas bottle - so thank goodness.

BUT I will not be drinking so much on a work's night again!

Thanks for all your advice.

 

[breaktru]

See, you were worried about nothing. Glad it worked out.
Now go have a Merry Christmas zapper and enjoy your bottle.

 

[zapper]

Thanks - I know I'm a right worrier.

Have a great Christmas everyone!