Alright - This Really Bugs Me

[Kropotkin]

I've always been very impressed with the generosity of ECF people, and their willingness to help newcomers. Oftentimes folks will take huge amounts of time to describe complicated processes in great detail; they'll supply endless links to venders and videos, and they're always ready to congratulate success.

In short, they're an invaluable and irreplaceable resource.

All that being the case, it just bugs me no end when the recipient of somebody else's thoughtfulness fails to say Thank You, or drops out of a thread without even acknowledging the time others have taken to reply to his questions.



Honestly! How hard can it be? Nobody on this planet is so busy or so important that they can't find the 97 seconds it takes to thank a fellow vaper for his or her kindness.

 

[Paradicio]

Thank you.

 

[Topwater Elvis]

Thank you. <----- 2.137 seconds.

 

[bluecat]

It is not just people that vape. It is society in general. I have to kick my kids almost anytime someone does something for them to say thank you.

 

[Asbestos4004]

I'm with you....I also don't like when someone tries to start a flame war, then disappears without admitting he's a total douche rocket.
By the way, thank you.

 

[DavidOck]

Not to mention that it's even quicker to just hit the "like" button to show appreciation

Some do, some don't. Just like in RL, when you wave some motorist to go in front of you, some wave thanks, some don't.

 

[crxess]

All this starts in the home.
Most young adults, with 2 working or a single parent were raised in a House, not a home.

Social standards have dropped significantly.

 

[minitater]

Good manners are taught at a young age and not learned just by using the internet...

 

[DetraMental]

I completely agree Kropotkin! Thank you for starting this thread. A little common courtesy goes a long way.

 

[Izan]

This should be "Between ourselves".

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[Dayglow]

I see it on all the forums I keep up with from time to time. I think that the people who don't give thanks don't feel they need to since the information is for everyone despite being directed at them. Forums are also seen as less formal than a personal interaction, so the same person who checked out of the thread without so much as a "thanks" might behave differently in real life. If they created the thread they should know better, but if it's a casual question in an existing thread I sometimes don't say thanks myself.

 

[FourWinds]

Yeah sure, but they may not see the answer, or even come back to the forum. Also, sometimes it just doesn't feel right to say thanks to heaps of guys; what if you miss someone out?

I suspend normal courtesy rules when I'm on the internet myself; It's just not the same as the real world.

 

[Kropotkin]

I see it on all the forums I keep up with from time to time. I think that the people who don't give thanks don't feel they need to since the information is for everyone despite being directed at them. Forums are also seen as less formal than a personal interaction, so the same person who checked out of the thread without so much as a "thanks" might behave differently in real life. If they created the thread they should know better, but if it's a casual question in an existing thread I sometimes don't say thanks myself.

That makes a certain amount of sense, Dayglow.

But really, I'm talking about the person who posts, "Help! My tank is leaking!" and then fails to acknowledge the 47 paragraphs of useful advice that follow.

Surely even a grunting, drooling caveman ought to realize that this is just plain rude?

 

[AgentAnia]

Yeah sure, but they may not see the answer, or even come back to the forum. Also, sometimes it just doesn't feel right to say thanks to heaps of guys; what if you miss someone out?

"Thanks, everybody" would cover that, I think.

I suspend normal courtesy rules when I'm on the internet myself; It's just not the same as the real world.

Maybe I'm old-fashioned (Courtesy was instilled in me before I could walk, as I recall.) but in my world -- real or internet -- courtesy may never be suspended. Of course, my world is not your world, so... peace.

General comment to thread: If I start a thread, I feel some responsibility towards it, so I will revisit regularly and keep myself in the discussion if appropriate. If I ask a question (on my or anyone's thread) I will check back and acknowledge replies with a comment or a "like."

It may be an overreaction, but when someone starts a controversial thread and then disappears, I automatically consider them a troll.

 

[nebulas]

I have been on forums where those 'Thank you' posts are frowned upon. They are seen as spamming for post counts. If the information you are posting is not directly useful information to the OP, then it is not allowed. Hence, the LIKE/THANKS button on many forums now-a-days.

This forum is not like that and saying thanks in a post is welcomed and encouraged but newcomers don't always know that. I prefer the way it is on this forum, personally. I think it allows people to engage more socially, imo.

 

[UncleChimney]

I think it has a lot more to do with society in general. I've talked to my wife about this before and she seems to have no interest in saying please and thank you to me as a way of setting an example for our three young children. I feel as though it is very important for our kids to have manners and "make" them use them when asking me a question, but if I do the same thing when they are asking my wife a question she gets upset with me. We've went rounds over this same topic and nothing has changed.

 

[motabrownie]

I try and type 'Thanks in advance' if I know Im gonna be too busy to come back, log in, and reply. But like others have said, if youre looking for good manners, the internet is the wrong place to look lol

 

[vanillayo]

I do a blanket "thanks everybody" and also do a like on comments that help me or that I like/agree with.

 

[Kropotkin]

I have been on forums where those 'Thank you' posts are frowned upon. They are seen as spamming for post counts. If the information you are posting is not directly useful information to the OP, then it is not allowed. Hence, the LIKE/THANKS button on many forums now-a-days.

Wow.

I'm not an expert on social media or anything, but I've never even heard of a forum that actively discourages politeness and friendly conversation.



What a totally craptastic idea!

 

[classwife]

And I thank you ALL for taking the time to help and answer questions !

Without guidance, so many would be lost