OK Now I am about to Blow.....

[Nyxie]

My Stack! I want a smoke sooo bad. I have butts and I am not afraid to use them. But that will not make me any better off then what I am about to spew out. I am almost to 2 months with no cig and this doesnt help me right this minute.

Hubby is/was one of those nazi ex smokers. I know I have posted about this before but not sure where now. Basically I was not allowed to smoke in my own house or my own car when his kids were in it. I was subject to smoking on the patio and in the garage when it was cold for 5 yrs until I finally started vaping. I gave up vaping once last yr for a few reasons. One was because of funds. Crappy batteries equal frustrations and I could not afford more kits and one pack at a time was cheaper then what I spent on a couple kits that lasted not long enough. Also the other main reason was that he thought it was cool to try and use my pv because he claimed he missed the hand mouth habit.
I told him I don't think that he should be doing any of this because it just isnt right that I try to vape to save money (because I felt guilty for smoking) and he is starting. So after my last crappy kit bit the dust, I didn't buy any more juice for the even crappier kit that I did have left.

Anywhooo I caught him. Busted!!! I smelled it, cigarette smoke. I said gee, I must be a bad influence, since you met me you started drinking and smoking. His excuse was that I don't let him use my PV! That smoking makes him calm down and every time he tried to use my PV I took it away. Jeezz what are we 12 !!! OMG I am so po'd.

 

[jj2]

I'd be more than a little POed!!!
But NOW is the time to play Let's Make A Deal---he buys you both a good starter kit.
If he is good at tinkering, get him into the modder's section, the NicoStick is pretty easy.
Then start dripping and forget the cart filler.
Then while you have the upper hand, make it plain, vaping is allowed in the house and the car. I vape in most all non public places (friends, relatives, etc). Although I do not vape in front of small children.

 

[JustKryssi]

I'd be ticked too. Hypocrisy, secrecy, then redirection of blame, hmmm. IOW, he's a typical male.

I would open up the lines of communication and do what jj said...make some terms that suit the BOTH of you...not just him.

Best of luck to you.

 

[Nyxie]

I'd be more than a little POed!!!
But NOW is the time to play Let's Make A Deal---he buys you both a good starter kit.
If he is good at tinkering, get him into the modder's section, the NicoStick is pretty easy.
Then start dripping and forget the cart filler.
Then while you have the upper hand, make it plain, vaping is allowed in the house and the car. I vape in most all non public places (friends, relatives, etc). Although I do not vape in front of small children.

What irritates me even more is that he gave me attitude for my time spent here one night. I thought he would be happy that I was not smoking. I know that the ECF has helped me along with vaping.
I have shown him mods and he thinks they are cool but stays back from helping me or even looks irritated when I talk about them. Maybe a little guilt feeling or something is what I am guessing. He bought me a multimeter last week or so, is teaching me how to use it and even bought me a solder gun and solder. He knows I will eventually try to make something. He has basically been hohum to the whole thing.
After we have our discussion about this , which we will have probably tomorrow. I am sure he will be mr vapor. Basically I think he liked the idea until I didn't let him play. I even went so far when I knew he was sneaking hits to put 0mg cartos on. But he went to cigs anyway, thanks to his buddy that he has been hanging with more often lately. I guess he never smoked mine because he liked Marlboro and I smoked Newport. His buddy smokes Marlboro and last week he was here and conveniently left his pack of smokes here.

I will be buying myself a new mod . I was waiting, but now I am not! Elendil has a nice saber touch in the classified for sale and if the other poster doesnt get it. I will, I hope. If I don't get that one, I will be buying one in PURPLE ! Or the BUZZ. I haven't decided yet.

 

[Nyxie]

I'd be ticked too. Hypocrisy, secrecy, then redirection of blame, hmmm. IOW, he's a typical male.

Ya got that right sister! I thought he was one of those 2%er's but I guess not. Only took 5 yrs to figure it out.

 

[Elendil]

Psst....Nyxie....check your PM

 

[JustKryssi]

Ya got that right sister! I thought he was one of those 2%er's but I guess not. Only took 5 yrs to figure it out.

He could still be one of the 2%ers. It's just that deep down, they're all like 5 year olds getting caught with their hand in the cookie jar and blaming it on their younger sibling.

Bottom line is he needs to communicate better with you. And I do believe that can be learned.

 

[VRubin]

Psst....Nyxie....check your PM

EEEEEEEEP!!!!!!!! A boy!!!!!!

 

[Nyxie]

Elendil is still my ECF hero!!!!

 

[VRubin]

I know how you feel. After I got myself all set up on vaping and found it so easy to quit the nasty sticks my husband was all gung ho about it. I ordered him a kit and some tobacco juices (yuck) and gave him a quick ecig 101 lesson.. would he listen to me? OF COURSE NOT! He lasted two days on the ecig. He HATED it. He HATED attys. He HATED the idea of cartos. He HATED how much information and learning there was... and went straight back to cigs. He still smokes cigs.
But guess what? Yesterday I had my first cig in over 2 months.. and I hid behind an outhouse in a public park to smoke it. Why? Because I didn't wanna hear his crap!

Hmph! MEN! I think your husband and my husband should get together and go bowling! Hahaha.

 

[Nyxie]

Woops I think Angus when I changed my name now it is El. I better stop before I get in trouble. I will just sit here and wait to stalk the mailman.

 

[Nyxie]

He could still be one of the 2%ers. It's just that deep down, they're all like 5 year olds getting caught with their hand in the cookie jar and blaming it on their younger sibling.

Bottom line is he needs to communicate better with you. And I do believe that can be learned.

Yes I know in my heart he is my real life (non ecf) hero. He was just tainted for 20 years by a nasty person. Who changed him and changed him and changed him and then through him to the curb anyway. He is just not use to me being so laid back. I know it will be resolved I just had to have a hissy fit.

 

[JustKryssi]

Hissy fit away lady! You've earned it!

 

[Mary Kay]

Nyx..stand tough. You may be vaping to save money but it has benifits in saving your health! That trumps the 6 year old attitude.
If he plans to smoke with his buddy..then that's his problem. You do what you need to do for you.
Mike smokes, he claims he is trying to vape but he isn't..except when I come in the room. The way I feel is that he is a grown man with breathing problems, heart problems an back injury. He is misarable. But it's his decision to make. All I can do is provide the choices.
Your hubby is playing games..stop playing. That's what I do..stop.
Make sure you have the tools to keep you stopped and then you will just need the juice and the upkeep.
Good luck and many hugs!

 

[Nyxie]

I know how you feel. After I got myself all set up on vaping and found it so easy to quit the nasty sticks my husband was all gung ho about it. I ordered him a kit and some tobacco juices (yuck) and gave him a quick ecig 101 lesson.. would he listen to me? OF COURSE NOT! He lasted two days on the ecig. He HATED it. He HATED attys. He HATED the idea of cartos. He HATED how much information and learning there was... and went straight back to cigs. He still smokes cigs.
But guess what? Yesterday I had my first cig in over 2 months.. and I hid behind an outhouse in a public park to smoke it. Why? Because I didn't wanna hear his crap!

Hmph! MEN! I think your husband and my husband should get together and go bowling! Hahaha.

I did hide in my office with the window open when I started smoking again once long ago. I hid like a 12 yr old and thats what he has been doing. For me it is the trust that really gets me.
The last few days he has been acting withdrawn from me (guilt) making excuses to go out to the mancave. Since when did he ever tell me why he was going to the mancave, he would just go. (guilt) That is what ticks me off . More then the smoking. I hate to say this but if anyone needs to smoke it is him. I don't like it but I am not his momma and I don't try to be. But I do expect honesty.

 

[stover.p]

Nyxie, smack him on the head! (JK) My husband smoked years ago, got hypnotized and quit. Easy for him. I tried everything else over the years with no luck. He griped and griped about my smoking. Couldn't smoke in his car, not in the house around him, on and on. I started vaping so I could "smoke" in the house and around him. He had the nerve to tell me my pv smelled like a fog machine! I lost it and told him he had a choice, analogs or vapeing. It didn't matter to me, you decide. Well that was 4 months ago and now he's always asking what I'm vapeing because it smells good.............MEN! He makes off the cuff remarks about the packages I get but I pay for it so he knows better than to push it to far. So all in all, do what works for you! Tell him to go to his mancave and smoke away and leave you alone! Good luck and stay away from the butts!!

Oh making you feel guilty for being on the computer...............take the remote away from him and watch what you want on tv and that will change his attitude real quick!

 

[DaMulta]

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[classwife]

Nyxie do you need me to bring you something...?

 

[Nyxie]

Nyxie do you need me to bring you something...?

A bat LOL Oh wait I have one of those .

I don't know what the other post is about . I have a drip tip. Gee I even have a spare one for the hubby if he wants one LOL

 

[Nyxie]

Ok so I had a Loooong talk with hub's about my issue. I was enlightened some. Let's just say he isnt smoking cigarettes and I will let him use my pv if that is what he chooses to do. I guess I seemed to be turning into one of those kind of wifes I don't like and didn't even realize it. He wanted to make a choice about using a pv or not and I didn't allow him to make his own choice. I acted like I knew it was best for him not to use it and that was that. I really don't like women who act like that. can we say I am turning into my Mother, telling other people what is good for them because I say so. That is some other personal issue altogether LOL
Mary Kay is right, I will worry about me and my not smoking. If he chooses to do something that is his problem not mine. Unless of course it wrecks our family. I guess me thinking he was smoking cigs was a good thing because it made me face some other issue, I didn't even know I had.
I am not sorry I made my revenge purchase though ;-)