1 Day Lapse

[DarkDays93]

Hey guys,

So I was at a funeral yesterday. He was a great guy and LOVED a smoke. It didn't feel right not having one day smoking in his honour, so I did. Went through a pack of 20. Strange thing is? I don't hate myself for it, I'm not kicking myself. Yesterday I just didn't care.

Is this normal? Was it a stupid decision? Anyone else done the same?

PS. I'm back off them again now.

James

 

[sean5340]

I don't see a problem with it. 20 is better than 100. I fell off the wagon for almost a year mostly due to crappy gear. Now I don't care one bit about a cigarette. I think quality dependable vape gear and juice is the key.

 

[DarkDays93]

Problem is, I had dependable gear with me. I just did it because everyone else who smoked was having a tab in his honour (he would have enjoyed that) after the funeral and it felt wrong staying smoke free that day.

Oh well, the damage is done now!

Anyone else?

 

[RoseB]

Sorry for your loss Back in '02 I'd quit cold turkey for almost a year, and lost a loved one. Ended up smoking again. Cigarettes become a coping mechanism for those of us who smoke/or did. Glad you're not beating yourself up over it, and getting back to your vaporizer.

 

[sean5340]

Just look at it as cheating on a diet in celebration of something. One piece of cheesecake will do less harm than the whole cake.

 

[Mark Anthony]

Sorry for your loss.... Important thing is that you found out that you don't need them anymore.

 

[Christopherja]

Nothing wrong with a gesture in memorium, as far as I'm concerned!

I'd probably still want everyone to have a whisky and a ... at my funeral...

 

[DarkDays93]

It was also his request that we all have a Chairmans Reserve (his favourite drink) so I thought it only right to have 1 day of smoking.

It's been easy enough to stop again today so it looks like I don't need them anymore!

 

[sammerson]

Sorry for your loss.... Important thing is that you found out that you don't need them anymore.

I think this is the key here. IF you had any doubt, not saying that you did, but IF you did, now you know that you're pretty much over smoking and know you won't have any relapses in the future. I think most of us have probably questioned our own will power at some point in time. It's always good to have validation.

And for the record, I see nothing wrong with doing something in memorium, if that's all it is, as long as you aren't feeling guilty about it, I wouldn't even consider it a relapse.

 

[Peter_C]

First, am sorry for the loss of a friend.

We can all find reasons to fall of the wagon - good reasons, bad reasons - we can all justify a lapse. But because it happened, it's over, it's past, now move on. Beating yourself up for the lapse isn't going to help anything, and to be honest, neither is justifying it. It happened, hopefully it won't happen in the future, but if it does, then try again.

I once quit smoking for a full 18 months, no lapses or anything. But I missed smoking, and one day I said to hell with it and went back to smoking. Last AUG I started vaping, and for the most part it's making it OK for me. I told myself (and my lovely wife) that if I quit I quit, but no promises, only that I'd vape for 5 minutes before grabbing a smoke.

I do miss the 'idea' of smoking, but I don't miss going out to the garage to smoke, etc..

Just keep on keeping on...

 

[MorpheusPA]

Stressful and emotional situations often set off things temporarily. In your case, very temporarily! I'm sorry for your loss, and glad you could honor your friend/relative in the way he wanted. Other than that, it's not a big deal.

It's no big deal, and I seriously doubt one day is going to do you any harm. Just have your suit cleaned to get rid of the smoke smell and it'll be fresh for you the next time you wear it. That's about the worst consequence I can think of.

Like we say around here, it's the ones you didn't smoke, not the ones you did. And the ones you did were minor.

 

[revco]

I probably would have done it, myself. Maybe not bought a pack, but bummed one. There's a lot worse reasons out there to fall off the wagon, for sure. Glad you're not beating yourself up for it. Sorry for the loss of your friend, that sucks.

Now get back on the wagon! Hahaha.