You can do several things to help prevent, not stop entirely if you do something wrong, but prevent it is all.
1) Don't dry burn the coil at all, pulsing on a mech mod to check for hot spots is one thing, but a full on burn cycle, if your ohms are low will damage the grommet as you are getting now.
2) Get yourself a bracing tool for when re-coiling, keeping the brace in until the coil is seated and the legs are tightened up, this stops so many failures you wouldn't believe, especially rebuilding the newer Protank 3 heads
3) Download a couple of essential tools onto your smart phone, Androids I know you got "Vaper's Toolbox", that little app alone can tell you how much wire you will need for the coil itself and how many wraps given wire gauge and diameter of your wrapping/bracing tool
4) Someone mentioned above using Non-Resistance wire for the legs, good suggestion as the only heat is in the resistance wire for the coil, I've done this a couple times with redi-wire which is pre-cut and pre-joined, but to join resistance and non-resistance wire yourself you'll need a wire join welder or make one yourself
Being from your pictures you are using silica, suggested bracing tools you could look at, a paper clip or a #18 Yarn Darner (Yarn Threading needle), wrapping the wire tight, then snugging the wires tight before removing the clip or needle, the silica should expand to fill in the space the needle/clip occupied so you are not choking the wick down like in you pictures above.