Thanks for the kind words everyone, very much appreciated! i read something on another forum i belong to and it really helped too, so here it is-
Life is unfair, and the trash needs to be taken out
By Joe Hudson
December 12, 2009
Jon and Kate Gosselin of "Jon & Kate Plus 8" have experienced nothing that has not happened to thousands of other couples: They got married, had kids, threw up their hands and called the lawyers. However, the Gosselins pulled down big bucks for that mess.
The rest of us mop the kitchen floor, get the kids to school and make sure the dog has water all without the big bucks. The righteous suffer and Gosselinites prosper. Life is not fair we all know this.
I grew up in a house with only one bathroom and two sisters, so I know something about unfairness and suffering. Most mornings I needed some alone time, but the bathroom door would inevitably be closed. I would bang on the door and Mother would tell me that was rude and to wait my turn as I hopped from one foot to the other trying to avoid sudden relief. Mornings at our house could be tense.
One day, Mother tried socialism. She called us into the kitchen and pointed out that we all had five minutes each for only one bathroom; the bathroom belongs to the people, not an individual. Her eyes were wide and crazed and she waved a big spatula in the air, adding that we would all learn to love one another even if it killed us.
You push through childhood and yearn for the day people will treat you properly. You try to find it in college through academic performances like chemistry class as you explain how an equation showing the oxidation of sodium with air can be mathematically balanced hoping to impress lovely Cathy, who sits beside you in class. She has auburn hair, long legs, brown eyes and full lips. This makes her the most wanted woman in the universe. After class one day, you ask her out to the homecoming football game. She tells you, "I like you as a friend but no, I'm going with someone else. Thanks, you're so sweet."
She walks out of your life.
This loss may cause you to switch from rock 'n' roll music to country songs like "I'm So Lonesome I Could Cry," "Tennessee Whiskey" and "Always On My Mind" and your heart bleeds by the gallon. You also consider medical treatment for your acne.
Then maybe you get a job; work hard, be a team player, but other people are promoted. You instead get a heavier workload, then your furnace dies, your prostate enlarges and your neighbor wins the lottery. You chafe against unfairness.
You reach a fork in life, become bitter or keep reaching out for new experiences; maybe try writing or chinchilla farming. You now know that either way there will be disappointments, some joy and that the trash has to be taken out every day.
Remember that unfairness has broadened your understanding. You can now feel for the masses of people who suffer unrequited love. You've been humbled and appreciate things you did not earn, like sunrise and your child's first words. You will never cut in line and take someone's rightful place. You know how that feels.
So, you bumped into unfairness but you lived through it. Some things you cannot change you make peace with life and try to get more fiber in your diet. Along the way, you buy a house with two-and-a-half baths and have a family. Maybe you write a column and people like it. You're glad you kept reaching out for new experiences.
If you learn that unfairness is something you have to reach over, then you'll start to smile a lot, even when taking out the trash.
Source:
http://www2.statesvi...s-be-taken-out/
