Vaping around kids

[Completely Average]

You don't think it will be simply *her* "fault", for being a curious human being?

Curious about what exactly? The vapor I am exposing her to? Is it her fault I'm exposing her to that vapor? Do you think she would be curious about it if I wasn't exposing her to it?

And I'm trying to see where a "fault" lies, in someone vaping, and cannot see it. If you were abusive to her, and then she became abusive to her own kids, yeah, that would be your "fault". Is it your "fault" if she becomes a loving and caring person? I see no fault in that either, just as I see none in vaping.

Why are you not seeing it? Is it because the fault doesn't exist, or because you don't want to accept personal responsibility when your children emulate you?

Have you ever heard the expression "Lead by example"? How about "You grow up to be your parents"?

But just because a kid learns or becomes familiar with something at home, it does not *necessarily* follow that they will do that themselves.

Even when they are actively showing interested in it, and showing that interest because of your exposing them to it?

My mother was somewhat abusive to me, but I used her as my pattern of how NOT to raise my own child. I think it worked; my son has always had a very healthy sense of self-esteem, so I didn't manage to (s)mother it out of him, as my own did to me.

Andria

That's nice. I have the same story about my father.

But that is entirely irrelevant to this discussion. This discussion centers around my daughter who at the age of 13 is already showing interest in vaping specifically because I am exposing her to vapor that smells appealing to her. She smells the candy, she smells the vanilla, and she has already voiced the desire to know how it tastes. Whose fault is that, if not the person exposing her to it? Whose fault is it that this 13 year old girl wants to puff on her fathers ecig and know if it tastes as good as it smells?

 

[Ohm Gnome]

I also loved Twin Peaks. And the movie Fire walk with me

 

[AndriaD]

Curious about what exactly? The vapor I am exposing her to? Is it her fault I'm exposing her to that vapor? Do you think she would be curious about it if I wasn't exposing her to it?

Of course she could be! You're not the only person in the world, nor the only person she's likely to ever see vaping.

Why are you not seeing it? Is it because the fault doesn't exist, or because you don't want to accept personal responsibility when your children emulate you?

Because there is no "fault" in vaping. If vaping was the most dangerous activity my son ever participated in, I would feel blessed and thank my lucky stars. There is no more fault in vaping than in drinking soda or coffee, or moderately enjoying alcoholic beverages; even though I'm an alcoholic myself, my son isn't (that I know of!) and I've seen him, many times, drink 1 beer, not even finish it, and then go get soda instead. Or drink a cup of coffee, and when offered another, decide to have another, but decaf instead. None of those things is a "fault."

Andria

 

[blivey]

A 1013 Production -- "I made this!"

Andria

LOVE, LOVE, LOVE!

 

[svapomarco]

I never vape around other people's kids. They aren't my kids, I feel I don't have the right to make that choice for them.

It's not that I think it's harmful, it's that no one knows for sure. I'm sure it's 100 times better then smoking

That's right!

I've a 8 month old baby, he is my little and i never to vape when he is around.

The why is in the liane18s post. He's too little and I've fear.

I vape in one room dedicated to vape in my house, it is my room and I only can enter in it. (a part my wife).
I'm feel less on guilty with this way of doing.

I think that everyone should do what believe be just.
My 2 cent.

 

[yuseffuhler]

Personally, I wouldn't be too upset if my kids started vaping (once they're of age). Definitely less upset than if they were smoking. If I find them with either before then, it's my duty as a parent to remove adult substances from them.

 

[tehdarkaura]

if its your kids AND your house you have the right to set rules and ask people to follow them.

If its not your house then you don't have any right to ask for anything or criticize anyone else's choice.
if its not your kids then your don't have any right to ask for anything or criticize anyone else's choice.

I get tired of parents that think because they have a child they have the right to treat other adults like children...

 

[svapomarco]

if its your kids AND your house you have the right to set rules and ask people to follow them.

If its not your house then you don't have any right to ask for anything or criticize anyone else's choice.
if its not your kids then your don't have any right to ask for anything or criticize anyone else's choice.

I get tired of parents that think because they have a child they have the right to treat other adults like children...

You're say right things. I don't know the your in-law but the my are like the people that you describe in your post. I've rage when someone feel itself on right to say or judge our choice as parent. It's horrible and make me rage because they are stupid

Tehdarkaura you've understand all and i repeat that you have right.

 

[jrlakeman]

My kid was curious of vaping as hes on 4 and thats how they learn by asking about everything. I explained to him that what it is and why i do it and hasnt been an issue after i took the mystery out of it. He often asks me what juice im vaping i think he likes saying the names as some are funny sounding to him. As they say curiosity killed the cat so i tried to take the curiousity out of it and its working fine so far.Eventually hes gonna find out about it someday anyways i rather it comes from me first than one of the kids at school who swiped there parents e cig.

 

[Jimi D.]

We vape in front of our kids. In the house too. They sure love to hug and kiss even more now. We don't smell like exhaust pipes anymore. Since day one I have educated my children that e-liquid is not something to play with. That it's for mommy and daddy only. Never once did they touch it. They're great kids. I love them so much

 

[jrlakeman]

We vape in front of our kids. In the house too. They sure love to hug and kiss even more now. We don't smell like exhaust pipes anymore. Since day one I have educated my children that e-liquid is not something to play with. That it's for mommy and daddy only. Never once did they touch it. They're great kids. I love them so much

Right on! My child was main reason i quit smoking i wanna be around to him grow.

 

[Jimi D.]

Right on! My child was main reason i quit smoking i wanna be around to him grow.

We sure will brother !

 

[AndriaD]

Heh... when I told my son, on the phone, that I no longer smoked, thanks to e-cigs, he said "WHO ARE YOU AND WHAT HAVE YOU DONE WITH MY MOTHER!?!"

I suspect my husband felt much the same when I first switched -- who is this changling who says she's my wife? Can't be my wife, she doesn't smell like an ashtray!

We've started taking little walks in the evening, as I've reached the age that I'm never going to lose weight if I don't get off my .... and do something; I can go twice as far up a hill now without getting winded! I'll keep pushing it, maybe I can get back something like near-normal lungs, despite my asthma, now that I no longer inhale smoke.

Andria

 

[svapomarco]

Heh... when I told my son, on the phone, that I no longer smoked, thanks to e-cigs, he said "WHO ARE YOU AND WHAT HAVE YOU DONE WITH MY MOTHER!?!"

I suspect my husband felt much the same when I first switched -- who is this changling who says she's my wife? Can't be my wife, she doesn't smell like an ashtray!

We've started taking little walks in the evening, as I've reached the age that I'm never going to lose weight if I don't get off my .... and do something; I can go twice as far up a hill now without getting winded! I'll keep pushing it, maybe I can get back something like near-normal lungs, despite my asthma, now that I no longer inhale smoke.

Andria

This is a beautiful story!

 

[Bayakomo]

Even vaping is much safer then analog, I think it's better that i don't vape in front of the kid. I don't want my kid grow to be like me.

 

[jrlakeman]

Its amazing how much cigs dragged me down even my seasonal allergies are pretty much gone now that i quit. I dont need scientific data to prove e cig are safe i can feel it in my health. I can take a run and not cough my ... off after a few mins. I can blow up my childs pool toys and not feel like im gonna pass out. I can go on for hours how much better i feel now. Its a shame that some ppl got there mind made up that its worse than smoking from the big tobacco propaganda campaign brain washing to deflect the real problem here which are the cancer causing cigarettes. It makes me mad thinking about it.....

 

[Caro123]

a whole generation has been subjected to the propaganda of the evils of tobacco and the guilty, ashamed, disenfranchised and dare I say abused tobacco smoker individually suffered. A workable alternative has been found, but all the evil doers (some even deludedly well meaning) continue to sit in the wings gleefully rubbing their hands trying to finagle a way keep the dollars flowing in - do you honestly think for one moment that any of the players can afford to support ecigs - even the name is confusing so who escapes the flux - their is about as much comparison to smoking tobacco and vaping as there is a cougar and a kitten.

 

[yuseffuhler]

a whole generation has been subjected to the propaganda of the evils of tobacco and the guilty, ashamed, disenfranchised and dare I say abused tobacco smoker individually suffered. A workable alternative has been found, but all the evil doers (some even deludedly well meaning) continue to sit in the wings gleefully rubbing their hands trying to finagle a way keep the dollars flowing in - do you honestly think for one moment that any of the players can afford to support ecigs - even the name is confusing so who escapes the flux - their is about as much comparison to smoking tobacco and vaping as there is a cougar and a kitten.

Hey, I once got a scratch from a kitten. I'd say they're pretty dangerous. And I once got a sore throat from some cinnamon e liquid. Probably gave me cancer.

 

[jrlakeman]

Hmmm yes those kittens are menacing same thing happen to me lets outlaw them and adopt cougars as our house pet.

 

[Caro123]

ah life is risky and contrary to our general state of denial absolutely no one lives forever, wash the scratch with soap and water, gargle with a little saline and next time try honey!