New Memeber and the confession

[Mattsweetie]

Hello everyone! My Name is Matt and i have been lurking on these forums for months now. The day has come where i break free of the lurker cage with a confession and an request for some advice. First a little back story.

So in my house, both of my parents smoke(Mom-Cigs, Dad-Cigars). This led to some curiosity about smoking and eventually picked up the habbit far younger than i should have. I asked friends to buy them for me or steal a pack or two from my moms carton(I was a sneaky one). This went on for a couple years smoking about 2 packs a month. Then my 18th birthday came... I thought i would be able to quit but as i started going through a pack a week i quickly came to the realization that the stinkies had me on the hook. So i save enough money for a little ego twist and some juice and within a few weeks i was off. It then started to become a hobby of mine and now have several vapes including a VTR, mech mod, dripper, Russian 91 and so on and so forth. Now the time has come to reveal my secret to my parents. They never suspected i was doing any of that all those years and now that im almost 19 i feel the need to tell them.

So i have one simple question.

How do i tell them?

 

[jaxgator]

Ask them when they have some time to sit down with you and that you have something to discuss with them. When that time comes, just be up front and honest and tell them pretty much what you've told us here. That's my

 

[gwhetzler]

Uhm just be honest. As a parent myself Im sure they prob knew all along that you were doing it. You may be suprised.

 

[Mattsweetie]

Thank you. This has been on my chest for a little to long now. Im just afraid of them freaking out(which isnt a big possibility) and taking away all of my vape stuff and other privileges. I don't want to go back to analogs

 

[inswva]

Use this as an opportunity to introduce them to vaping. Maybe they'll ditch the tobacco also.

 

[Mattsweetie]

Use this as an opportunity to introduce them to vaping. Maybe they'll ditch the tobacco also.

I actually got one for my mom on mothers day and it doesnt see much use. My dad probably isnt going to quit because he really enjoys cigars with a rum and coke

 

[gwhetzler]

In all honestly I wouldnt see the point of tanking anything away you are an adult now not a child.

Anywho I would put money on it that they have known what you were up to with taking your mom cigs anyway. They just might not have known the extent of it. If they did know then they prob didnt know how to handle it seeing as they smoke, its the pot calling the kettle black.

Children think they are slick but we always know. It a superpower you get when you become a parent.

 

[Mattsweetie]

In all honestly I wouldnt see the point of tanking anything away you are an adult now not a child.

Anywho I would put money on it that they have known what you were up to with taking your mom cigs anyway. They just might not have known the extent of it. If they did know then they prob didnt know how to handle it seeing as they smoke, its the pot calling the kettle black.

Children think they are slick but we always know. It a superpower you get when you become a parent.

Thank you. You are probably right about them knowing

 

[chipd]

Welcome to the forum, not knowing your parents personalities it's a little difficult to give advice. If it were my parents I would tell them how it helped me stop smoking and offer them a vape to see if it helps them get off of tobacco. I would tell them that you love them and want them around for many years. At any rate be honest and tell them pretty much what you told us.

 

[Mattsweetie]

This is really helping everyone. Thank you for all the advice! It means a lot! Will post an update when my dad comes back on saturday

 

[WickedSick]

Be honest, sooner or later the truth will come out and then you will want to have all your pieces in a neat row.

 

[Rat2chat2]

to finally posting Mattsweetie. You have been missing all the fun but I am sure you have been absorbing lots of information. It's all here that is for sure but what makes ecf such a wonderful place are.......the people. Good luck to you and happy vaping.

 

[AndriaD]

In all honestly I wouldnt see the point of tanking anything away you are an adult now not a child.

Anywho I would put money on it that they have known what you were up to with taking your mom cigs anyway. They just might not have known the extent of it. If they did know then they prob didnt know how to handle it seeing as they smoke, its the pot calling the kettle black.

Children think they are slick but we always know. It a superpower you get when you become a parent.

You're absolutely right. My son thinks I have eyes in the back of my head, but what I actually have is an exceptional sense of hearing. And pretty keen empathy too, since my mom was a mean drunk, I had to know her mood before I walked into the room. There really is a psychic tie between a mother and child; not sure about father and child, but maybe that too; never having been a father, I couldn't say.

But I agree; just be honest, even about your chagrin about having "kept" this from them. I always made it a strict policy to actually listen to what my son was saying to me, and respecting honesty, though I realize very well that not all parents have or maintain this policy. It really is an excellent time to explain to them WHY you've made the choice to vape instead of smoke, and who knows, even if they don't jump on it with great enthusiasm, it's still a seed planted, something for them to mull over, maybe when they're doing the morning cough-up.

Andria

 

[dailywalker]

You never know you just might get them to quit smoking. You are the example of how it worked for you.

Welcome to the forum.

Congrats on quitting!

My son smoked I knew it he did the same things. He also helped me quit smoking.
I figured that since I smoked and his father smoked I would be wrong to punish him for smoking.

 

[iamthevoice]

Your parents already know, but they'll really appreciate you coming clean with them. I figure they are just unsure how to start the conversation and perhaps feel some guilt in assign on their habit to you. I think you might find that they thank you for introducing them to vaping! Good luck and let us know how it goes!

 

[dice57]

sit down for a vape and a drink, whatever, and let them know, am sure they already knew or highly suspected. Hey remember as a kid, dad always had a full box of condoms, and later learned he had a vasectomy after the fourth child, so why would he need rubbers 16 years later. lol

Yeah, parents aren't as ignorant as kids may think.

In any event, I am sure they will be proud of your confession, and of the vape getting you off smokes, Heck, may be a purrfect opportunity to turn them onto vape.


Vape long and Prosper.!!!

 

[viguy]

Welcome. Like everyone said just be honest. As a parent I would be more mad if you tried to lie. And they probably already know about the other stuff. Maybe turn into a family contest to see if they can join you in kicking the smokes. Then use the money saved for a family vacation.

 

[Mattsweetie]

Wow! I Didnt even notice the second page of this thread develope But thank you all for the words and support. It is really helping me through the nerves building up tp when i tell them!

 

[Mattsweetie]

Okay guys! I was unable to ell my mother but i did tell my dad. He took it very well and told me he did want me to eventually get off of the nicotine. He told me it took a lot of guts to do that and that he was proud of me. My mom will be learning soon. I want to thank you all for the support and time. This could not have gotten better for me! Thank you are!!!

 

[cbrite]

I am glad it went well for you. I have a grown son myself and he had to tell me something hard to tell your mom, but he just did it and because I love him (as your parents love you!) it was fine. Going backwards in time, I had to tell my parents that I was pregnant and unmarried in the 60s, when that wasn't such an "in" thing. Told my dad and hoped he'd tell my mom, but he said I had to do it. Also suggested I take her to dinner, buy her a drink, and tell her afterwards in the restaurant. She already knew (had noticed the weight gain...). Nothing is every as scary as you think it is going to be when it is between you and the people who love you.