BriDog67: I know how difficult this is. Some people here started using e-cigs and almost immediately they were able to quit. It took me several months. I did cut down almost immediately, and eventually went for six days without a cigarette -- for the first time in over 40 years! Then I back-slid, started again, and it was another couple of months before I got back onto the wagon, as it were. Then on September 30 I decided: I just have to do this. And the only way to do it would be...to do it. Just stop. Stop and don't start again.
So I did. Considering how badly hooked I had been, I don't think I'd have been able to do it without e-cigs. Both my parents quit smoking cold turkey -- I don't know how they did it. But they did. Hats off to them. (Too late for my mother, though -- emphysema got her after all.)
I did something people told me not to do: though I eventually threw out my last bag of tobacco (I'd started rolling my own) -- that bag is still sitting in the garbage can in my office. I decided to see how much I could push myself -- could I tough this out even with tobacco in reach? I would get insane, irrational cravings for cigarettes -- irrational because I must be getting enough nicotine from the e-cigs. But the cigarette cravings continued! And once in a while -- like right now, in fact -- I'll get those cravings again. It's totally baffling to me. But I've been fighting them off. (The "oh, just one won't hurt" excuse doesn't work -- guaranteed, it won't be JUST one!)
One extremely useful piece of advice came from one of the many books on quitting smoking. The advice was: thinking that you're being forced to quit, that you're somehow being forcibly deprived of tobacco, increases your anxiety level and tends to make you resist wanting to quit -- you might begin feeling as if you have to "fight back," somehow.
But you needn't feel anxious -- because you're not being forced to do anything in particular. The book's author pointed out: you can, if you feel you can't stand the stress of it any longer, always drive to the store and buy some more cigarettes. But you don't have to do that. You don't have to smoke another cigarette, and you don't have to feel as if some monster were sitting on your chest, preventing you from smoking when you "want" to.
I put "want" in quotes because even though many of us felt (or still sometimes feel) as if we "enjoy" smoking, it isn't "enjoyment" -- it's the relief that comes from staving off withdrawal symptoms!
I'll send a private message regarding another kind of product that helped me quit (it isn't a nicotine-containing product). I'll make it private because the last time I posted about it in this forum, someone (not a moderator, but one of these "net.cop" types who like to police everyone's messages) accused me of "spamming" the forum. I don't have any connection at all with the product in question but I'm not thrilled about seeing such spitwads thrown in forums, so I'll just use the private message feature.
Anyway, hang in there. It's difficult but it does get easier over time. Not necessarily easy, but easier.