Oh the Horror! Another Explode Episode!

[anavidfan]

All Im going to say, is this is NOT a good situation. If it was the other way around and HE threw and smashed something, he could have been accused of assault and had the cops haul him in.

Its not good when any person uses objects or fists to try to threaten another into doing something.

Sorry we are coming off as "judgy" but even if the "making up" is the best in world, is it worth bringing up a child with that as an example of "love?"

In volatile relationships, its usually the male that ends up be accused of battery, even if she is a foot taller and has a 100lbs on you.

 

[Racehorse]

Hope she didn't kick the dog, too!

Seriously, though. Not everybody knows "how to fight" correctly and fairly. That doesn't mean they are bad people, just that it's a skill-set, like any other, to be learned.

This is where couples counselling does help.

Ya'll have a beautiful baby together, so it's worth working it out. I'm sure there are wonderful things about your partner, and you, that brought you together in the first place.

The key is to work on bringing out the best in each other, not the worst.

Wish you both a good life.

 

[AndriaD]

that's known as being sly You're okay

I hope things work out for the OP

Well, if I did try to boss him around, he'd laugh at me and tell me to blow it out my nether orifice. So "sly" is necessary if a) I want whatever it is, and b) I want to avoid a fight. Which I certainly do.

Andria

 

[AXIOM_1]

Well, if I did try to boss him around, he'd laugh at me and tell me to blow it out my nether orifice. So "sly" is necessary if a) I want whatever it is, and b) I want to avoid a fight. Which I certainly do.

Andria

 

[AndriaD]

All Im going to say, is this is NOT a good situation. If it was the other way around and HE threw and smashed something, he could have been accused of assault and had the cops haul him in.

Its not good when any person uses objects or fists to try to threaten another into doing something.

Sorry we are coming off as "judgy" but even if the "making up" is the best in world, is it worth bringing up a child with that as an example of "love?"

In volatile relationships, its usually the male that ends up be accused of battery, even if she is a foot taller and has a 100lbs on you.

My husband is a former Marine, capable of hurting me with about 1 finger. But in our last volatile go-round, *I* was the one who went to jail.

Which made up my mind for me that there would be no more of that sort of volatility; the karma for it is too high a price.

Andria

 

[anavidfan]

My husband is a former Marine, capable of hurting me with about 1 finger. But in our last volatile go-round, *I* was the one who went to jail.

Which made up my mind for me that there would be no more of that sort of volatility; the karma for it is too high a price.

Andria

I admire you for admitting that. I know that ANY person is capable of things they never would think of, but you were smart and realized it was a bad combo and got out. I dont understand why so many couples enjoy such drama. It usually ends up in tears and when kids are involved double the bad. Usually those kids are timid and messed up or they become bullies because thats what they always saw.

 

[AndriaD]

I admire you for admitting that. I know that ANY person is capable of things they never would think of, but you were smart and realized it was a bad combo and got out. I dont understand why so many couples enjoy such drama. It usually ends up in tears and when kids are involved double the bad. Usually those kids are timid and messed up or they become bullies because thats what they always saw.

Well, we decided that therapy, not just for me and my depression and PTSD, but for both of us and our marriage, was a really good idea; I also went on Effexor, and the therapy continued for over a year -- we had a 15 yr old son, and no desire nor intention of breaking up our family, it's too precious. If there is a will, in both parties, to make a marriage work, then it usually will, given enough hard work. On both sides, not just one. It takes 2 people to make a real marriage.

Andria

 

[Jimi D.]

Jeez ! Am I on Facebook !? Crying on the internet is not a solution. Maybe mama can.

 

[roxynoodle]

Well, I would not have handled the eff off part well myself, but I don't throw or break things. I also have a lot of patience and wouldn't have expected immediate assistance.

However, if she wasn't this way before the baby, please consider she may have post partem psychosis and needs immediate help. Psychotic mothers are dangerous and others need to step in. Psychotic people are not able to recognize they need help.

 

[somdcomputerguy]

Will be our 35 yr anniversary next spring!

Congratulations to you and yours!

 

[somdcomputerguy]

marriage = can be a pain in the buttocks (sometimes)

It (marriage) is called an institution..

 

[AXIOM_1]

post partem psychosis - post partem = psychosis

I have lots of it -- I am an expert

 

[Canadian_Vaper]

They make you say "For better or for worse" when you get married for a reason !

 

[crxess]

Considering the way that most of you male-type vapers depict your non-vaping spouses... it makes me really glad to be a woman, so I don't have to marry one. If I was a man, I think I'd have to turn homo, just to avoid dealing with such unreasonable lunatics who think they're the boss of everyone.

Andria

 

[mauricem00]

It w early morning and all was well.

The wife was bathing the baby, and I was topping off the KFv4 prior to my morning vapefast.

"Give me baby shampoo", the directive came.

I capitulated and went back to filling the tank.

"Give me towl", I stepped away, obeyed, continued.

"Give me hot water", the demand came loud and purposeful.

"Yeh okay, one minute" I replied, frustrated and trying to complete the job in hand, "Let me do this first".

"Always smoking" the accusation was an invitation to the fight, "water yes, no" the challenge.

"F-off an give me a minutes" the ill advised reply.

She crossed the room like a thing possessed. Grabbed up my beloved Vaper Flask an launched it across the room.

It cleared the living room and landed in a puddle on the bathroom floor!

Harsh words were exchanged, I went salvage what I could.

The half filled KFv4 flew over my head and shattered against the tiled wall.

The KFv4 is no more

I stripped out the batteries from the VF, shook off the excess water, observing the dents near the 510, the battery cap, and t scuff on the otherwise immaculate body [oh the horror!].

As I left the house, approximately 15 x 30ml bottles of shop bought and DIY juice shattered both before and behind my path.

I escaped with just the battered VF and a single 30ml of DIY juice.

My local vape store were great, if a little under stocked.

I came away with a Goblin Mini, they installed dual coils reading 0.5ohms, and despite my fear that 12mg would be too harsh in a dual coil configuration, it's vaping great at 22w with the airflow full open.

Flavour is much reduced when compared to the B-KFv4, but has great vapour production.

Licking my wounds over a beer, with only a Goblin Mini for company

Hope you all have a better weekend!

Caterpillar out.

aunty flo can be a very unwelcome house guest. too bad she does not respect and appreciate you more than that

 

[pappcam]

Oh quit judging. There is dysfunction in every family.

Then why put it out there on a anonymous internet message board? You don't wanna be judged? Don't ask to be judged.

 

[ReigntheGamer]

If you told her to F-off over your vape, she should have hit you square between the eyes when she tossed it.

 

[thetrucker]

Should have got a temp control mod and a dripper can't hurt in trouble anyway------hahahahahah

 

[jwbnyc]

I don't think the warranties will cover that.

 

[Racehorse]

On your part, could you not have just stopped the topping off until the bath was over?

I feel sad for that child being raised in a home where the dad tells the mom to "eff off" and the mom reacts by smashing things.

Who cares about your vape.

Maybe I'm weird, but a baby comes first, first, first. People should think about that before having them. It can be a pretty relentless job. We didn't hear the mom's story......maybe she is "on her own" a lot and is feeling overwhelmed.

Whatever that infant needs, and now, IS the most important.

There will be many, many incidences where you don't get to tell your child "wait a minute"----because that's how bad things happen---- when parents are *pre-occupied* with stuff that they deem more pressing and important than the needs of their child (and in this case) one's wife and caregiver of child.