Think I ruined my hubby

[UntamedRose]

I Dated and Married a perfectly capable man.
He cooked, he cleaned, he did his own laundry, 100% self reliant.
When we moved in together...he helped clean, shared cooking nights, ect........ everything was pretty well split( I helped with the "male" chores too btw)


Three years into the marriage now.....he's broken.

I'm not sure at what point he went back to the default setting....but I realized the other day. I cant remember the last time he cooked or cleaned anything

 

[topaz_stone71]

Is he still under warranty?

 

[beebopnjazz]

...send him back to his mother.....

 

[jj2]

Time for a refresher course.

My daughter married a guy like that. She did find out, if she left a to-do-list for son-in-law, he would do it. That includes the “It’s your night to cook.”

 

[HzG8rGrl]

Remember back to when he cooked? What dish did he do that was so goooooddddd?
Remind him how good it was and tell him how much you would like to have him prepare that again.
You have to start back slowly and not let him know. LOL

 

[keyzygirl]

I have one of those too,You have to TRICK him back into it.

 

[suddenly]

Your hubby knew how to cook, clean and pick up after himself. What planet did you find him on???

My hubby would put his dirty clothes in front of the hamper instead of in it. Sooooo I deceided to break this habit. Anything that didn't go into the hamper went into the frezzer. In a double sealed plastic bag.

I agree if he is still under warranty send him back to momma.
Unless your MIL is like mine and would keep him forever
But then again she is totally weird.

 

[blueeyekelly]

LOL I know what you mean, mine is broken too I think... LOL he taught me a buch about cooking now I cook way better then he does and he hardly ever (I think about once a year) cooks things anymore.... and he use to clean and rearange the house... those days are wayyyyyyy over...LOL

 

[beebopnjazz]

I broke the laundry issue - he used to drop his socks, underwear, etc on the bedroom floor and put his dirty shirt on the bedroom doorknob - I told him - if it's not in the basket it doesn't get washed - he didn't believe me - and I didn't wash anything not in the basket - he was doing laundry at midnight and had to be at work by 4 am - problem solved!

Your hubby knew how to cook, clean and pick up after himself. What planet did you find him on???

My hubby would put his dirty clothes in front of the hamper instead of in it. Sooooo I deceided to break this habit. Anything that didn't go into the hamper went into the frezzer. In a double sealed plastic bag.

I agree if he is still under warranty send him back to momma.
Unless your MIL is like mine and would keep him forever
But then again she is totally weird.

 

[stover.p]

I got my model too young and also spoiled by his mamma. He had no clue how to do anything domestic. He learned early and was great when our kids where born helping and all. Now that they're almost grown, he's regressed into not doing anything anymore. Gotta figure out a new approach...................maybe dangle a beer on a stick guiding him thru the stuff that needs done.

 

[Fudgey]

Beer is a good motivator. My hubby has been doing his fair share in the last few weeks. Since he doesn't have a job at the moment, he has been doing laundry, I do have to remind him that towels are not supposed to be washed with shirts. He has been mowing the yard and emptying the dishwasher. However he does not cook, hasn't much since my daughter told him he wasn't allowed to cook chicken fried steak anymore, he didn't dip it in egg then flour just the flour.

 

[stover.p]

However he does not cook, hasn't much since my daughter told him he wasn't allowed to cook chicken fried steak anymore, he didn't dip it in egg then flour just the flour.

Mine would never attempt to make chicken fried steak! He can cook food in the microwave but anything he cooks on the stove will only be eaten by him. He comes up with "recipes" with ramon noodles............YUCK!

 

[Fudgey]

Thats funny, my dh was just saying the other day while I was asking him what he wanted to eat for next week, you know you can make allot of things with ramen noodles. I just said ok whatever! Only cooking he does now is on the grill.

 

[stover.p]

Ramon noodles are a man thing.................I'm embarrassed to say I had to teach my husband how to grill. We started dating when he was 16 and married when he was 18 so he didn't learn much about it. He sure could mow with the best of them tho

 

[Fudgey]

It's good to have a guy that can mow. I have been mowing for the last 2 summer because he had back surgery. Sons would mow when I could get them to come over and do it. Hubby is good at the grill I just have to remind him the I like my meat well done, and hot dogs kinda burnt.

 

[stover.p]

We have 8 acres so he gets to do the mowing sitting down

 

[suddenly]

Don't get me wrong. When I put his clothes in the frezzer they were not clean. Thats why I doubled bagged them.
He too had to do laundry to go to work. It worked! He did start to pull that real heavy top up off the hamper and put his dirty clothes in.

I don't know if this was being a bad mom, but I started making my kids do their own laundry at about 13 yrs old, even my son.

Was that bad???

The only time I can recal my husband cooking dinner is when he caught a big fish and cooked it himself. The veggies were not so good. He took green beans out of a can and added the worms he had left over from fishing.

He did this as a joke for the kids. He thaught it was funny, even though we didn't. Men are soooooooo strange!

 

[stover.p]

I don't know if this was being a bad mom, but I started making my kids do their own laundry at about 13 yrs old, even my son.

Was that bad???

Not bad at all I did the same thing even with my son!

The only time I can recal my husband cooking dinner is when he caught a big fish and cooked it himself. The veggies were not so good. He took green beans out of a can and added the worms he had left over from fishing.

He did this as a joke for the kids. He thaught it was funny, even though we didn't. Men are soooooooo strange!

Now that's just NASTY Again Men are SOOOOO strange

 

[Fudgey]

I wish I would have started my kids washing their own laundry. Except there was 5 of us and I don't think I would have ever had a moments peace with 3 kids fighting over the washing machine, sharing a bathroom was bad enough.
Ditto men are strange!!

 

[Mary Kay]

Ladies, ladies, ladies! Geeze! I quit doing all the housework! He helps or has to shovel the mess. I cook most of the time, but he cooks when I don't feel good.
Mike was raised by his dad and never saw anything wrong with housework. He also never saw anything wrong with women working in the yard! Drat!

Years ago Mike used to make up rules in his big book of rules (not real of course) But when my ex son in law called to ask if he really had to clean up behind my daughter when she was trimming the hedges and trees..Mike said YES! It was in the big book that she clops and you clean up! SIL hung up and Mike laughed for an hour. See Mike has a scorched earth mentality and I never let him trim..he tends to scalp the shrubs.