I am so glad to hear your husband came around!!
I had a hard time getting my boyfriend to be supportive of my quitting analogs in the past (not by switching over to vaping, but either going cold turkey or using gum). I would say "tomorrow is the day I am quitting" and he would always come up with "we are moving, why don't you wait until the move is over so you have less stress" or "your exams are coming up, maybe you shouldn't until they are over" or other various excuses as to why I should wait to quit... Him doing that put doubt in my mind and I never gave up the habit. I never could figure out why he did that and he still doesn't offer an explanation. He doesn't smoke, so you'd think he would be glad to have me quit the stinkies. He does, however, use chewing tobacco so maybe he thought I'd try to force him to quit or act like I was better than him because I quit. I'm not sure.
Anywho, I started vaping a few months ago but still smoked in addition; I really didn't feel like making a change to vaping was going to happen. Finally, I just decided that I was quitting the next day, no matter what, and vaping would be my exclusive source of nicotine. I'm not sure why this worked, but I changed my tactics this time. I never verbally told him I was quitting. We have a dry erase board on our fridge that I write grocery lists on, little notes to perk up his day, or whatever. I had written on it My Boyfriend is: Awesome, funny, etc. and that had been there for a few days, so while he was at work I changed it to Alisa is: Quitting smoking tomorrow (Nov 4), How: Gave all the resources and distractions I planned to use to keep my mind off of cigarettes (including my vaporizer), Why: Talked about health reasons, feeling better, looking better, smelling better. Then I had had a section titled Please. Here I wrote "Please: Be supportive. Tell me, kindly, if I am being grumpy or talking about quitting too much."
The next day I asked him if he had read the dry erase board, he told me he had, and we left it at that. He didn't seem upset about my decision, but I was still worried he may try to talk me out of it. The next day he surprised me though, he said "You know, you haven't had a cigarette in 24 hours. I am really proud of you." Then he high-fived me haha. My jaw dropped. He now knows exactly how many days it has been since my last cigarette and tells me every day that he is proud of me. He even tried giving up chewing tobacco, he isn't ready for that and I respect his decisions either way, but he has been using a vaporizer and has cut back on chewing just slightly. I'm not sure what difference writing it down made, but I'm so glad it did.
Glad to hear that!
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