My 11 year old made me feel like a total a## for vaping

[Medusa]

This morning he told me that he hopes they have e-cigs when he gets older. When I asked why he said that if he ever gives in to peer pressure he will use an electronic cigarette instead of real ones. Up until now I have felt pretty good about vaping , now I feel like a terrible Mom. I told him he shouldn't do either, but really what can I say?? THE GUILT!!

 

[Paulette]

It is really hard for me to believe that there is still peer pressure to smoke cigarettes! That is terrible! I feel for you Medusa and wish I had some advice for you. Other than you having a sit down with him and explaining the bad addiction of nicotine and he should not try it ever, I don't know what else to say.

Wishing you luck with this!

 

[klynnn]

At least he is smart enough to know there are options. Most aren't and as soon as they see their buddies smoking they will try it too.

 

[Orobas]

kids day the darnedest things.

I can envision it, a kid loitering outside of a brick and mortar, "hey mister, can you get me some two ohm cartos?" E-cigarettes are generally too complex for someone underage to start using arbitrarily, imho. I wouldn't worry too much about it, OP.

 

[Dana A]

I remember when my daughter was 3 and she said when she grows up she can smoke and say naughty words like me. I about choked.

 

[Medusa]

He is my problem solving child. I really think he put a lot of thought into this. He must have figured that this would be a good solution for future reference. I'm going to have to have a longer talk with him about this

 

[Medusa]

I remember when my daughter was 3 and she said when she grows up she can smoke and say naughty words like me. I about choked.

Sorry but that is funny. It sounds like something one of mine would say.

 

[Renolizzie]

I gotta ask, Is he really good at making you feel guilty like you are a bad mom? If so, don't let him. Kids can be manipulative.

On the other hand, kids are going to have to make choices about what they are going to do in a "free" society. Why not make sure he understands that? Lots and lots of things aren't a great idea. Drinking til you puke, not a great idea! Sorry for those that like it but smoking anything or other things, not a great idea. Waste of time and money.

Time and money are important. Spend your money on a car or a nice house or memories [like vacations that are awesome] that last a lifetime not cigs, combustibles or booze. A drink once in a while won't hurt you but anything more than that is just throwing your time and your money down the drain. Give out some guidance.

 

[Medusa]

I gotta ask, Is he really good at making you feel guilty like you are a bad mom? If so, don't let him. Kids can be manipulative.

On the other hand, kids are going to have to make choices about what they are going to do in a "free" society. Why not make sure he understands that? Lots and lots of things aren't a great idea. Drinking til you puke, not a great idea! Sorry for those that like it but smoking anything or other things, not a great idea. Waste of time and money.

Time and money are important. Spend your money on a car or a nice house or memories [like vacations that are awesome] that last a lifetime not cigs, combustibles or booze. A drink once in a while won't hurt you but anything more than that is just throwing your time and your money down the drain. Give out some guidance.

No he is not a manipulative child. I have two of those in the form of 9 (almost 10) year old twins. I also have a 17 year old daughter whom I have been talking to about life choices ALOT lately. I guess it's time to get on that tangent with him too.

 

[Medusa]

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[jammer397]

Biggest problem is kids are growing up too fast now. I don't know what I'll do myself when time comes. I guess I'll start very early the using tobacco is very bad and vaping is no better. I don't want to make vaping sound evil but if he never starts then thats money saved.

 

[sherid]

I never really discussed smoking and or vaping with my kids who are 24 and 20. Neither of them have ever smoked or vaped, but they are also extremely tolerant of others' choices since that is one message I pounded into them. I remember my son and his friends laughing about the constant barrage of anti-smoking curriculum they got at school. One of them said, "yeah, I got it back in 4th grade. Their constant lecturing makes me want to try it since it must be pretty good if they are so afraid we will enjoy it." Luckily, none of those boys ever turned into smokers. The only two of my son's friends who became smokers were from extreme anti-smoking families. Know your kid, and know that teens sometimes make bad choices simply to p off those telling them not to do it. It's the nature of teens to rebel. Don't overreact to them to give them reason to rebel. On a side note, I have taught high school for four decades, so I am pretty aware of the teen mind.

 

[MF DOOM]

It was either that or he would have seen you smoking a cigarette.
He'll be alright, by that time, it will be barley a memory.Kids say the darnedest things.

 

[mpkeith]

There's nothing to feel any guilt over. You've chosen to turn to something healthier and safer for both you and your kids. You should be proud of yourself! You've accomplished something huge.

With my kids I try to keep these sorts of conversations honest and simple. I used to smoke, it was a bad choice I made. Now I'm doing something that isn't so bad for me. That's not all say about it, but that's the general message.

I stay away from ideas that they wouldn't really understand like addiction, how much it costs, and so on. I don't make it a big deal and it doesn't become a big deal...if that makes sense.

But most of all don't feel guilty about vaping!

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[grandmato5]

I see what your son said in a different light. He obviously understands peer pressure and that it can cause someone to do something they would otherwise never do. The fact that he has thought about a possible solution to the peer pressure of smoking I see that as good thing. Of coarse you don't want him doing either BUT it wouldn't matter if you'd never smoked a cigarette in your entire life, the peer pressure to smoke a cigarette is still going to exist for him at some point. Yes, hopefully you can convince him to not do either BUT wouldn't you rather he do the lesser of the evils IF hes going to do one of them ?

By the way, make sure you save some of your worst tasting juice to give him "just in case" he decides to give into that peer pressure

 

[budynbuick]

Concupiscence; The desire to do that which is forbidden. Human nature. This culture thinks kids can be 'educated' out of doing things that are detrimental. My folks started with smoking/drinking is bad in about 1960. I 'chose' to do both. The more they said don't, the more I wanted to do HeHe. I have no guilt for the things my children 'chose' to do.
Keith

 

[Chessiesmile]

Maybe just tell your child,
YES, if you choose (and it IS a choice) to sway to pressure,
and give up your freewill, and are willing to take the risk of becoming a potential slave to a chemical (nicotine)
then PLEASE, by all means, ingest your poison by vaping,
because it is less damaging, and you won't risk harming anyone but yourself, and my heart.

 

[Chessiesmile]

This

Concupiscence; The desire to do that which is forbidden. Human nature. This culture thinks kids can be 'educated' out of doing things that are detrimental. My folks started with smoking/drinking is bad in about 1960. I 'chose' to do both. The more they said don't, the more I wanted to do HeHe. I have no guilt for the things my children 'chose' to do.
Keith

for reals

 

[Couture]

TOOO funny!

I remember when my daughter was 3 and she said when she grows up she can smoke and say naughty words like me. I about choked.

 

[Alton420]

I used to worry about my kids and smoking.... their mother smokes two packs a day and the teen pressure you know... but I'd rather get them a Vaporizer and any flavor no nic juice they want than them to go behind my back and smoke cigarettes...